(Shere Hite) Often I resent the fact that my husband limits most of his…
Often I resent the fact that my husband limits most of his kissing to sex-resulting situations.
(Shere Hite) Most men have fucked me with a minimum of foreplay, have been…
Most men have fucked me with a minimum of foreplay, have been reluctant to touch me (not from repulsion just lack of interest), and...
(Shere Hite) Waiting for the Right Man to make us orgasm is like waiting…
Waiting for the Right Man to make us orgasm is like waiting for the prince to come.
(Shere Hite) To assume that intercourse is the basic expression of female sexuality, during…
To assume that intercourse is the basic expression of female sexuality, during which women should orgasm, and then to analyze women’s ‘responses’ to intercourse...
(Shere Hite) Eleven point six percent of the women in this study never orgasmed,…
Eleven point six percent of the women in this study never orgasmed, and most of them also never masturbated.
(Shere Hite) Physically it (intercourse) is slightly pleasant, but boring, because it lasts too…
Physically it (intercourse) is slightly pleasant, but boring, because it lasts too long and never brings me to orgasm.
(Shere Hite) I don’t enjoy masturbating and have never reached orgasm when doing it….
I don’t enjoy masturbating and have never reached orgasm when doing it. Every six months to a year or so, I will rather idly...
(Shere Hite) Whichever you prefer is a personal decision and a matter of temperament…
Whichever you prefer is a personal decision and a matter of temperament - whether you define pleasure as desire or its satisfaction. Is the...
(Shere Hite) As the feminist group the Redstockings put it, for many women marriage…
As the feminist group the Redstockings put it, for many women marriage is one of the few forms of employment that is readily available.
(Shere Hite) We have arrived at a point in our thinking as a society…
We have arrived at a point in our thinking as a society where it has become acceptable for women to enjoy sex, as long...
(Shere Hite) I think I have sex almost always to consummate a bond, to…
I think I have sex almost always to consummate a bond, to develop and perpetuate closeness.
(Shere Hite) More than anything else, I associate sex with anxiety, fear of failure,…
More than anything else, I associate sex with anxiety, fear of failure, of coming too soon, of being impotent, of being laughed at, compared,...
(Shere Hite) I’ve tried everything, but I’ve never had one.
I’ve tried everything, but I’ve never had one.
(Shere Hite) The fact that I cannot come during intercourse must mean that I…
The fact that I cannot come during intercourse must mean that I do not like it, or have a shame or fear of it,...
(Shere Hite) Men certainly have control of their own stimulation to orgasm: during intercourse…
Men certainly have control of their own stimulation to orgasm: during intercourse they move and thrust in ways that are best for them to...
(Shere Hite) I would like to know more about sex, but most of the…
I would like to know more about sex, but most of the books I have read are not very revealing. They don’t answer the...
(Shere Hite) It would also seem as if there is a definite break between…
It would also seem as if there is a definite break between sensuality (diffuse, non-focused physical feeling), and sexuality (drive toward orgasm), and that...
(Shere Hite) The women who had orgasm during intercourse were usually those who, in…
The women who had orgasm during intercourse were usually those who, in a sense, did it themselves. They did not expect to ‘receive’ orgasm...
(Shere Hite) I haven’t gotten away from the feeling that I’m ‘dirty’ ‘down there’.
I haven’t gotten away from the feeling that I’m ‘dirty’ ‘down there’.
(Shere Hite) The penis … has two roots known as crura which play an…
The penis ... has two roots known as crura which play an essential role in its functioning. During sexual excitation these crura become engorged...
(Shere Hite) The most frequent reason men gave for having sex outside their marriages…
The most frequent reason men gave for having sex outside their marriages was sexual rejection by their wives, or the boring nature of repeated...
(Shere Hite) Probably, in many cases, no regular orgasm has occurred; perhaps at other…
Probably, in many cases, no regular orgasm has occurred; perhaps at other times there was an orgasm but the sensations were dulled or diffused...
(Shere Hite) I love physical affection and touching but find that this inevitably leads…
I love physical affection and touching but find that this inevitably leads to sexual desire on the part of men. Therefore I refrain from...
(Shere Hite) I like to prolong my states of arousal until the desire for…
I like to prolong my states of arousal until the desire for orgasm is irresistible. Unfortunately, many men are too impatient to allow this.
(Shere Hite) Of course, masturbating to orgasm does not automatically enable you to orgasm…
Of course, masturbating to orgasm does not automatically enable you to orgasm during intercourse. There is no mystical connection between the two - just...
(Shere Hite) Women don’t realize that men do all the work, are expected to…
Women don’t realize that men do all the work, are expected to know how to do everything well, and are expected to read their...
(Shere Hite) Sometimes it builds a man’s ego to let him think he’s successful….
Sometimes it builds a man’s ego to let him think he’s successful. Therefore if I really like a man and want him to think...
(Shere Hite) It does make me feel strange, that after all the stimulation I…
It does make me feel strange, that after all the stimulation I still can’t reach an orgasm. I have often thought that I’m trying...
(Shere Hite) … there was no correlation with frequency of orgasm: women who did…
... there was no correlation with frequency of orgasm: women who did not orgasm with their partners were just as likely to say they...
(Shere Hite) We have had lots of sex without me orgasming – sometimes it’s…
We have had lots of sex without me orgasming - sometimes it’s very frustrating and I’m upset but I love him and I keep...
(Shere Hite) There is nothing wrong with saying that the movement of the clitoral…
There is nothing wrong with saying that the movement of the clitoral hood over the clitoris is what is responsible for orgasm; this is...
(Shere Hite) Freud was the founding father of vaginal orgasm. He theorized that the…
Freud was the founding father of vaginal orgasm. He theorized that the clitoral orgasm (orgasm caused by clitoral stimulation) was adolescent and that, upon...
(Shere Hite) Sex with a woman for me (as a woman) has involved kissing,…
Sex with a woman for me (as a woman) has involved kissing, feeling one another completely, and basically humping - pressing mound of Venus...
(Shere Hite) However, since female orgasm is not necessary during intercourse for reproduction to…
However, since female orgasm is not necessary during intercourse for reproduction to occur, why should nature provide stimulation for female orgasm during intercourse?
(Shere Hite) To consider all non-reproductive sexual contact ‘an error of nature’ is a…
To consider all non-reproductive sexual contact ‘an error of nature’ is a very narrow view.
(Shere Hite) Unfortunately, the idea that sex is necessary for health has become big…
Unfortunately, the idea that sex is necessary for health has become big business.
(Shere Hite) Sometimes I like fellatio although I’m not wild about swallowing semen …
Sometimes I like fellatio although I’m not wild about swallowing semen ...
(Shere Hite) At this point in my life, it’s just not really important, and…
At this point in my life, it’s just not really important, and I can’t find many men that turn me on enough to want...
(Shere Hite) The idea that if we would ‘just relax and let go’ during…
The idea that if we would ‘just relax and let go’ during intercourse we would automatically have an orgasm is, of course, based on...
(Shere Hite) Only approximately 30 percent of the women in this study could orgasm…
Only approximately 30 percent of the women in this study could orgasm regularly from intercourse - that is, could have an orgasm during intercourse...
(Shere Hite) I can’t say I liked answering these questions, I would die of…
I can’t say I liked answering these questions, I would die of embarrassment to do so in person.
(Shere Hite) Men see other men as the arbiters of what is real, the…
Men see other men as the arbiters of what is real, the guardians of wisdom, the holders and wielders of power.
(Shere Hite) In fact, even women who did orgasm during intercourse most frequently gave…
In fact, even women who did orgasm during intercourse most frequently gave affection and closeness as their basic reason for liking intercourse, rarely mentioning...
(Shere Hite) But as time passed, her devotion to me (her male partner) evolved…
But as time passed, her devotion to me (her male partner) evolved into an emotional dependence which scared me. I began to feel I...
(Shere Hite) … if a man’s desire for intercourse is not shared by a…
... if a man’s desire for intercourse is not shared by a woman, there is no reason why masturbation or other stimulation will not...
(Shere Hite) Many men have a completely genital approach to sex. Sex play is…
Many men have a completely genital approach to sex. Sex play is not play to them, but a series of mechanical manoeuvres to get...
(Shere Hite) I used to (fake orgasm), and then stopped, and found that men…
I used to (fake orgasm), and then stopped, and found that men didn’t seem to care!
(Shere Hite) Despite this, a majority of women stated flatly that, no matter what…
Despite this, a majority of women stated flatly that, no matter what the difference in feeling might be, they would always prefer orgasm during...
(Shere Hite) In short, the only real difference between men’s and women’s erections is…
In short, the only real difference between men’s and women’s erections is that men’s are on the outside of their bodies, while women’s are...
(Shere Hite) To orgasm is fine as long as semen does not end up…
To orgasm is fine as long as semen does not end up in my mouth.
(Shere Hite) But the point still must be: don’t wait for the Right Man…
But the point still must be: don’t wait for the Right Man to be dependent on, but create your own good situation - which...
(Shere Hite) Kinsey went on to explain several times that the basic problem for…
Kinsey went on to explain several times that the basic problem for women was not an inability to orgasm, but only that ‘a substantial...
(Shere Hite) I used to (fake), when my husband had a complex about sex…
I used to (fake), when my husband had a complex about sex and a marriage counsellor told me I should build up his ego.
(Shere Hite) Orgasm during intercourse is more of a diffused total mental and physical…
Orgasm during intercourse is more of a diffused total mental and physical trip, whereas a clitoral orgasm involves a tremendous sense of physical pleasure...
(Shere Hite) … for a woman to orgasm during intercourse, she must adapt her…
... for a woman to orgasm during intercourse, she must adapt her body to inadequate stimulation, and so it is essential that she work...
(Shere Hite) I think women’s genitals are about as lovely as something on this…
I think women’s genitals are about as lovely as something on this earth can get. I love the way they taste and smell.
(Shere Hite) Many women had spent rather long periods of time in their lives…
Many women had spent rather long periods of time in their lives without having sex with a partner - and sometimes without even masturbating...
(Shere Hite) Anyone who is economically and legally dependent on another person, as women…
Anyone who is economically and legally dependent on another person, as women traditionally have been, and in the majority of cases still are, is...
(Shere Hite) I feel that all people regardless of age and experience have to…
I feel that all people regardless of age and experience have to be more open and honest and learn from each other. Some young...
(Shere Hite) During eighteen years of marriage, we did everything but stand on our…
During eighteen years of marriage, we did everything but stand on our heads, but there were few orgasms for me ... Masturbation has always...
(Shere Hite) Sex in our society is an extremely important way of being close…
Sex in our society is an extremely important way of being close - almost the only way we can be really physically or even...
(Shere Hite) I become very aroused by caressing my female lover’s breasts and clitoris…
I become very aroused by caressing my female lover’s breasts and clitoris and vagina ... Arousal (and orgasm) is a very emotional experience because...
(Shere Hite) First of all, Masters and Johnson chose their basic study population only…
First of all, Masters and Johnson chose their basic study population only from women who did have orgasm from intercourse; all others were eliminated.
(Shere Hite) If you want a good orgasm, you can masturbate. The whole reason…
If you want a good orgasm, you can masturbate. The whole reason you make love with someone is to share the closeness and warmth...
(Shere Hite) The question should not be: Why aren’t woman having orgasms from intercourse?…
The question should not be: Why aren’t woman having orgasms from intercourse? But, rather: Why have we insisted women should orgasm from intercourse?
(Shere Hite) If I could feel my lover was more involved emotionally, if he…
If I could feel my lover was more involved emotionally, if he made me feel secure, then I could come.
(Shere Hite) The woman-in-the-street (most of us) still has the impression that it is…
The woman-in-the-street (most of us) still has the impression that it is ‘normal’ to orgasm from male thrusting.
(Shere Hite) I think most of the writers I’ve read don’t understand women at…
I think most of the writers I’ve read don’t understand women at all, sexually. They regard sex as an activity engaged in by two...
(Shere Hite) Indiscriminate sex is irresponsible. Loving your body and your feelings is beautiful.
Indiscriminate sex is irresponsible. Loving your body and your feelings is beautiful.
(Shere Hite) Naturally intercourse is most appealing on a physical basis (male). It’s a…
Naturally intercourse is most appealing on a physical basis (male). It’s a relief of the pent-up sexual drive.
(Shere Hite) Closely linked with the traditional pressure on men to maintain long erection…
Closely linked with the traditional pressure on men to maintain long erection and thrusting during intercourse is the idea that it is a man’s...
(Shere Hite) 98 percent of the women … said they would like more verbal…
98 percent of the women ... said they would like more verbal closeness with the men they love; they want the men in their...
(Shere Hite) Anything that helps women define their own sexuality on their own terms,…
Anything that helps women define their own sexuality on their own terms, and thus have more control over their own lives, is something I...
(Shere Hite) Perhaps it is important here to say something about what most women…
Perhaps it is important here to say something about what most women mean when they say that stimulate their clitoris. In most cases they...
(Shere Hite) Clearly, if a woman is financially dependent on a man, she is…
Clearly, if a woman is financially dependent on a man, she is not is a good position to demand equality in bed.
(Shere Hite) During intercourse I feel secure and wanted – whole, warm, loved, womanly.
During intercourse I feel secure and wanted - whole, warm, loved, womanly.
(Shere Hite) Again, the penis contains within its shaft two … corpora cavernosa, which…
Again, the penis contains within its shaft two ... corpora cavernosa, which fill with blood during sexual excitation ... The female ... has a...
(Shere Hite) I really believe my clitoris may not be physically positioned quite right…
I really believe my clitoris may not be physically positioned quite right because I almost never can find a position for stimulating it while...
(Shere Hite) I never fake orgasm. I am angry with other women who do,…
I never fake orgasm. I am angry with other women who do, because then men can tell me that I am incapable sexually, because...
(Shere Hite) To me orgasms have nothing to do with regular male/female sex. Orgasm…
To me orgasms have nothing to do with regular male/female sex. Orgasm is not necessary because I can give them to myself in masturbation.
(Shere Hite) One of the most important themes of men’s replies is their desire…
One of the most important themes of men’s replies is their desire to sometimes be the receiver during sex, to feel wanted, acted on,...
(Shere Hite) I (male) think it’s specifically penetration and thrusting that give penis-vagina intercourse…
I (male) think it’s specifically penetration and thrusting that give penis-vagina intercourse its aura of conquest and abuse, and that expresses the male cliché...
(Shere Hite) … the basic value of sex and intercourse for women is closeness…
... the basic value of sex and intercourse for women is closeness and affection.
(Shere Hite) I enjoy fellatio but women are usually so afraid of it or…
I enjoy fellatio but women are usually so afraid of it or don’t want to do it or they are afraid you’ll come in...
(Shere Hite) My affairs, unknown to my wife, had a good effect on me…
My affairs, unknown to my wife, had a good effect on me - a nice change, and increased my self-esteem in that other women...
(Shere Hite) There is a great deal of confusion here on the part of…
There is a great deal of confusion here on the part of many men who feel that having intercourse to orgasm with a woman...
(Shere Hite) Masturbation is another form of sex and should be seen as such.
Masturbation is another form of sex and should be seen as such.
(Shere Hite) … even if a man has a strong physical desire for orgasm…
... even if a man has a strong physical desire for orgasm - an erection, for example - there is nothing in nature, nothing...
(Shere Hite) Small amount of foreplay, then intercourse till he comes, The End.
Small amount of foreplay, then intercourse till he comes, The End.
(Shere Hite) During intercourse I (female) feel very close and somehow entangled and united…
During intercourse I (female) feel very close and somehow entangled and united with another human being, which I cannot realize in any other way.
(Shere Hite) It would seem that to analyze what is probably an unusual group…
It would seem that to analyze what is probably an unusual group of women, and then to generalize from these women, is a mistake.
(Shere Hite) Men often feel very angry with women who never initiate sex and…
Men often feel very angry with women who never initiate sex and too often don’t want sex. But this anger has a tone of...
(Shere Hite) Emotional orgasm is a feeling of love and communion with another human…
Emotional orgasm is a feeling of love and communion with another human being that reaches a peak, a great welling up of intensity of...
(Shere Hite) I wish making love were more sensuous touching and less direct genital…
I wish making love were more sensuous touching and less direct genital activity.
(Shere Hite) Saying no to sex has become, for many women, a ways of…
Saying no to sex has become, for many women, a ways of maintaining dignity and integrity, and some control over their own identity.
(Shere Hite) Definitely (I fake orgasm) – some men want to fuck me till…
Definitely (I fake orgasm) - some men want to fuck me till I come or drop dead.
(Shere Hite) Yes, arousal is more important than orgasm. It was this that sustained…
Yes, arousal is more important than orgasm. It was this that sustained me through all the sexual encounters I had that didn’t end in...
(Shere Hite) … masturbation increases your ability to orgasm in general, and also your…
... masturbation increases your ability to orgasm in general, and also your ability to orgasm during intercourse.
(Shere Hite) Men are uninformed. They must all read the same book. Of course,…
Men are uninformed. They must all read the same book. Of course, passivity in women contributes to their miseducation.