Ways Women Orgasm
Quotations from ‘Ways Women Orgasm’ (ISBN 978-0956-894700) by Jane Thomas
(Ways Women Orgasm) Romance may cause a woman to be amenable to sex but anyone…
Romance may cause a woman to be amenable to sex but anyone who is familiar with orgasm will know that reaching orgasm involves a...
(Ways Women Orgasm) When girls become women they learn that men’s response to their body…
When girls become women they learn that men's response to their body provides them with a tremendous advantage both in earning easy admiration and...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Presumably, for a fortunate few, the erotic stories describing the overwhelming sexual…
Presumably, for a fortunate few, the erotic stories describing the overwhelming sexual arousal that fictional women have from vaginal penetration are a reality. For...
(Ways Women Orgasm) The aim of Ways Women Orgasm is not to dwell on the…
The aim of Ways Women Orgasm is not to dwell on the difficulties but to accept that they exist and suggest how couples can...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If men want women to be more amenable to sex, then they…
If men want women to be more amenable to sex, then they should take the emphasis off orgasm (both their own and hers) and...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Regardless of her sexual expectations, any woman is more likely to offer…
Regardless of her sexual expectations, any woman is more likely to offer sex when she feels good about the relationship and loving towards her...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Given the popular belief that female arousal and orgasm during sex are…
Given the popular belief that female arousal and orgasm during sex are easily achieved, many women simply assume that they experience these sensations as...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If a woman cannot give herself an orgasm then it is unlikely…
If a woman cannot give herself an orgasm then it is unlikely that someone else will be able to. Sexual arousal originates in the...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If you cannot get turned-on in your mind then it doesn’t matter…
If you cannot get turned-on in your mind then it doesn't matter how much you stimulate your genitals - nothing will happen.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Enjoying sex for life involves continuing to be thrilled by each other’s…
Enjoying sex for life involves continuing to be thrilled by each other's company in a broader sense than just sex. It involves demonstrating affection...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Over time, any couple who cares about their sex life will need…
Over time, any couple who cares about their sex life will need to find new ways of enjoying sex play. This may involve investing...
(Ways Women Orgasm) BUT clitoral stimulation by itself (whether by the woman or her partner)…
BUT clitoral stimulation by itself (whether by the woman or her partner) does not guarantee female orgasm. Why not? Unlike men, most women do...
(Ways Women Orgasm) In fact the link between clitoral stimulation and female orgasm comes NOT…
In fact the link between clitoral stimulation and female orgasm comes NOT from women's experience of sex BUT from female masturbation.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sexual arousal is a mental state that arises when the mind responds…
Sexual arousal is a mental state that arises when the mind responds to PSYCHOLOGICAL stimuli (of an erotic or sexual nature). Sexual arousal is...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Most women are not aiming for orgasm through genital stimulation so they…
Most women are not aiming for orgasm through genital stimulation so they interpret sexual relationships as 'love-making'.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Through masturbation boys learn how to use genital stimulation to bring a…
Through masturbation boys learn how to use genital stimulation to bring a psychological state of sexual arousal to orgasm. Yet, against all logic, it...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Unfortunately the vagina (as part of the birth canal) has very few…
Unfortunately the vagina (as part of the birth canal) has very few nerve endings. Only the clitoris, the female sex organ and source of...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Women are told that orgasm occurs easily and naturally during sex so…
Women are told that orgasm occurs easily and naturally during sex so many believe that they orgasm when, in fact, they don't.
(Ways Women Orgasm) The degree to which we are able to enjoy our sexuality depends…
The degree to which we are able to enjoy our sexuality depends on the balance between our desire to enjoy sexual pleasure and our...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Female sexuality is often defined in terms of a woman’s attractiveness to…
Female sexuality is often defined in terms of a woman's attractiveness to men rather than her own true state of sexual arousal. It is...
(Ways Women Orgasm) The phrase ‘orgasm techniques’ sounds fancy but only means getting turned-on and…
The phrase 'orgasm techniques' sounds fancy but only means getting turned-on and then knowing how to orgasm by stimulating our genitals. Men also use...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If a couple has some understanding of the different rewards that men…
If a couple has some understanding of the different rewards that men and women obtain from sex, they can make sure that there is...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Whatever taunts are thrown out by men looking for a frivolous lay,…
Whatever taunts are thrown out by men looking for a frivolous lay, in the longer term men respect a more picky woman.
(Ways Women Orgasm) A man tends to assume that physical intimacy is a given as…
A man tends to assume that physical intimacy is a given as soon as a woman shows him any affection. A woman needs time...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Real female orgasms involve the release of sexual emotions not romantic feelings….
Real female orgasms involve the release of sexual emotions not romantic feelings. So it does not matter how much you love your partner, orgasm...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Inevitably there must be some women who are sexually insatiable and some…
Inevitably there must be some women who are sexually insatiable and some men who are unmoved by sex but these individuals do not represent...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Most women never talk about lost sexual opportunities. They talk about commitment…
Most women never talk about lost sexual opportunities. They talk about commitment and trust. This enormous gap between the sexes means that most women...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Many people describe their sex life, including evidence of female arousal, as…
Many people describe their sex life, including evidence of female arousal, as if it came straight out of erotic fiction. I have come to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) I had questions from the very first time I had sex but…
I had questions from the very first time I had sex but there was no one to ask. Years later when I tried to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) In fact, there is no intentional campaign to disseminate misinformation but simply…
In fact, there is no intentional campaign to disseminate misinformation but simply a lack of understanding in an intensely personal area of our lives.
(Ways Women Orgasm) All those magazine articles proposing a million ways to give a woman…
All those magazine articles proposing a million ways to give a woman a mind-blowing orgasm sound very promising but why are they needed in...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Why do adults so often assume that they know everything about sex…
Why do adults so often assume that they know everything about sex when most people have never even read a sex manual?
(Ways Women Orgasm) Naturally there is distrust between women who suspect that those, who claim…
Naturally there is distrust between women who suspect that those, who claim to be sensationally orgasmic, are simply reacting to men's desire for a...
(Ways Women Orgasm) It is important to differentiate between what women say and what women…
It is important to differentiate between what women say and what women do. Women often stand to gain by professing an enthusiasm for sex.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sex does not stand alone in a relationship and in long-term sexual…
Sex does not stand alone in a relationship and in long-term sexual relationships couples need to invest in quality time together.
(Ways Women Orgasm) A woman can enjoy many aspects of her sexual relationship with a…
A woman can enjoy many aspects of her sexual relationship with a lover, such as sharing the sensual pleasures and emotional intimacies of sex,...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Whereas men use EROTIC IMAGES during masturbation, women use EROTIC STORIES (involving…
Whereas men use EROTIC IMAGES during masturbation, women use EROTIC STORIES (involving psychological and sexually explicit scenarios) to achieve the levels of mental arousal...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Ways Women Orgasm has one key aim: to highlight just how few…
Ways Women Orgasm has one key aim: to highlight just how few women are confident about discussing orgasm in any context and how even...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Pleasuring a woman is more likely to involve a man using his…
Pleasuring a woman is more likely to involve a man using his hands during sex than his penis. Pleasurable touching includes sensitive stroking, gentle...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Good sex relies on the willingness of both partners to invest effort…
Good sex relies on the willingness of both partners to invest effort in open communication and contemplating new ideas.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Genital stimulation only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused.
Genital stimulation only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused.
(Ways Women Orgasm) If the answer to achieving female orgasm were as simple as providing…
If the answer to achieving female orgasm were as simple as providing PHYSICAL stimulation, there wouldn't be a problem in the first place. After...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Clitoral stimulation is not everything. After all, our ability to reach orgasm…
Clitoral stimulation is not everything. After all, our ability to reach orgasm ultimately depends on what happens in the brain. Yet we rarely acknowledge...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If female masturbation were common more women would empathise with men’s use…
If female masturbation were common more women would empathise with men's use of pornography because they would understand that anyone who masturbates needs to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sometimes it is even suggested that there is some mysterious disadvantage to…
Sometimes it is even suggested that there is some mysterious disadvantage to female masturbation. It's not that women who do not masturbate have more...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Many women dislike the eroticism that leads to sexual arousal and so…
Many women dislike the eroticism that leads to sexual arousal and so they are offended by the suggestion that a woman might need to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) A popular suggestion is that a woman needs a truly loving partner…
A popular suggestion is that a woman needs a truly loving partner who knows how to 'give a woman an orgasm'. Wouldn't that be...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Guilt about sexual fantasies is misplaced because our ability to enjoy our…
Guilt about sexual fantasies is misplaced because our ability to enjoy our own sexual arousal is part of the human experience. Such feelings occur...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Teenage girls should never feel bulldozed into sex by the popular view…
Teenage girls should never feel bulldozed into sex by the popular view that sex is always easily pleasurable for women. True sexual liberation means...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sex is relatively straightforward in the first 10 years or so. In…
Sex is relatively straightforward in the first 10 years or so. In long-term relationships, sex can become limited in imagination and spontaneity, partly through...
(Ways Women Orgasm) It is easy for a woman to pleasure a man and the…
It is easy for a woman to pleasure a man and the fantasy leads us to assume that it ought to work the other...
(Ways Women Orgasm) I had honestly never considered masturbation to be a legitimate part of…
I had honestly never considered masturbation to be a legitimate part of sex. Masturbation was a mechanism for assisting me in getting to sleep...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sex is much, much more important (both emotionally and physiologically) to most…
Sex is much, much more important (both emotionally and physiologically) to most men than it is to women. Conversely men are less motivated by...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Men have evolved a desire for penetration above all else because it…
Men have evolved a desire for penetration above all else because it leads to reproduction. Equally, most women have little desire to masturbate and...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Some people assert confidently that women orgasm easily during sex. Yet, when…
Some people assert confidently that women orgasm easily during sex. Yet, when I ask for details, the responses are frustratingly vague and defensive.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Self-evidently there are ‘responsible’ aspects of sex as well as the ‘pleasurable’…
Self-evidently there are 'responsible' aspects of sex as well as the 'pleasurable' but sexual ignorance is of no use to anyone.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Even when experts acknowledge that women do not orgasm during sex, they…
Even when experts acknowledge that women do not orgasm during sex, they seem oblivious to the relationship issue. Women may accept that sex doesn't...
(Ways Women Orgasm) In fact, a sexually demanding partner can be a turn-off for a…
In fact, a sexually demanding partner can be a turn-off for a man. Simply put, men prefer to be the ones chasing women rather...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Ways Women Orgasm is for couples who want to share ideas on…
Ways Women Orgasm is for couples who want to share ideas on enjoying sexual pleasure together, within the context of a healthy relationship and...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If sex provides men and women with equal pleasure, why do women…
If sex provides men and women with equal pleasure, why do women so often want to obtain a financial advantage from their sexual relationships...
(Ways Women Orgasm) During masturbation men use erotic images (usually the naked body and sexual…
During masturbation men use erotic images (usually the naked body and sexual attributes of a sexual partner) and women use erotic scenarios (usually stories...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Women only learn over time that responding as a lover encourages the…
Women only learn over time that responding as a lover encourages the male orgasm that nearly always ends sexual activity between a man and...
(Ways Women Orgasm) In the long run, most of us find that having sex with…
In the long run, most of us find that having sex with someone we know and love adds something special to the experience. But...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Having been brave enough to ask personal questions about sex, I have…
Having been brave enough to ask personal questions about sex, I have been shocked by just how superior and openly hostile people have been....
(Ways Women Orgasm) I came to realise that the eroticism and sex play that many…
I came to realise that the eroticism and sex play that many men hope for is often based on situations where women are being...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Forget the bluffers! What matters is making the most of our own…
Forget the bluffers! What matters is making the most of our own experiences whether we describe them as orgasmic or not.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Surrounded by unrealistic portrayals of female sexuality in the media, women often…
Surrounded by unrealistic portrayals of female sexuality in the media, women often conclude that they are abnormal when they are, in fact, facing a...
(Ways Women Orgasm) When you have family, insist on some privacy in the bedroom early…
When you have family, insist on some privacy in the bedroom early on and be prepared to arrange and pay for regular evenings out...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Many women see sex as an emotional and loving experience. Either they…
Many women see sex as an emotional and loving experience. Either they have no expectation for orgasm or they assume that their loving emotions...
(Ways Women Orgasm) A man’s arousal and orgasm are pretty much a given during sex….
A man's arousal and orgasm are pretty much a given during sex. But a woman can take part in sexual activity without ever becoming...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Men hope a lover will enhance their sexual arousal over the longer…
Men hope a lover will enhance their sexual arousal over the longer term. So some women do explore sexual pleasure because, like myself, they...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Men may have sex constantly on the brain but a woman’s mind…
Men may have sex constantly on the brain but a woman's mind does not tend to dwell on her genitals (or anyone else's!) during...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Such is our embarrassment over sex that even when a person is…
Such is our embarrassment over sex that even when a person is advising others about sex we think it improper to ask them to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Women might talk about feeling horny but this is more likely to…
Women might talk about feeling horny but this is more likely to indicate that they are amenable to sex than that they are just...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Therapists conclude that since other women say nothing they must be happy…
Therapists conclude that since other women say nothing they must be happy with sex. There is little acknowledgement of just how embarrassed most people...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Be ready to acknowledge the effort your partner makes for your benefit…
Be ready to acknowledge the effort your partner makes for your benefit by offering sex and be ready to give her some space from...
(Ways Women Orgasm) What is confusing, for women who masturbate, is that clitoral stimulation can…
What is confusing, for women who masturbate, is that clitoral stimulation can only lead to orgasm once a woman has achieved the necessary psychological...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Despite contraception, sex still involves a risk of pregnancy, sexual disease and…
Despite contraception, sex still involves a risk of pregnancy, sexual disease and much emotional turmoil(!). So we promote the link between sex and love...
(Ways Women Orgasm) ‘How do women become sufficiently aroused during sex to enable them to…
'How do women become sufficiently aroused during sex to enable them to orgasm?' After meeting with defensiveness and incomprehension over my concerns about orgasm,...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Even though from the very first time, I realised that sex was…
Even though from the very first time, I realised that sex was for the enjoyment of the men in my life, I have been...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Naturally most women are too embarrassed to comment. They conclude that their…
Naturally most women are too embarrassed to comment. They conclude that their experiences of sexual arousal must be abnormal. They assume that other more...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Women make better lovers than men because they can put aside their…
Women make better lovers than men because they can put aside their own sexual arousal and focus wholeheartedly on pleasuring a man.
(Ways Women Orgasm) She will not want to ‘make love’ to you if she is…
She will not want to 'make love' to you if she is angry or exhausted. You can't expect her to be amenable in bed...
(Ways Women Orgasm) It’s a shame that some women are so sensitive to men’s sexual…
It's a shame that some women are so sensitive to men's sexual remarks, which are more often than not intended as a compliment. The...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Perhaps it is as self evident to women that relationships are about…
Perhaps it is as self evident to women that relationships are about companionship as it is to men that they are about physical intimacy....
(Ways Women Orgasm) I also question not only WHY but also HOW exactly is a…
I also question not only WHY but also HOW exactly is a man supposed to give a woman an orgasm? Isn't this patronising towards...
(Ways Women Orgasm) I always enjoyed sharing physical intimacy with a lover but this is…
I always enjoyed sharing physical intimacy with a lover but this is very different to achieving my own sexual arousal. I always knew that...
(Ways Women Orgasm) So even a woman who masturbates does not necessarily consider stimulating her…
So even a woman who masturbates does not necessarily consider stimulating her clitoris during sex with a partner simply because she is not MENTALLY...
(Ways Women Orgasm) When a man is stimulated sexually by a partner he finds it…
When a man is stimulated sexually by a partner he finds it difficult to avoid becoming aroused. Similarly, if a woman's response to penile...
(Ways Women Orgasm) I, for one, was bitterly disappointed when sex did not deliver the…
I, for one, was bitterly disappointed when sex did not deliver the easy arousal portrayed in erotic fiction. I also could not believe that...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Be the devoted admirer: charming, companionable and have a laugh together. For…
Be the devoted admirer: charming, companionable and have a laugh together. For a woman to be amenable to sex she needs to feel good...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Some women refer to ‘making love’ because the term more accurately describes…
Some women refer to 'making love' because the term more accurately describes their motives in terms of loving emotions rather than as an explicit...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Providing girls with information about their sexuality is an important part of…
Providing girls with information about their sexuality is an important part of giving women the confidence to stand up for what they want in...
(Ways Women Orgasm) By talking to women in everyday life I learned that my ‘problem’…
By talking to women in everyday life I learned that my 'problem' was that my expectations were set too high. ... At best, other...
(Ways Women Orgasm) For men to enjoy sex they need to feed their sexual fantasies,…
For men to enjoy sex they need to feed their sexual fantasies, which are most effective when based on their real sex life. Hence,...
(Ways Women Orgasm) One disadvantage of masturbation and learning how to give yourself an orgasm…
One disadvantage of masturbation and learning how to give yourself an orgasm early on in life is that your expectation is set much higher...
(Ways Women Orgasm) After puberty, men’s sexual reaction to nudity is so strong that they…
After puberty, men's sexual reaction to nudity is so strong that they have new associations with genitals. For women, the connection with going to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sex remains a highly personal and embarrassing topic for most people. I…
Sex remains a highly personal and embarrassing topic for most people. I hope that my efforts will save other couples some of the difficulties...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Young women often don’t know how to orgasm and why should they?…
Young women often don't know how to orgasm and why should they? There are few sources of information to help younger women learn how...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Any woman brave enough to question is labelled ‘sexually dysfunctional’ and this…
Any woman brave enough to question is labelled 'sexually dysfunctional' and this humiliation alone is enough to silence most people.