Jane presents on ‘Sexual Pleasure’ to the Royal Society of Medicine, London, with speaker notes!
I hope my websites: WaysWomenOrgasm.org, and LearnAboutSexuality.org and LoveSexIntimacy.org indicate my interest in promoting ways for men and women to live together in harmony by understanding each other’s very different emotional needs. Nosper Books is the self-publishing trade name I use for my books.
Nosper is an anagram of the word PERSON. It is deliberate that Nospers are identical and that the item distinguishing them as male or female is trivial. The addition of the ribbon 
or the bow-tie 
changes how we view their capabilities. The point being that gender influences our lives, sometimes for biological reasons, other times for cultural reasons.
As a young woman, I had the impression that men and women were the same. Initially the differences are subtle but they become more apparent as we grow older. It’s possible that we become more vocal about expressing our views over time and more confident in behaving as we are naturally inclined to do. Understanding these fundamental differences in men and women’s emotional needs can help couples in long-term relationships. We feel loved when we receive what we need emotionally. But loving someone is not about satisfying our own needs. We need to give a lover what they need.
Men often enjoy more solitary pursuits and they see their own personal success as core to how others value them. For men, intimacy revolves around their sex life with a lover. Men hope a partner will contribute enthusiastically to their intimate time together: sharing fantasies, adventurous sex play and affection.
Women often enjoy more companionable pursuits and they value their relationships as an essential part of their lives. For women, intimacy involves affectionate companionship. Women hope a partner will contribute enthusiastically to their intimate time together: sharing a sense of humour, conversation and affection.
Men and women cooperate together over marriage and family. But many women dislike any discussion involving references to genital activity outside lovemaking. It is difficult for women to appreciate what sexual pleasure means to men. Sex should be discussed as much as any other topic that is vital to human emotional happiness. We need to learn how the opposite sex experiences intimacy and how men and women’s very different emotional needs are satisfied.
Women’s sexual health
Sexual health includes understanding our sexuality. The aim of my work is to provide evidence that:
(1) Intercourse can never cause female orgasm;
Stimulation that causes orgasm must continue up until orgasm but then cease. Intercourse continues up until male orgasm. No one can time their orgasm to occur simultaneously with another person’s unless they fake their own orgasm. Research shows that women’s orgasm claims have no impact on intercourse frequencies. Intercourse frequencies correlate with male responsiveness.
(2) Clitoral stimulation does not cause orgasm with a lover; and
Despite promotion of the clitoris, heterosexuals’ sex lives continue to be defined in terms of missionary style intercourse. Men focus on penetration and women on lovemaking. Research shows that, for a majority of women, clitoral stimulation (manual or oral) does not cause orgasm with a lover. Women only talk of masturbation or the clitoris if they are making money out of doing so.
(3) Some women orgasm by masturbating alone
Research indicates that female orgasm is most easily achieved by masturbating alone. But on average, women orgasm less commonly and less frequently than men. Women who masturbate to orgasm employ explicit techniques (manual stimulation and erotic fantasies). Orgasm is a woman’s private pleasure, which explains why female orgasm has been such a mystery for so long.
Amnesty International campaign to end Female Genital Mutilation:- FGM comprises all procedures involving partial/total removal of or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons. www.endfgm.eu
Reproductive Rights:- US abortion laws by state In most European countries women have the RIGHT to an abortion in the first 12 weeks:- EXCEPT Ireland (only to save the life of the mother), Poland, Spain, Portugal, Finland & Britain. European abortion laws
Women’s rights – Equality & the Law:- www.fairplayforwomen.com “Gender is often used as a polite term for sex, but they are not the same. Sex is biological. We are all born male or female. Gender is a social construct.” Biological sex
Excerpt from A Hand Full of Cards (ISBN 978-0956-894731)