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Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – Although we have said that sci…

Although we have said that scientists have largely avoided investigations of human sexuality, leaving this one of the most poorly explored fields in biology,...

Shere Hite – Some women … mentioned that th…

Some women … mentioned that they have a different type of orgasm during ... masturbation than during intercourse .... By this they did not...

Love Sex Intimacy – Even in this modern age it is …

Even in this modern age it is suggested that women are too modest or too embarrassed to talk about sex and orgasm. This is...

Female sexuality is defined by men and their fantasies

Men’s acute arousal ensures that they approach sex with a clear agenda. Women are not aroused, which is why they talk about emotional sensations. [i] Whether in real life or in pornography a woman provides an orifice (mouth, vagina or anus) for a man to ejaculate into. Women rarely demonstrate sexual initiative. For example, they

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Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – … there may be as many as tw…

... there may be as many as two-thirds of the marriages which, ... run into serious disagreement over sexual relationships. In a considerable number,...

Arousal comes from appreciating eroticism

Our ability to become sexually aroused through an appreciation of eroticism is a normal as well as a necessary part of human sexuality. Sex (male arousal and orgasm in particular) leads to family and yet hypocritically, while family is encouraged, sex remains taboo. Young boys learn about orgasm through masturbation because an erect penis is

Learn About Sexuality – In truth very few people have…

In truth, very few people have the necessary intellect, life experience and emotional detachment to understand sexuality. Most people have only prejudices, assumptions and...

Sex education is not just abou…

Sex education is not just about love & romance. It's also about men understanding women's need for non-sexual intimacy.

Other Sources – Newton was one of the first to…

Newton was one of the first to interrogate Nature using… what we now call the ‘scientific method’. In other words he observed the world,...

Ways Women Orgasm – Naturally most women are too e…

Naturally most women are too embarrassed to comment. They conclude that their experiences of sexual arousal must be abnormal. They assume that other more...

How we know that women do not have a sex drive

Women’s dislike of eroticism means that men learn to keep their responses to themselves. Men’s embarrassment over communicating their sexual needs (due to the disgust women express over sexual urges) contributes to the confusion over female sexuality. Women can claim to have a sex drive because men never explain in explicit and graphic detail what

Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – Long-term relationships in the…

Long-term relationships in the heterosexual would probably be less frequent than they are, if there were no social custom or legal constraints to enforce...

Shere Hite – I love an excellent kisser. It…

I love an excellent kisser. It is also important to enjoy it without always having to have intercourse after.

Love Sex Intimacy – It must seem ridiculous to a m…

It must seem ridiculous to a man that a woman is unsure about arousal. Even for a responsive woman, her arousal is never,...

Our biological motivation to enjoy arousal and orgasm

There is a precedent for female masturbation in the animal world. Some female mammals do masturbate but since they do not ejaculate it is difficult to establish that female mammals stimulate themselves to orgasm. Misconception #4: Because of the male experience, it is incorrectly assumed that women have a sex drive to achieve orgasm. Women

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Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – Males on the other hand canno…

Males on the other hand, cannot comprehend why females who have had satisfactory sexual relations should not be aroused by nude portrayals of the...

How to give a woman an orgasm during sex

The suggestion is that for the perfect sex life a woman just needs to find the right man: usually a loving and considerate partner, who will, of course, know how to give her an orgasm. Self-evidently a woman needs a considerate lover if intercourse is to be a love-making act otherwise it is simply rape.

Learn About Sexuality – Wherever someone tries to talk…

Wherever someone tries to talk about sex in public, someone else will say it is inappropriate. The result is that there is no intelligent...

Erotic turn-ons are objects or…

Erotic turn-ons are objects or concepts that cause arousal regardless of any relationship. Women find this difficult to understand.

Other Sources – Vaginal orgasm has no scientif…

Vaginal orgasm has no scientific basis and the term was invented by Freud.

Ways Women Orgasm – Such is our embarrassment over…

Such is our embarrassment over sex that even when a person is advising others about sex we think it improper to ask them to...

Sex drive: a need to ejaculate through intercourse

Male sex drive arises from the build-up of sexual tension (through regular arousal). Men may be able to relieve tension to a degree by masturbating. But ultimately intercourse provides the most satisfying way for men to release their sexual emotions. This is a natural consequence of our reproductive biology. There is no point in men

Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – Most often he prefers the pros…

At all ages ... the highest incidences and frequencies of masturbation are to be found among boys of the college level, and the lowest...

Shere Hite – At this point in my life it’s…

At this point in my life, it's just not really important, and I can't find many men that turn me on enough to want...

Love Sex Intimacy – We assume that people become l…

We assume that people become less sexually active as they age in the same way that they become physically less active. This is not...

Similarities between male and female responsiveness

The similarities between male and female responsiveness include: Mental arousal must always precede physical stimulation; The mind responds to erotic stimuli: concepts or objects; Orgasm is a one-off release followed by a recovery period; Orgasm involves identifying with the penetrating male; The same organ, the erectile phallus, is involved in orgasm; Orgasm is achieved by

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Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – Since the prostate gland and s…

Since the prostate gland and seminal vesicles are only vestigial structures in the female, she does not actually ejaculate.

Clitoral stimulation is not everything

As long ago as the 1950s the clitoris, and not the vagina, was acknowledged to be the origin of female orgasm. So that by the 1960s when Masters and Johnson explained female orgasm from intercourse alone, it was in terms of women finding positions and techniques for sexual intercourse that maximise the indirect clitoral stimulation

Learn About Sexuality – Before men expect more they s…

Before men expect more, they should ask their partners: 'What can I do for you (outside the bedroom) to repay you for the pleasure...

Jane Thomas explains the vagin…

Jane Thomas explains the vagina is a reproductive organ that cannot provide female orgasm.

Other Sources – We women give to a lot of peop…

We women give to a lot of people, but when it comes to our husbands, we often just take. And harp and complain when...

Ways Women Orgasm – Having been brave enough to as…

Having been brave enough to ask personal questions about sex, I have been shocked by just how superior and openly hostile people have been....

Intercourse is an act of mating and impregnation

Sexuality is about the act of mating. Humans do not have sex simply in order to reproduce. We also have sex to enjoy pleasure (recreation) and intimacy, which creates the emotional bonding that keeps couples committed to each other over the years needed to support a family (deferred reproduction). For most animals, a male fertilises

Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – At all social levels men go to…

At all social levels men go to prostitutes because it is simpler to secure a sexual partner commercially than it is to secure a...

Shere Hite – There are times when I feel I’…

There are times when I feel I'm discharging an obligation, like washing the dishes or doing the ironing. Then I feel like a prostitute.

Love Sex Intimacy – If female orgasm is so natural…

If female orgasm is so natural and common why is every woman not an expert? Why does a woman not give herself an orgasm?...

Understanding women’s sexual and emotional needs

Sadly, researchers are often just as impressed with far-fetched accounts of female orgasm as the general public. Academics debate pure conjecture such as female ejaculation (copious quantities of vaginal juices produced by aroused females) based on age-old male fantasies and up-suck of sperm (pelvic contractions supposedly arising from so-called vaginal orgasms) as if they are

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Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – … promiscuity may depend in m…

… promiscuity may depend, in many instances, upon the male’s anticipation of variation in the genital anatomy of the partner, in the techniques which...

Clitoral stimulation

William Masters and Virginia Johnson’s research in the 1960s focused on intercourse but even they acknowledged that the clitoris is the source of female orgasm (NOT the vagina as is often assumed). To explain female orgasm during intercourse, they suggested that the hood of the clitoris is pulled each time the penis thrusts into the

Learn About Sexuality – As long as they get regular se…

As long as they get regular sex, most men are happy. So sex therapy focuses on relationship issues that are important, if a woman...

Men’s belief in female orgasm …

Men's belief in female orgasm acts as a permanent green light. Yet they never wonder why men are always trying to persuade women to...

Other Sources – The vagina… is a muscular tube…

The vagina… is a muscular tube of about 8 cm that… expands to fit any size penis… When your partner initially penetrates you, the...

Ways Women Orgasm – Some people assert confidently…

Some people assert confidently that women orgasm easily during sex. Yet, when I ask for details, the responses are frustratingly vague and defensive.

The story behind the G-spot myth (1982)

In the 1980s, Beverly Whipple and John Perry were teaching Kegel exercises to women with urinary stress incontinence. They identified a patch of tissue that can be felt through the front wall of the vagina , directly behind the pubic bone that they suggested might cause orgasm in some women. They published a book with

Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – Most males see some force to t…

Most males see some force to the argument that variety is attractive in any sort of situation, whether it concerns ... the food...

Shere Hite – Sex is to please him. What I l…

Sex is to please him. What I like is the feeling of security I get when he holds me tight after. It makes me...

Love Sex Intimacy – Most people are confused if yo…

Most people are confused if you ask them to name female erotic turn-ons. They have no idea what you might be referring to. A...

Sexual pleasure: how responsive women reach orgasm

It is often assumed that every woman masturbates just as every man (96%) does. Yet there are no research findings to support this view. Alfred Kinsey found that a few [i] women (20%) masturbate regularly but not necessarily to orgasm. Most of these women only try masturbation for a few years. Kinsey’s research indicated that

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Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – … gluteal contractions may s…

... gluteal contractions may stimulate a flow of blood into the genitalia thereby contributing to the erection of the genital structures.

Orgasm during sex

Unfortunately, modern day sexology is not a science based on facts and logic but more a collection of beliefs and opinions. One expert will claim that all women orgasm by the age of 19; another asserts 30. Some say that clitoral stimulation is needed for orgasm and others that clitoral stimulation is irrelevant to female

Learn About Sexuality – Every year billions of dollars…

Every year billions of dollars are paid to the sex therapists by couples who are frustrated when female orgasm doesn't occur as they think...

Why is sex taboo? Men are cert…

Why is sex taboo? Men are certainly not offended by sex. One way or another, the silent female population has its say.

Other Sources – Most couples who rate their se…

Most couples who rate their sex lives highly say they are proactive in sex. They think about when, where and how they’ll have it...

Ways Women Orgasm – From a woman’s perspective ma…

From a woman's perspective, making effort to be more involved in 'love-making' reduces the sense of uselessness that arises from participating in a sexual...

Rejection of research based on talking to women

The value in using statistical sampling techniques (that attempt to ensure that the sample is representative of the general population), is that the finding can be applied to a much bigger population than the original sample. However, conclusions can only be extended to the population if the research is based on individuals who are selected

Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – … the married males who have t…

… the married males who have the highest total outlets, most of which depend upon high frequencies of marital intercourse, are for every social...

Shere Hite – The overwhelming majority of w…

The overwhelming majority of women answered that sex meant a great deal to them, and the reason almost always given was because it was...

Love Sex Intimacy – In the early years of a relati…

In the early years of a relationship, hopefully passion leaves little room for discussion! And for many couples, sex remains an implicit part of...

Women depend on a lover to stimulate them to orgasm

Everyone applauds the idea that a man should care about his partner’s orgasm. [i] But orgasm is an instinctive response to eroticism that occurs in our own brain not our partner’s. When a couple’s sex life falls apart, therapists focus on issues in the wider relationship rather than discuss sexual techniques. This is because sex

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Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – … there may be as many males…

... there may be as many males as there are females whose breasts are distinctly sensitive.

What if female sexuality truly equalled male sexuality?

Imagine the scenario: a man and a woman facing each other, naked, in a world where men and women have an identical sex drive. So, of course, they are both standing there with an erection. Just to be clear: the man has an erect penis and the woman has an erect clitoris. Would they mutually

Learn About Sexuality – Heterosexual men are confused …

Heterosexual men are confused by references to the clitoris. Their sex drive (to engage in penetrative sex) focuses them on the vagina. Why does...

Men are aroused by erotic stim…

Men are aroused by erotic stimuli (anatomy, fantasies & sexual opportunities) regardless of any relationship. What erotic stimuli arouse women?

Other Sources – What’s the one thing that diff…

What’s the one thing that differentiates good friends from lovers? Sex… Stop having good sex and you stop feeling connected to your partner.

Ways Women Orgasm – Men need sex both physiologic…

Men need sex, both physiologically and emotionally, more than women. Men's relationships with others are not as emotionally intimate as women's tend to be....

Platonic love is just as powerful as sexual love

When sexual performance is discussed, the sexual ego, bravado and general unpleasantness that is so often displayed is due to insecurities. Everyone wants to be admired, to be thought normal and preferably to be a good performer. But orgasm is a personal pleasure. It has nothing to do with providing pleasure for another person. Men

Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – There may be a considerable am…

There may be a considerable amount of intercourse which is had without orgasm for the female ... but failures to achieve climax are almost...

Shere Hite – Touching is the most important…

Touching is the most important part of sex, part of a natural eroticism, being physically in touch with my body and others' bodies.

Love Sex Intimacy – The bravado of women who claim…

The bravado of women who claim to orgasm with a lover, as well as the derision that is poured on women who know that...

Men may get more sex if they are willing to be realistic

Only some men like to offer their partners any form of foreplay. Other men (probably the majority) prefer to head straight for the joys of intercourse.[i] Because men are much more promiscuous than women on average, it is often assumed that all men are promiscuous. Many men think about having sex with various women throughout

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Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – Females… are much less often a…

Females… are much less often attracted by observing the male partner, his genitalia, or other objects associated with the sexual performance.

Lack of arousal during sex

Intimacy with a lover causes me to feel affectionate but I am rarely conscious of any sexual arousal. Whether it’s sex with a partner, or masturbation for that matter, I am usually pretty much stone cold in arousal terms at the start. I might conclude that I am frigid if it were not for the

Learn About Sexuality – There’s nothing a woman can do…

There's nothing a woman can do to make intercourse happen. But if she is attracted to a man, she can indicate her willingness.

Jane Thomas explains how inter…

Jane Thomas explains how interesting it is when you try to talk to women about sex & orgasm!

Other Sources – We’ve got this generation of b…

We’ve got this generation of boys growing up thinking that, you know, women practically faint at the sight of an erection, that women orgasm...

Ways Women Orgasm – After all if men wanted to mar…

After all if men wanted to marry women who were 'good in bed' they would simply trawl the brothels for a woman who was...

The romantic pleasure a woman enjoys from sex

In modern times we talk of sexual partners but in the past, heterosexuals more often talked of lovers. Women do not think of sex in terms of the erotic turn-ons and genital stimulation as men do. Women think of sex in terms of a man’s sexual passion in romantic scenarios. A man’s desire is communicated

Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – The mean frequencies of total …

The mean frequencies of total sexual outlet for the married males are always, at all age levels, higher than the total outlets for single...

Shere Hite – Closeness with another person …

Closeness with another person is more important to me than orgasm (which I can have by myself, if necessary). If I had to choose...

Love Sex Intimacy – Lovemaking causes women to fee…

Lovemaking causes women to feel loved, admired and needed. A woman is reassured by male admiration. An emotional attachment is formed when a man...

Welcome to Love, Sex & Intimacy!

Jane talks about ‘Exploring Sex Play’ with accompanying slides to download! I read a great deal as I was growing up and books often portray ideals rather than reality. Even as a teenager, I had questions about sex. When I had intercourse for the first time, at the age of eighteen, I already knew what

Women’s sexual dysfunction

Although many sources refer to women’s ‘sexual dysfunction’, it is rare to find a definition of what is supposed to be sexually ‘normal’ for women in the first place. Sex involves both reproduction and sexual pleasure. So in reproductive terms, a man could be described as sexually dysfunctional if he cannot impregnate a female (male

I can provide sex education. B…

I can provide sex education. But I cannot make everyone read it. Nor can I make them accept it. Such is the emotional nature...

Women drive the need for dating and romance

Without sex, there may be friendship between adults but there is little physical intimacy. Heterosexual women are dependent on men to provide this sense of connection with another adult. Platonic love is caring and affectionate. Sexual love (or reciprocating sexual love) can be more intensely emotional in the beginning. Women experience this emotional reward initially