Learn About Sexuality
Quotations from ‘Learn About Sexuality’ (ISBN 978-0956-894748) by Jane Thomas
(Learn About Sexuality) If intercourse caused female orgasm, there wouldn’t be a mystery that needed…
If intercourse caused female orgasm, there wouldn't be a mystery that needed researching in the first place.
(Learn About Sexuality) Sexuality is about the act of mating. Humans do not have sex…
Sexuality is about the act of mating. Humans do not have sex simply in order to reproduce. We also have sex to enjoy pleasure...
(Learn About Sexuality) Women do not need to achieve orgasm with a lover, in order…
Women do not need to achieve orgasm with a lover, in order to make an emotional connection.
(Learn About Sexuality) Any woman who wants intercourse, can find it easily enough. Women only…
Any woman who wants intercourse, can find it easily enough. Women only advertise because they are trying to make money out of men.
(Learn About Sexuality) We will never be able to protect girls, if we are not…
We will never be able to protect girls, if we are not honest about what they can expect from sex.
(Learn About Sexuality) As with all forms of casual sex, swinging focuses on intercourse and…
As with all forms of casual sex, swinging focuses on intercourse and male orgasm.
(Learn About Sexuality) Women tend to be wary of any male approach, no matter how…
Women tend to be wary of any male approach, no matter how it is disguised, because they learn that men are just looking for...
(Learn About Sexuality) Men learn that women do not appreciate direct sexual approaches. A man…
Men learn that women do not appreciate direct sexual approaches. A man is likely to get his face slapped or to be reported for...
(Learn About Sexuality) Sexuality is about our emotions and how we feel loved in our…
Sexuality is about our emotions and how we feel loved in our relationships with others.
(Learn About Sexuality) Women engage in intimate physical activity with a lover primarily as a…
Women engage in intimate physical activity with a lover primarily as a bonding mechanism and to demonstrate affection.
(Learn About Sexuality) Women often receive rewards for pleasing a man. Yet men cannot believe…
Women often receive rewards for pleasing a man. Yet men cannot believe that some women employ behaviours to please men.
(Learn About Sexuality) Responsiveness is a characteristic of the brain we are born with. A…
Responsiveness is a characteristic of the brain we are born with. A responsive person discovers orgasm because the sensations of tumescence (increased blood-flow) motivate...
(Learn About Sexuality) Responsiveness does not arise because an individual has some special knowledge or…
Responsiveness does not arise because an individual has some special knowledge or techniques. This is not a conscious choice.
(Learn About Sexuality) Orgasm arises as a subconscious response when the circumstances are appropriate. Once…
Orgasm arises as a subconscious response when the circumstances are appropriate. Once our minds are aroused, we supply the correct stimulation instinctively.
(Learn About Sexuality) Our responsiveness is a factor of our sex and the way our…
Our responsiveness is a factor of our sex and the way our mind works.
(Learn About Sexuality) Sexuality is about responsiveness and orientation, which are both determined before we…
Sexuality is about responsiveness and orientation, which are both determined before we are born.
(Learn About Sexuality) There are no real-world erotic stimuli that cause female arousal, which is…
There are no real-world erotic stimuli that cause female arousal, which is largely a subconscious phenomenon.
(Learn About Sexuality) Marriage involves a man agreeing to limit his sexual opportunities elsewhere in…
Marriage involves a man agreeing to limit his sexual opportunities elsewhere in exchange for regular sex with his wife.
(Learn About Sexuality) The clitoris becomes tumescent (swollen) but it does not become erect (rigid)…
The clitoris becomes tumescent (swollen) but it does not become erect (rigid) as the penis does.
(Learn About Sexuality) The clitoris is largely an internal organ. Only the tiny glans (or…
The clitoris is largely an internal organ. Only the tiny glans (or bud) is visible externally.
(Learn About Sexuality) Unlike a man, a woman has separate anatomy for urination (the urethra),…
Unlike a man, a woman has separate anatomy for urination (the urethra), reproduction (the vagina) and orgasm (the clitoris). These three functions are all...
(Learn About Sexuality) The sensations that accompany orgasm vary considerably depending on the physical and…
The sensations that accompany orgasm vary considerably depending on the physical and psychological (erotic or emotional) circumstances that give rise to orgasm.
(Learn About Sexuality) Intercourse is an activity that facilitates male ejaculation of semen. The sperm…
Intercourse is an activity that facilitates male ejaculation of semen. The sperm (from the testes) pass from the penis (via the vagina) into the...
(Learn About Sexuality) Sexuality is about appreciating the human body and sexual anatomy. … It…
Sexuality is about appreciating the human body and sexual anatomy. ... It is also useful to know what kind of stimulation may be pleasurable...
(Learn About Sexuality) Abortion is an issue connected with the freedom women now share with…
Abortion is an issue connected with the freedom women now share with men to be sexually active without the need for a supportive relationship...
(Learn About Sexuality) Sexual responses do not change over decades. Only women’s sexual behaviours change…
Sexual responses do not change over decades. Only women's sexual behaviours change as fashion dictates and because of improved policing.
(Learn About Sexuality) Reliable contraception cannot change women’s instinctive responses that have evolved over millions…
Reliable contraception cannot change women's instinctive responses that have evolved over millions of years.
(Learn About Sexuality) If we are to understand men and women’s sexuality, we must never…
If we are to understand men and women's sexuality, we must never forget that Nature wants us to engage foremost in intercourse. Male sex...
(Learn About Sexuality) Given her lack of erotic arousal with a lover, a woman has…
Given her lack of erotic arousal with a lover, a woman has no incentive to be proactive in sexual activity of any kind unless...
(Learn About Sexuality) Heterosexual men assume that what pleases them must please a woman equally…
Heterosexual men assume that what pleases them must please a woman equally as well and heterosexual women accept whatever stimulation a man offers.
(Learn About Sexuality) Some couples experiment early on with different positions. But they usually resume…
Some couples experiment early on with different positions. But they usually resume missionary style intercourse, which involves least effort for a woman.
(Learn About Sexuality) Responsiveness (the ability to respond to the point of orgasm) is part…
Responsiveness (the ability to respond to the point of orgasm) is part of male reproductive function.
(Learn About Sexuality) Gender is a person’s feeling of identification with being male or female….
Gender is a person's feeling of identification with being male or female. Gender, typically described in terms of masculinity and femininity, is a social...
(Learn About Sexuality) Sex determines a person’s biological status as male or female. Sex is…
Sex determines a person's biological status as male or female. Sex is defined by biological facts: chromosomes, balance of hormones as well as internal...
(Learn About Sexuality) Sexuality is about reproduction. But human reproduction involves much more than intercourse.
Sexuality is about reproduction. But human reproduction involves much more than intercourse.
(Learn About Sexuality) The anatomy involved in orgasm must be consistent for all women of…
The anatomy involved in orgasm must be consistent for all women of all orientations whether they are alone or with a lover (regardless of...
(Learn About Sexuality) The key characteristics of orgasm include: mental arousal must precede stimulation, stimulation…
The key characteristics of orgasm include: mental arousal must precede stimulation, stimulation focuses on massaging the blood flow within the corpora cavernosa of the...
(Learn About Sexuality) Women’s behaviour with a lover reflects their lack of responsiveness. Women’s willingness…
Women's behaviour with a lover reflects their lack of responsiveness. Women's willingness to assist with male orgasm (rather than achieve their own), female sexual...
(Learn About Sexuality) Men’s behaviour with a lover reflects their responsiveness. Men’s focus on obtaining…
Men's behaviour with a lover reflects their responsiveness. Men's focus on obtaining the turn-ons and stimulation they need, men's proactiveness (including initiating sexual activity)...
(Learn About Sexuality) Even plants have male and female parts and reproduce sexually (the new…
Even plants have male and female parts and reproduce sexually (the new life has characteristics from both parents). The male is the more active...
(Learn About Sexuality) Human sexuality does not stand alone. It is part of a wider…
Human sexuality does not stand alone. It is part of a wider picture of the sexuality of all other lifeforms.
(Learn About Sexuality) Educators insist that consent is vital and yet they confuse the message…
Educators insist that consent is vital and yet they confuse the message by simultaneously promoting sex as a mutual pleasure.
(Learn About Sexuality) Our sexual experiences cover a broad spectrum of situations that cannot possibly…
Our sexual experiences cover a broad spectrum of situations that cannot possibly be 100% positive for everyone all of the time. Inevitably there are...
(Learn About Sexuality) The fact that sex information is so wrong today reflects the fear…
The fact that sex information is so wrong today reflects the fear that dominates the topic: fear of ridicule, fear of failure, fear of...
(Learn About Sexuality) Boys deserve a rational account of women’s emotional needs including an understanding…
Boys deserve a rational account of women's emotional needs including an understanding of why most girls hope for an emotional connection before they are...
(Learn About Sexuality) Girls deserve a rational account of men’s emotional needs including an understanding…
Girls deserve a rational account of men's emotional needs including an understanding of men's sex drive to ejaculate through intercourse.
(Learn About Sexuality) Most adults would probably agree on the need to educate children about…
Most adults would probably agree on the need to educate children about sex. But it is much more difficult to obtain consensus on what...
(Learn About Sexuality) It is inconceivable that women would not know what anatomy was involved…
It is inconceivable that women would not know what anatomy was involved if they routinely masturbated to orgasm. It is equally inconceivable that men...
(Learn About Sexuality) Most women have no idea how orgasm is achieved. So when researchers…
Most women have no idea how orgasm is achieved. So when researchers ask women about arousal and orgasm, they get confusion not science. The...
(Learn About Sexuality) A belief in vaginal orgasms is vital to men because it represents…
A belief in vaginal orgasms is vital to men because it represents a means of justifying regular intercourse.
(Learn About Sexuality) Sex is a subject on which every adult feels entitled to have…
Sex is a subject on which every adult feels entitled to have an opinion, however uninformed. We all think our personal experiences and personal...
(Learn About Sexuality) Everyone seems to assume that erotic fiction is the equivalent of holy…
Everyone seems to assume that erotic fiction is the equivalent of holy scriptures rather than fictional stories aimed at arousing and entertaining.
(Learn About Sexuality) An unfortunate by-product of research that involves talking to women is that…
An unfortunate by-product of research that involves talking to women is that unrealistic orgasm claims are given credibility just because they have been recorded...
(Learn About Sexuality) Learn About Sexuality differentiates between the behaviours that women employ (to arouse…
Learn About Sexuality differentiates between the behaviours that women employ (to arouse men) and orgasm, which occurs (when the erectile organ is stimulated) as...
(Learn About Sexuality) For example, date rape involves a more passive female role than usual…
For example, date rape involves a more passive female role than usual and a more proactive male role. But it is essentially the same...
(Learn About Sexuality) One of the most confusing things about how female sexuality is portrayed…
One of the most confusing things about how female sexuality is portrayed in erotic fiction, is the implication that women achieve orgasm by stimulating...
(Learn About Sexuality) Women send out mixed signals that are very confusing for a man….
Women send out mixed signals that are very confusing for a man. They display their bodies in ways that arouse men. But their behaviours...
(Learn About Sexuality) Men may be aroused by women’s bodies and obtain their sexual release…
Men may be aroused by women's bodies and obtain their sexual release from ejaculating into a vagina. But they don't thank a woman for...
(Learn About Sexuality) There are many ways to give and receive sexual pleasure. No one…
There are many ways to give and receive sexual pleasure. No one should ever feel pressured to engage in penetrative sex especially if both...
(Learn About Sexuality) As long as they get regular sex, most men are happy. So…
As long as they get regular sex, most men are happy. So sex therapy focuses on relationship issues that are important, if a woman...
(Learn About Sexuality) It is a misguided to think that promoting the clitoris will make…
It is a misguided to think that promoting the clitoris will make any difference to any woman who does not already appreciate its role.
(Learn About Sexuality) When I talked to so-called experts, they confidently quoted their textbook theories….
When I talked to so-called experts, they confidently quoted their textbook theories. But they were incapable of engaging in any logical discussion of the...
(Learn About Sexuality) The reason women can’t make sense of the explanations for their sexuality…
The reason women can't make sense of the explanations for their sexuality is that men have defined it for them.
(Learn About Sexuality) Sexuality is about our motivation to explore our fantasies both during masturbation…
Sexuality is about our motivation to explore our fantasies both during masturbation alone and during sex play with a lover. Our ability to reach...
(Learn About Sexuality) Sexuality is about enjoying sexual pleasure with a lover. We experience sensual,…
Sexuality is about enjoying sexual pleasure with a lover. We experience sensual, emotional and erotic pleasure.
(Learn About Sexuality) No one teaches us how to orgasm. We discover orgasm because we…
No one teaches us how to orgasm. We discover orgasm because we have the capability. Orgasm is a significant response that we definitely realise...
(Learn About Sexuality) A woman offers intercourse on her terms. Intercourse is a privilege that…
A woman offers intercourse on her terms. Intercourse is a privilege that a woman confers on a man as a sign of her approval....
(Learn About Sexuality) Women are pressured by the acceptance of regular intercourse as a marital…
Women are pressured by the acceptance of regular intercourse as a marital duty, attitudes in society that women should provide for the needs of...
(Learn About Sexuality) Before men expect more, they should ask their partners: ‘What can I…
Before men expect more, they should ask their partners: 'What can I do for you (outside the bedroom) to repay you for the pleasure...
(Learn About Sexuality) No one can have a drive to be penetrated by a penis…
No one can have a drive to be penetrated by a penis or any other object. Neither can we have a biological drive for...
(Learn About Sexuality) Believing that experts can understand what we cannot understand ourselves is part…
Believing that experts can understand what we cannot understand ourselves is part of the problem. If it cannot be explained (at least to graduates)...
(Learn About Sexuality) The goal of sexology would seem to be to educate women in…
The goal of sexology would seem to be to educate women in their role of providing male pleasure. This is a political battle rather...
(Learn About Sexuality) For the purposes of reproduction, a woman has to be willing to…
For the purposes of reproduction, a woman has to be willing to continue intercourse until a man ejaculates.
(Learn About Sexuality) Men obtain sexual relief as well as significant erotic and emotional pleasure…
Men obtain sexual relief as well as significant erotic and emotional pleasure from penetrative sex (intercourse) and other activities with a lover. However, women...
(Learn About Sexuality) The golden rule of sex is: if it hurts, then stop doing…
The golden rule of sex is: if it hurts, then stop doing it. If something does not feel good, it should not be done.
(Learn About Sexuality) Reproduction relies on a woman’s willingness to let a man ejaculate into…
Reproduction relies on a woman's willingness to let a man ejaculate into her vagina but not every day, every week or even every month.
(Learn About Sexuality) The key problem with men thinking that women obtain a similar pleasure…
The key problem with men thinking that women obtain a similar pleasure from sex is that they fail to engage on the romantic factors...
(Learn About Sexuality) Wherever someone tries to talk about sex in public, someone else will…
Wherever someone tries to talk about sex in public, someone else will say it is inappropriate. The result is that there is no intelligent...
(Learn About Sexuality) Women’s sexual passivity, which results from their lack of arousal, allows a…
Women's sexual passivity, which results from their lack of arousal, allows a man to assert his own sexual needs.
(Learn About Sexuality) The response of orgasm evolved millions of years ago. Nothing new can…
The response of orgasm evolved millions of years ago. Nothing new can be discovered as such. We can only document the facts and use...
(Learn About Sexuality) Sexuality is about enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation….
Sexuality is about enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation. Our mind's ability to respond to erotic scenarios (both real and imagined)...
(Learn About Sexuality) Some women enhance their own (and a lover’s) apparent sexual prowess by…
Some women enhance their own (and a lover's) apparent sexual prowess by faking orgasm to meet expectations from pornography. Other men complain that their...
(Learn About Sexuality) Men expect to have regular sex with their partner. This expectation means…
Men expect to have regular sex with their partner. This expectation means they are frustrated when their partner is physically present but not sexually...
(Learn About Sexuality) Most women realise that men appreciate women who present themselves in a…
Most women realise that men appreciate women who present themselves in a sexy manner. Men have more difficulty understanding that women also want men...
(Learn About Sexuality) If women had a sex drive then they would also suffer all…
If women had a sex drive then they would also suffer all the difficulties and discrimination that men do. They would be persecuted for...
(Learn About Sexuality) In truth, very few people have the necessary intellect, life experience and…
In truth, very few people have the necessary intellect, life experience and emotional detachment to understand sexuality. Most people have only prejudices, assumptions and...
(Learn About Sexuality) Consent is not about responsiveness or even mutual pleasure. Women are not…
Consent is not about responsiveness or even mutual pleasure. Women are not aroused by sexual activity with a lover at any age. But by...
(Learn About Sexuality) Adults masturbate over the longer term because they can generate fantasies that…
Adults masturbate over the longer term because they can generate fantasies that reliably lead to orgasm.
(Learn About Sexuality) Men believe that cunnilingus causes female orgasm. But where does this belief…
Men believe that cunnilingus causes female orgasm. But where does this belief come from? It doesn't come from any research findings. Cunnilingus is clearly...
(Learn About Sexuality) Men attribute all the skill and the effort of intercourse to themselves…
Men attribute all the skill and the effort of intercourse to themselves rather than to a woman.
(Learn About Sexuality) In fact, foreplay only extends a woman’s waiting time and she may…
In fact, foreplay only extends a woman's waiting time and she may prefer quick intercourse if she is not in the mood to indulge...
(Learn About Sexuality) Men assume it is their role to provide a woman with the…
Men assume it is their role to provide a woman with the orgasm she cannot give herself. Yet this is fallacious thinking because orgasm...
(Learn About Sexuality) Even today, women lack the authority and the motivation to put men…
Even today, women lack the authority and the motivation to put men right about their own sexuality. Men's lack of objectivity over female sexuality...
(Learn About Sexuality) But by looking at Nature we can see that mating is an…
But by looking at Nature we can see that mating is an act of male assault. By depositing his sperm in a woman's body,...
(Learn About Sexuality) The more creative and inventive we are about imagining scenarios, the more…
The more creative and inventive we are about imagining scenarios, the more likely we are to enjoy solitary sexual activity that relies on our...
(Learn About Sexuality) Only men ever discuss female orgasm openly and confidently. So it’s no…
Only men ever discuss female orgasm openly and confidently. So it's no wonder that sex education and pornography are essentially the same thing.
(Learn About Sexuality) For someone to have a sex drive there must be a trigger…
For someone to have a sex drive there must be a trigger that generates an urge to engage in intercourse. Sex is natural for...
(Learn About Sexuality) My research has involved asking many difficult questions, most of which I…
My research has involved asking many difficult questions, most of which I have had to answer myself. The answers were always there. Only naivety,...
(Learn About Sexuality) Women never contest these myths because of their general embarrassment over sex,…
Women never contest these myths because of their general embarrassment over sex, their uncertainty over their own arousal and their desire to please men...
(Learn About Sexuality) It is nonsensical to suggest that researchers can discover something by talking…
It is nonsensical to suggest that researchers can discover something by talking to a small sample that millions of couples have not discovered over...