Love Sex Intimacy
Quotations from the three booklets: ‘Women’s Sexual Behaviours & Responses’ (ISBN 978-0956-894717), ‘Sexuality & Sexual Techniques’ (ISBN 978-0956-894724) & ‘Understanding Sexual Response’ (ISBN 978-0956-894762) all by Jane Thomas.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women assume a passive stance in sex, allowing men to provide not…
Women assume a passive stance in sex, allowing men to provide not only the stimulation but also the passion they associate with lovemaking. Men...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women may feel that they would orgasm if foreplay was offered but…
Women may feel that they would orgasm if foreplay was offered but they are not motivated to ask a partner to supply it. Sex...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Intercourse involves stimulation of the vagina while female masturbation focuses on the…
Intercourse involves stimulation of the vagina while female masturbation focuses on the clitoris. If every woman masturbates, why do so few comment on the...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men’s focus on intercourse is not a choice. Men are biologically programmed…
Men's focus on intercourse is not a choice. Men are biologically programmed to ejaculate into a vagina. Otherwise men could enjoy oral or manual...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men are proactive lovers because of their arousal. Men enjoy exploring women’s…
Men are proactive lovers because of their arousal. Men enjoy exploring women's bodies because it is arousing for them. Foreplay existed well before any...
(Love Sex Intimacy) And if women orgasm easily through oral sex, why do men complain…
And if women orgasm easily through oral sex, why do men complain that women seldom return the favour by offering fellatio? But also why...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Consider fellatio as a parallel. No matter how amazing the sensations are…
Consider fellatio as a parallel. No matter how amazing the sensations are for a man, when a lover stimulates his penis orally, the mouth...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men learn from a young age that sex is a topic that…
Men learn from a young age that sex is a topic that is not mentioned in front of women. So many women are offended...
(Love Sex Intimacy) I am challenging modern beliefs about female sexuality, which I believe are…
I am challenging modern beliefs about female sexuality, which I believe are wrong. For example: if women masturbate during sex, why are so few...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Heterosexual men assume that the sensations of being penetrated are equally arousing…
Heterosexual men assume that the sensations of being penetrated are equally arousing as the sensations of penetrating. They don't take into account that intercourse...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sex is done to women. It does not originate from their own…
Sex is done to women. It does not originate from their own responses. So it is highly embarrassing for most women.
(Love Sex Intimacy) The evidence for female responsiveness needs to come from women who can…
The evidence for female responsiveness needs to come from women who can talk confidently about their enjoyment of arousal (a response to erotic stimuli)...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Stimulation of the vagina is associated with a male partner. The clitoris…
Stimulation of the vagina is associated with a male partner. The clitoris is associated with women's stimulation of themselves or other women. Naturally, the...
(Love Sex Intimacy) In fact women are passive receivers of the stimulation men want to…
In fact women are passive receivers of the stimulation men want to provide. Women are passive due to lack of arousal. This is why...
(Love Sex Intimacy) I know we all want a man to think us the sexiest…
I know we all want a man to think us the sexiest thing in the world but it is not helpful to have female...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sexual orientation determines turn-ons (whether we are aroused by the same or…
Sexual orientation determines turn-ons (whether we are aroused by the same or opposite sex) but it should not reasonably affect how we achieve orgasm.
(Love Sex Intimacy) In porn we see women pleasuring a lover and, in turn, being…
In porn we see women pleasuring a lover and, in turn, being pleasured. The pleasuring appears to be mutual. But while male pleasure focuses...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men’s politics is characterised by violent action and women’s by manipulative silence….
Men's politics is characterised by violent action and women's by manipulative silence. But silence proves nothing.
(Love Sex Intimacy) An organ such as the vagina, which is essentially a cavity, could…
An organ such as the vagina, which is essentially a cavity, could never be a sex organ. ... Even the proposal that there is...
(Love Sex Intimacy) We often hear sex educators blaming men for ignoring women’s presumed sexual…
We often hear sex educators blaming men for ignoring women's presumed sexual needs. But why are women so incapable of obtaining their own sexual...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men obsess about female orgasm because it is elusive in reality. Pornography…
Men obsess about female orgasm because it is elusive in reality. Pornography exaggerates female responsiveness to provide turn-ons that assist with male orgasm. After...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women evidently enjoy sensual and intimate activity, through masturbation and with another…
Women evidently enjoy sensual and intimate activity, through masturbation and with another woman, without any need for vaginal penetration.
(Love Sex Intimacy) No one thinks it an odd coincidence that male fantasies should define…
No one thinks it an odd coincidence that male fantasies should define the reality of female responsiveness so precisely. Yet the basis for so-called...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Female orgasm is promoted as if it is a relationship accessory. But…
Female orgasm is promoted as if it is a relationship accessory. But orgasm is a highly specific genital response that arises because we ourselves...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sometimes it is suggested that a woman stimulates herself once the man…
Sometimes it is suggested that a woman stimulates herself once the man has come. This illustrates the inherent contradiction between the stimulation provided by...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Pornography involves portraying male fantasies that help men reach orgasm when they…
Pornography involves portraying male fantasies that help men reach orgasm when they masturbate alone. Nevertheless, sexologists seem to think that porn is a reasonable...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sex manuals suggest that a man should offer foreplay before heading for…
Sex manuals suggest that a man should offer foreplay before heading for his own orgasm through intercourse. But as Kinsey noted decades ago, foreplay...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men cannot accept that without a sex drive, women have no reason…
Men cannot accept that without a sex drive, women have no reason to be remotely interested in sex. Rather than try to convince men...
(Love Sex Intimacy) People are amazed when I question the orgasms actresses are portrayed as…
People are amazed when I question the orgasms actresses are portrayed as having in pornography. They cannot believe that anyone would doubt the fiction....
(Love Sex Intimacy) A man’s willingness to stimulate a woman (even if only through intercourse)…
A man's willingness to stimulate a woman (even if only through intercourse) reassures him that his motivations (because they are aimed at pleasuring his...
(Love Sex Intimacy) For men, all of these activities (intercourse, fellatio and masturbation) involve stimulating…
For men, all of these activities (intercourse, fellatio and masturbation) involve stimulating the penis. The stimulation technique is consistent. The shaft of the penis...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Experts imply that women are happy with a lack of orgasm. Most…
Experts imply that women are happy with a lack of orgasm. Most women are too embarrassed to question. Others don't want to hurt their...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Others find pleasure in these non-reproductive aspects of their sexuality. They enjoy…
Others find pleasure in these non-reproductive aspects of their sexuality. They enjoy fantasy, erotic turn-ons and stimulating themselves to orgasm quite separately from a...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Our sense of sexual inadequacy comes from expectations set by unique individuals….
Our sense of sexual inadequacy comes from expectations set by unique individuals. Yet the very sensationalism of such stories highlights the rarity of women's...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men like to discuss their own enjoyment of eroticism and sexual pleasure…
Men like to discuss their own enjoyment of eroticism and sexual pleasure with a lover. They are also confident to assert that women achieve...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Some people define sex purely in terms of interaction with a lover….
Some people define sex purely in terms of interaction with a lover. They may consider any kind of solitary activity or activity that is...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The suggestion that women should orgasm from intercourse indicates the inherent bias….
The suggestion that women should orgasm from intercourse indicates the inherent bias. Sexual response is instinctive. There is no should about it.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Porno orgasms (those men assume women should have with a lover) involve…
Porno orgasms (those men assume women should have with a lover) involve different anatomy because men provide all the stimulation of a sexual encounter....
(Love Sex Intimacy) For both sexes there is a huge range in responsiveness (frequency with…
For both sexes there is a huge range in responsiveness (frequency with which we orgasm) that defines normal but on average men are up...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Even today so-called female sexual dysfunction continues to be defined in terms…
Even today so-called female sexual dysfunction continues to be defined in terms of a woman's ability, or her willingness, to cooperate with intercourse rather...
(Love Sex Intimacy) No one explains which part of the clitoral organ is stimulated. Most…
No one explains which part of the clitoral organ is stimulated. Most people assume it must be the glans (the only visible part of...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men accept the misconception that women might be able to orgasm through…
Men accept the misconception that women might be able to orgasm through intercourse if stimulated long enough because they want to prolong their own...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Many women limit their sexual experiences to intercourse so they simply assume…
Many women limit their sexual experiences to intercourse so they simply assume that this is when they orgasm. Since they never masturbate, they assume...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The most fundamental belief anyone has about female orgasm is that it…
The most fundamental belief anyone has about female orgasm is that it should occur from intercourse. But the precise mechanism that causes female orgasm...
(Love Sex Intimacy) It seems likely that the less intellectual have more frivolous sexual encounters…
It seems likely that the less intellectual have more frivolous sexual encounters than those who are more considered about their choices. Some men choose...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Misunderstandings about how women achieve orgasm arise because of ignorance of what…
Misunderstandings about how women achieve orgasm arise because of ignorance of what responsiveness involves more than from wilful deceit.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Whenever anyone (a man or a woman) stimulates a woman sexually, they…
Whenever anyone (a man or a woman) stimulates a woman sexually, they tend to stimulate a variety of anatomy. Stimulation is directed to every...
(Love Sex Intimacy) A man’s arousal is not only visible to the naked eye it…
A man's arousal is not only visible to the naked eye it is also easily perceived by a lover because of his shortness of...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Faking represents an implicit cooperation that suits both sexes. Women fake to…
Faking represents an implicit cooperation that suits both sexes. Women fake to obtain male approval. A man's sexual ego is reassured when a woman...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Both heterosexual and lesbian women focus their appreciation of lovemaking (intercourse or…
Both heterosexual and lesbian women focus their appreciation of lovemaking (intercourse or other activities) on the closeness (emotional intimacy) and touching (sensual pleasure) involved...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men assume that a woman is always aroused and willing to engage…
Men assume that a woman is always aroused and willing to engage in intercourse. Yet men will only engage in sexual activity either when...
(Love Sex Intimacy) There is no consistency between women’s orgasm techniques either alone, with a…
There is no consistency between women's orgasm techniques either alone, with a man or with another woman. While male erotic turn-ons are clearly defined...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Factors that affect men’s orgasm frequencies include their age, the age at…
Factors that affect men's orgasm frequencies include their age, the age at which they reached adolescence as well as their level of education.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Emotional bonding is vital to reproduction post conception. Our sexuality has evolved…
Emotional bonding is vital to reproduction post conception. Our sexuality has evolved from a purely reproductive activity into an on-going process that forges the...
(Love Sex Intimacy) My work involves applying basic common sense. I ask questions that reveal…
My work involves applying basic common sense. I ask questions that reveal truths. I question assumptions. Very few people appear to see the need...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women’s success with faking orgasm is perhaps the biggest hoax of all…
Women's success with faking orgasm is perhaps the biggest hoax of all time! To speed up male orgasm, an experienced woman plays along with...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Some women get an ego boost from exhibiting their sexuality. In an…
Some women get an ego boost from exhibiting their sexuality. In an attempt to be more convincing, they try to justify their orgasms (which...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Masturbation involves a woman stimulating anatomy equivalent to the penis (the phallus)….
Masturbation involves a woman stimulating anatomy equivalent to the penis (the phallus). Orgasm involves the erectile sex organ (penis or clitoris). So, by masturbating,...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Stimulation of the clitoris is not sensationally pleasurable. Clitoral stimulation represents a…
Stimulation of the clitoris is not sensationally pleasurable. Clitoral stimulation represents a means to an end (female orgasm) when combined with an intense focus...
(Love Sex Intimacy) It is easy enough to establish that the vagina is inert but…
It is easy enough to establish that the vagina is inert but mere scientific fact will never stop women suggesting that vaginal orgasms exist.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Most people are confused if you ask them to name female erotic…
Most people are confused if you ask them to name female erotic turn-ons. They have no idea what you might be referring to. A...
(Love Sex Intimacy) It is often suggested that women enjoy sex. This can mean many…
It is often suggested that women enjoy sex. This can mean many things. Orgasm is a specific erotic phenomenon that arises as a consequence...
(Love Sex Intimacy) It is not that more realistic sex information is necessarily ignored so…
It is not that more realistic sex information is necessarily ignored so much as that it is simply drowned out.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sexual pleasure is often implied but left to the individual to discover….
Sexual pleasure is often implied but left to the individual to discover. So even today sex education provides the reproductive facts but no explicit...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men’s bravado involves exaggerating the number or variety of their sexual opportunities…
Men's bravado involves exaggerating the number or variety of their sexual opportunities and lovers. Women's bravado involves boasting about orgasm. But their modesty and...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women mistakenly assume that emotional stimuli (such as the sound of a…
Women mistakenly assume that emotional stimuli (such as the sound of a lover's voice, kissing or caressing) cause arousal. But mental arousal depends on...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women often refuse to divulge turn-ons, implying a loyalty to the perceived…
Women often refuse to divulge turn-ons, implying a loyalty to the perceived accomplishment of their lover. They assume (as men do) that orgasm is...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sex experts recommend orgasm techniques to women as if they are infallible….
Sex experts recommend orgasm techniques to women as if they are infallible. No one remarks on the different anatomy but also the very different...
(Love Sex Intimacy) We talk about orgasm as if it is the be all and…
We talk about orgasm as if it is the be all and end all of sex. But if this were the case, we wouldn't...
(Love Sex Intimacy) If female orgasm is so natural and common why is every woman…
If female orgasm is so natural and common why is every woman not an expert? Why does a woman not give herself an orgasm?...
(Love Sex Intimacy) While women often fail to appreciate the importance men place on eroticism,…
While women often fail to appreciate the importance men place on eroticism, men seldom appreciate the importance women place on affection.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Many people, such as agony aunts and journalists in popular magazines, pronounce…
Many people, such as agony aunts and journalists in popular magazines, pronounce on sexuality without having any relevant qualifications in sexology. Such information is...
(Love Sex Intimacy) We’d rather base our sexual knowledge on a concoction of fantasy and…
We'd rather base our sexual knowledge on a concoction of fantasy and ignorance than the research findings. So it's small wonder that both sexes...
(Love Sex Intimacy) I present a definition of what is involved in sexual response. Essentially…
I present a definition of what is involved in sexual response. Essentially an erotic stimulus, a mental trigger, causes the brain to send blood...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Orgasm occurs in the brain. It is not just a question of…
Orgasm occurs in the brain. It is not just a question of physical stimulation. Some form of fantasy is needed.
(Love Sex Intimacy) A man’s sexual emotions involve his sexual drive to engage in penetrative…
A man's sexual emotions involve his sexual drive to engage in penetrative sex and to enjoy the eroticism of being physically intimate with a...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Orgasm ends a man’s ability to engage in sexual activity of any…
Orgasm ends a man's ability to engage in sexual activity of any kind because he loses his erection. But this is a characteristic of...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sexual activity (alone or with a partner) can include psychological (emotional and…
Sexual activity (alone or with a partner) can include psychological (emotional and erotic) and physical (sensual and genital) stimuli that may be delightful but...
(Love Sex Intimacy) We assume that people become less sexually active as they age in…
We assume that people become less sexually active as they age in the same way that they become physically less active. This is not...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women think that being asked to be explicit about orgasm is an…
Women think that being asked to be explicit about orgasm is an infringement of their privacy rights. But orgasm with a lover is supposed...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sex research appears to indicate that many women orgasm both alone and…
Sex research appears to indicate that many women orgasm both alone and with a lover. But all of this research is flawed because there...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Intercourse involves coordinating with a man’s thrusting pace and rhythm while masturbation…
Intercourse involves coordinating with a man's thrusting pace and rhythm while masturbation alone focuses on drumming up mental inspiration. Overall masturbation is worlds apart...
(Love Sex Intimacy) But isn’t it a wild coincidence that women, who boast about orgasm,…
But isn't it a wild coincidence that women, who boast about orgasm, are basically telling men exactly what they want to hear? Not only...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The erectile organs (penis and clitoris) develop from the same anatomy in…
The erectile organs (penis and clitoris) develop from the same anatomy in the foetus called the genital tubercle. The penis and clitoris have crura...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The female external genitalia (clitoris and labia) are anatomically equivalent to the…
The female external genitalia (clitoris and labia) are anatomically equivalent to the male (penis and testicles). They are similarly positioned. The clitoris can be...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Companies sell vibrators to women so we naturally assume that they must…
Companies sell vibrators to women so we naturally assume that they must succeed in using them to masturbate to orgasm. These fashion trends are...
(Love Sex Intimacy) It must seem ridiculous to a man that a woman is unsure…
It must seem ridiculous to a man that a woman is unsure about arousal. Even for a responsive woman, her arousal is never, at...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Female orgasm is not easy and to suggest otherwise trivialises the effort…
Female orgasm is not easy and to suggest otherwise trivialises the effort women's partners make to arouse them.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Any discussion of female sexuality is usually aimed at providing turn-ons for…
Any discussion of female sexuality is usually aimed at providing turn-ons for men rather than being a realistic description of how women truly orgasm.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women get angry and defensive when asked to explain their beliefs about…
Women get angry and defensive when asked to explain their beliefs about how they orgasm. They boast about orgasm by reflecting beliefs about female...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women’s fantasies include taboo themes such as sadism, domination and rape. They…
Women's fantasies include taboo themes such as sadism, domination and rape. They involve unrealistic scenarios with a complex psychological context that can be difficult...
(Love Sex Intimacy) … it is unreasonable to attempt orgasm using stimulation you cannot control….
... it is unreasonable to attempt orgasm using stimulation you cannot control. You need to ensure that stimulation continues up until orgasm. It is...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sex drive is instinctive and biological. It is not easily subdued by…
Sex drive is instinctive and biological. It is not easily subdued by persuasion, by the risk of pregnancy or by a lack of reliable...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Even in this modern age it is suggested that women are too…
Even in this modern age it is suggested that women are too modest or too embarrassed to talk about sex and orgasm. This is...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Why is sexual pleasure taboo? Probably because of the associated exploitation (of…
Why is sexual pleasure taboo? Probably because of the associated exploitation (of women by men) and deceit (perpetrated by women on men). Few people...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women define orgasm in terms of the emotional feelings they experience rather…
Women define orgasm in terms of the emotional feelings they experience rather than eroticism as men do. But orgasm must arise in the same...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The emphasis on clitoral stimulation (as if it is the only factor…
The emphasis on clitoral stimulation (as if it is the only factor in orgasm) is misleading because it ignores the much bigger issue of...
(Love Sex Intimacy) A woman’s sexual emotions involve demonstrating her love by responding to a…
A woman's sexual emotions involve demonstrating her love by responding to a man's desire for intercourse in return for her lover's appreciation, gratitude and...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The timing of orgasm cannot be controlled consciously. It is only a…
The timing of orgasm cannot be controlled consciously. It is only a faked orgasm that can be timed to occur at just the right...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The availability of reliable contraception, such as the pill, has given women…
The availability of reliable contraception, such as the pill, has given women more choice over planning a family but it cannot change how women's...