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… men come to the sexual experience with only his porno-sex-ed and…
… men come to the sexual experience with only his porno-sex-ed and general socialization – ergo pleasing a woman means: 1) A big penis...
I have no agenda. I am not trying to make money out…
I have no agenda. I am not trying to make money out of anyone. I am simply trying to establish some facts and provide...
Characteristics of low sexual responsiveness
Research indicates that single women are not nearly as promiscuous as single men. Most men engage in sexual activity, even if it is only masturbation, on a regular basis from adolescence to old age. Many women can live quite happily without being sexually stimulated for weeks, months and even years. Unlike a boy who finds
The length of time over which erection can be maintained during continuous…
The length of time over which erection can be maintained during continuous erotic arousal and before there is an ejaculation, drops from an average...
Sex in our society is an extremely important way of being close…
Sex in our society is an extremely important way of being close - almost the only way we can be really physically or even...
The political advantages for women, who support or condone the male view…
The political advantages for women, who support or condone the male view of female sexuality, are huge. A woman has nothing to gain by...
Most women prefer implicit explanations for their orgasms
A few women claim fantastic orgasmic feats, such as multiple orgasms. But orgasm ends sexual activity so these are, at best, just peaks of arousal. Many of these cases have more in common with a nervous disorder or some kind of nervous fit than a sexual release. If someone experiences orgasm like the ticking of
Hi, thank you so much for the reading materials. I’m a life…
Hi, thank you so much for the reading materials. I'm a life long learner, and learning new ways to satisfy my partner is very...
Coordinated with the gluteal contractions, there may be movements of the adductor…
Coordinated with the gluteal contractions, there may be movements of the adductor and/or abductor muscles in the upper portions of the legs.
Women have to learn how their sexual arousal works
Some women appear to be so sheltered from the world of adult eroticism that one wonders if they have ever experienced sexual urges of any kind. Nancy, a recently widowed woman in her seventies became acquainted with John, a man of the same age, during a stay in hospital. On the grounds of friendship, they
What we call sexual dysfunction today is really just a mismatch between…
What we call sexual dysfunction today is really just a mismatch between expectation and reality.
The corpora cavernosa are in the shaft of the penis and within…
The corpora cavernosa are in the shaft of the penis and within the internal clitoral organ (because the clitoris doesn't have a shaft).
The more you fantasise, the higher your libido… it’s pretty well established…
The more you fantasise, the higher your libido… it’s pretty well established that the more you think about sex, the more you want it....
One great aspect of men growing older is that they become slightly…
One great aspect of men growing older is that they become slightly less obsessed with their own sexual arousal and need for sexual release.
Factors that are believed to affect male responsiveness
Factors that affect men’s orgasm frequencies include their age, the age at which they reached adolescence , as well as their level of education and whether they feel constrained by the judgement of religious teachings. Frequencies of sexual activity vary but almost all men (92%) orgasm quickly and easily through masturbation as well as through
The heterosexual male finds a regular outlet if he locates a single…
The heterosexual male finds a regular outlet if he locates a single female who is acceptable as a wife in marriage. The homosexual male...
Sex is a form of communication without words based on bodily responses,…
Sex is a form of communication without words based on bodily responses, and is the ultimate in human closeness where a person can express...
We rarely acknowledge the emotional and political forces that influence the acceptance…
We rarely acknowledge the emotional and political forces that influence the acceptance of scientific work. The truth is that some research findings are much...
Women orgasm from vaginal stimulation (intercourse)
Kinsey explained that the vagina evolved from primitive egg ducts, which lack any sensitivity (in common with other internal organs of the body). The vagina is the result of glands that develop in the female foetus but not in the male. Just as the male glands (including the prostate) develop in the male foetus but
I thought I knew a lot about women and sex. You’ve showed…
I thought I knew a lot about women and sex. You've showed me that I know nothing. Woodshop
Whether or not she herself reaches orgasm, many a female finds satisfaction…
Whether or not she herself reaches orgasm, many a female finds satisfaction in knowing that her husband or other sexual partner has enjoyed the...
Women’s sexual arousal and orgasm are not automatic
Almost complete mystery surrounds women’s sexual arousal. Women’s PHYSICAL arousal is rarely acknowledged and our understanding of women’s PSYCHOLOGICAL arousal is very vague. No wonder many of us gain the impression that female orgasms simply mushroom up out of nowhere. Explanations for women’s sexual arousal often defy belief. It is suggested that women, unlike men
The problem with visual media is that we don’t know what is…
The problem with visual media is that we don't know what is happening inside a person's head. This is confusing for anyone watching because...
Why am I always talking to men if there are hundreds of…
Why am I always talking to men if there are hundreds of millions of women out there who supposedly enjoy sex & orgasm?
Your partner’s not there to service you, it’s not their job to…
Your partner’s not there to service you, it’s not their job to keep you sexually satisfied. You’re together because you love each other and...
From early on, the sensitive female lover learns how to pleasure a…
From early on, the sensitive female lover learns how to pleasure a man, co-operating quite instinctively during intercourse by moving with the man's rhythm....
Characteristics of high sexual responsiveness
As a boy grows into a man, he sees men bragging about their assumed success in providing a woman with amazing sexual pleasure. He sees men comparing notes on the sexual attributes they appreciate in a lover. He sees issues arising because of voyeurs, peeping Toms, men who assault and rape women. He can identify
… for a not inconsiderable number of males the climax may be…
... for a not inconsiderable number of males the climax may be reached within less than a minute or even within ten or twenty...
Why do women so habitually satisfy men’s needs during sex and ignore…
Why do women so habitually satisfy men's needs during sex and ignore their own? The fact is that the role of women in sex,...
We have appallingly bad sex information today because those who are reassured…
We have appallingly bad sex information today because those who are reassured by mysticism far outnumber those swayed by any facts or logic. You...
Masturbation and fantasy require a creative imagination
Masturbation is least common among less educated males (89%). More men who are high school educated (95%) and who are college educated (96%) are involved in masturbation for at least some period of their lives. There are two suggestions for why college boys masturbate more than less-educated boys. The first is that college girls are
I wish more women were outspoken like you! I’ve read some of…
I wish more women were outspoken like you! I've read some of your articles, you are a big turn on! Kevin
… the surface of the cervix is the most completely insensitive part…
... the surface of the cervix is the most completely insensitive part of the female genital anatomy.
Women’s sex drive to orgasm during sex
Becky explained via e-mail: “I had my first orgasm at 26 during masturbation – pretty late I know & since then no stopping me with the sex toys : ) . Plenty of my girlfriends have not though – and like you say, don’t seem too bothered about it which I can’t understand.” Despite this
How would heterosexual men like to live in a world filled with…
How would heterosexual men like to live in a world filled with men looking for opportunities to penetrate their orifices regardless of their amenability?
I provide sex information based on facts, logic & research findings for…
I provide sex information based on facts, logic & research findings for those women (& their partners) who can handle it.
Few of us reach orgasm without fantasy, so let your imagination go…
Few of us reach orgasm without fantasy, so let your imagination go wild!… Don’t get hung up about your fantasy; it doesn’t mean you’re...
So although men want sex intensely they also benefit from the emotional…
So although men want sex intensely they also benefit from the emotional intimacy or affectionate companionship that women provide through family, friends and the...
Sexual responsiveness is a male characteristic
Male orgasm is not directly linked to reproduction, but ejaculation is required. The function of male orgasm is to trigger the ejaculation of sperm. Some small boys may orgasm (as a one-off) without ejaculating but after adolescence, orgasm always triggers ejaculation. Apart from orgasm, there is no other physiological event that could account for ejaculation
One is inclined to suspect that the amazement of the older generation…
One is inclined to suspect that the amazement of the older generation at the present-day behavior is dependent, at least in part, upon the...
Once my heart had an orgasm when she was hugging me and…
Once my heart had an orgasm when she was hugging me and looking at me and saying how she loved me.
The techniques that I used alone were not compatible with sexual activity…
The techniques that I used alone were not compatible with sexual activity with a lover. Not only was it impossible to achieve the mental...
Women’s sexuality includes providing male erotic turn-ons
The intense focus on women’s bodies means that girls as young as five aspire to the sexual attributes and wardrobe of a Barbie doll. Teenage girls starve themselves and few women are willing to appear in public without wearing make-up, provocative lingerie and without waxing their legs. It is reassuring to be admired by a
I enjoy reading your articles and perspectives, Jane. It provides good material…
I enjoy reading your articles and perspectives, Jane. It provides good material to think and reflect on, and I agree that you need to...
This insensitivity of the vagina has been recognized by gynaecologists who regularly…
This insensitivity of the vagina has been recognized by gynaecologists who regularly probe and do surface operations in this area without using anaesthesia.
Female masturbation is relatively uncommon
Carolyn, a relationship counsellor in her fifties, told me she thought it unwise to positively encourage female masturbation. She did not give her reasons. “Many women think of masturbation as unnatural and disgusting and a complete waste of time, and don’t understand why anybody does it and are unsympathetic to the view that people might
There is never a point at which women can no longer engage…
There is never a point at which women can no longer engage in sexual activity. This is clear evidence that women do not orgasm...
Jane Thomas talks about how she helps women who have difficulties with…
Jane Thomas talks about how she helps women who have difficulties with orgasm.
The truth is that, just as women have spent centuries being selected…
The truth is that, just as women have spent centuries being selected by men for their desirability as sex objects. Women have been evaluating...
Men need to acknowledge that their sex drive works like an on-off…
Men need to acknowledge that their sex drive works like an on-off switch. An ideal male lover should re-think his approach to sex and...
Responsiveness varies between individuals
We have no conscious control over our responsiveness . Our ability to enjoy eroticism is an instinctive and subconscious response. Our responsiveness is a factor of our sex and the way our mind works. All men are responsive to some degree. Research indicates that there is a huge range in responsiveness (orgasm frequency) for both
Society is also interested in maintaining families as a means of providing…
Society is also interested in maintaining families as a means of providing a regular sexual outlet for adults, and as a means of controlling...
Technically, women together do what male and female together do – touch…
Technically, women together do what male and female together do - touch and kiss and caress one another, except there's no penis. (And I've...
The woman-on-the-street is never invited to comment on (let alone provide convincing…
The woman-on-the-street is never invited to comment on (let alone provide convincing evidence in support of) modern theories in sexology. Women are more or...
Women can masturbate themselves to orgasm with a lover
Pornography shows women masturbating (or being masturbated by a lover). This self-stimulation by fingering around their glans never ends in orgasm. Women are shown continuing to engage in sexual activity after masturbating so orgasm is clearly not their goal. Despite the publication of Hite’s findings that women are more successful with orgasm alone, heterosexuals continue
I don’t know why people are so scared to speak with others…
I don't know why people are so scared to speak with others about their sexuality but we'll keep spreading the message! Definitely a pleasure...
The opening of the urethra of the male (the meatus) is normally…
The opening of the urethra of the male (the meatus) is normally on the tip of the head of the penis; in the female...
Sexual arousal
Sexual arousal is a mental state that arises when the mind responds to PSYCHOLOGICAL stimuli (of an erotic or sexual nature). Sexual arousal is evidenced by PHYSICAL phenomena such as increased blood flow to the erectile organ (penis/clitoris). Both sexes can express their sexuality through sexual arousal and orgasm but since men’s arousal happens spontaneously
Orgasm, when it is our objective, defines the end of the activity…
Orgasm, when it is our objective, defines the end of the activity that was focused on achieving it. Stimulation stops for a variety of...
Incredibly it is assumed everyone has the intellect, experience & emotional detachment…
Incredibly it is assumed everyone has the intellect, experience & emotional detachment needed to understand sexuality.
What would truly be revolutionary for women’s sex lives is to engage…
What would truly be revolutionary for women’s sex lives is to engage with what research has found all along: the best predictors of sexual...
Sex is a gift that a woman offers to a man she…
Sex is a gift that a woman offers to a man she loves. She offers her body for his pleasure without necessarily hoping for...
Sexual responsiveness and orientation
Sexuality is about responsiveness and orientation , both of which are determined before we are born. Among the genes we inherit from our parents are those that determine responsiveness and orientation. Any child can potentially be born homosexual. Likewise, we are all born with varying degrees of responsiveness. Responsiveness is a measure of the frequency
Marital intercourse is the one type of sexual activity which is approved…
Marital intercourse is the one type of sexual activity which is approved by our Anglo-American mores and legal codes.
I like it when he comes in my mouth. I like the…
I like it when he comes in my mouth. I like the taste of semen and think the protein does me good.
As they age, even men can appreciate savouring sexual opportunities. They see…
As they age, even men can appreciate savouring sexual opportunities. They see the advantage in delaying orgasm to enjoy their own arousal. In other...
Boys who are adolescent first have the highest sex drive
For practical purposes male adolescence is assumed to coincide with a boy’s first ejaculation. Boys who become adolescent first (before 12 years of age) often have the highest orgasm frequencies throughout their lives.[i] Statistics can be misleading. For example, men are taller than women on average but some women are taller than many men. Similarly
I’ve enjoyed following Jane’s blog spot immensely! Her point of view is…
I've enjoyed following Jane's blog spot immensely! Her point of view is quite challenging and has expanded my horizons of how I see sexuality....
The shaft of the clitoris may average something over an inch in…
The shaft of the clitoris may average something over an inch in length. It has a diameter which is less than that of a...
Sexual desire
Kinsey shocked the world in the 1950s with his revelation that SOME women experience orgasm. The popular message became: all women ‘naturally’ orgasm during sex. But this was never true. “In the later teens, when… the average male was at the peak of his sexual capacity and activity -, there was still nearly a half
We are motivated to masturbate because we feel a sense of excitement…
We are motivated to masturbate because we feel a sense of excitement in our minds when thinking about an erotic scenario.
Women are made to feel inadequate, by the idea that it is…
Women are made to feel inadequate, by the idea that it is 'normal' or 'natural' to want sex. But this is a male perspective!
… it’s time to talk about what most men could initiate more…
… it’s time to talk about what most men could initiate more of, and that is non-sexual intimacy… It involves any kind of intimacy...
There seems to be a surprising amount of resistance to asking women…
There seems to be a surprising amount of resistance to asking women to account for their sexual experiences. I simply want to get a...
Shere Hite’s research findings (1976)
Shere Hite’s work was a thesis produced for her doctorate in sexuality. Her research had much lower funding than Kinsey’s and so was more limited in scope. Hite circulated a lengthy questionnaire in the US through women’s magazines and to passers-by on the street in the early 1970s. Shere Hite’s sample was not selected in
There are … a large number of the wives who remain uninterested…
There are ... a large number of the wives who remain uninterested in intercourse through the years of their marriage...
Sometimes I like fellatio although I’m not wild about swallowing semen…
Sometimes I like fellatio although I'm not wild about swallowing semen...
I learned early on (as well as from erotic fiction) that a…
I learned early on (as well as from erotic fiction) that a man appreciates some erotic feedback. A man enjoys a lover who moves...
Men pressure women to provide a response to intercourse
Only women are ever described as frigid (meaning cold or unloving). An unenthusiastic lover is a turn-off and causes a man to feel unappreciated. [i] Even today so-called female sexual dysfunction continues to be defined in terms of a woman’s ability, or her willingness, to cooperate with intercourse rather than in terms of her ability
Greetings ! I always appreciate what you write and teach. You are…
Greetings ! I always appreciate what you write and teach. You are honest and always trying to show us the truth and the facts....
One of the most striking aspects of a sexual performance is the…
One of the most striking aspects of a sexual performance is the development of neuromuscular tensions throughout the body … There may be occasional...
Why sex is called ‘making love’
The heterosexual act of vaginal intercourse is designed foremost as an expression of love between a man and a woman. After all, if sex was purely about two people reaching orgasm, then we would more naturally engage in activities that involve more direct genital stimulation. Intercourse is a natural progression from kissing to a man
A woman knows that she is nowhere near being aroused by either…
A woman knows that she is nowhere near being aroused by either the prospect or the reality of intercourse. The fact that a man...
What’s immoral about sex? Millions of women who assume there’s something wrong…
What's immoral about sex? Millions of women who assume there's something wrong with them because of a few bogus orgasm claims.
For most women orgasm does not have this central role in life….
For most women orgasm does not have this central role in life. And if it does, it tends to be for a small part...
It’s a real positive that men slow down a bit as they…
It's a real positive that men slow down a bit as they grow older (post 35) - older men stand to make better lovers!...
Bill Masters and Virginia Johnson’s research (1966)
William Masters and Virginia Johnson observed volunteer couples having intercourse in the laboratory. Female orgasm was simply assumed to occur as a result of intercourse. This laboratory-based approach was much more popular than Alfred Kinsey’s complex statistical approach and has remained the predominant model. The public is easily impressed by people who wear laboratory coats
We find that about 69 per cent of the total white male…
We find that about 69 per cent of the total white male population ultimately has some experience with prostitutes. Many of these males, however,...
If women find cunnilingus so enjoyable, why doesn’t it lead to orgasm…
If women find cunnilingus so enjoyable, why doesn't it lead to orgasm more frequently? Once again, many women were held back by feelings of...
The taboo involved in talking about sex means that most people prefer…
The taboo involved in talking about sex means that most people prefer to say nothing. Political correctness prevents sexologists from questioning and challenging in...
Women masturbate as commonly and as frequently as men
Most men masturbate at least when they are adolescent so they assume that women must have a similar experience. Men never seem to notice that women do not welcome images of male genitals nor are they willing to watch portrayals of sexual activity. Women never refer to the erotic turn-ons that might cause their arousal
I love what you do. I’m glad there are people like you…
I love what you do. I'm glad there are people like you in the world. 🙂 Dao