JANE: I have been asking women about sex and orgasm for over 20 years. Very few are willing to comment. JANE (cont): There is no consistency in womens orgasm claims. I have concluded that women must be mistaking emotional and sensual feelings for orgasm with a lover. Ruth:I retired from psychosexual work a long time ago and I am afraid I cannot help you. JANE: Women always refer me to someone else or to a book. Why are they so reluctant to talk about their own experiences of sexual pleasure? Why are women so reluctant to comment on sexual topics? JANE (cont): Surely someone like yourself who has had a lifetime of experience of talking to couples about their sex lives, would be able to comment on how women enjoy sexual pleasure with a lover? Ruth: I suggest you find a current member of the institute of psychosexual medicine (look on the website). Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism