JANE: Men enjoy erotic turnons. Ivriets: I think my wife should reading this. Thanks Jane! Vernon: It is all about exchange. If either the woman or the man is lying there just waiting on the other, disappointment is virtually guaranteed. You dont get without giving. But you cant give, sometimes, if youre not interested in the other person. Movies are all about our fantasies. Vernon (cont): Real life is never depicted and that means our expectations can get to be unrealistic. One can have sex with just about anyone but a bond with that person is required if the act is to be satisfying, unless, that is, one of the participants happens to be a wellpaid prostitute. JANE: Men dont just hope for sex over the longer term. They hope for a lover who is positively enthusiastic about sex and willing to assist with their arousal. We all know that men find young womens bodies arousing. But it is possible for a man to find other turnons. JANE (cont): Mistresses, for example, are often more experienced women. The attraction for the man is finding a woman who is openminded about engaging on his fantasies and about exploring more adventurous sexual activities. There is a level of sexual intimacy that only comes from knowing a person well. JANE (cont): When men are obsessing about young womens bodies perhaps they should give a thought to what turns women on. Women have to work much harder at their own arousal than men ever do. I try to get men thinking what is the parallel for women? How does a man assist with a womans arousal? An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all