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Other Sources – This does not mean that every …
This does not mean that every time I do the dishes, she is supposed to have sex with me. That would not be romance....
Ways Women Orgasm – If you cannot get turned-on in…
If you cannot get turned-on in your mind then it doesn't matter how much you stimulate your genitals - nothing will happen.
How to make the most of sexual pleasuring
Sexuality is about enjoying sexual pleasure with a lover. We experience sensual, emotional and erotic pleasure. A sex education should include a description of sexual techniques that may be used to pleasure men and women. These should differentiate between those techniques which assist with orgasm and those which provide sensual pleasure. We orgasm with a
Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – When she … refuses to allow …
When she ... refuses to allow the variety in pre-coital techniques that the male would like to have, or when she accedes to such...
Shere Hite – I don’t need sex as often as m…
I don't need sex as often as my husband but he gets upset if I don't have an orgasm, so to keep him happy...
Love Sex Intimacy – I know we all want a man to th…
I know we all want a man to think us the sexiest thing in the world but it is not helpful to have female...
Sexual pleasuring techniques a man may enjoy
A woman who lies fairly inert during sexual pleasuring, communicates a lack of cooperation and causes a man to feel sexually unappreciated. Both social and sexual interaction rely on the active interest of the participants. In women’s eyes men can seem impossible to please. But men wonder why women do not provide them with the
Testimonials – I’m 55 and you certainly make …
I'm 55 and you certainly make me think and learn. Thank you. I love learning from you! Fred
Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – Public opinion in regard to su…
Public opinion in regard to such (extra-marital) coitus represents a mixture of professed disapproval and spite and malice in which a considerable undercurrent of...
Welcome to Ways Women Orgasm!
For many women, orgasm is never an issue. Sex fulfils all their expectations for a romantic and passionate ‘love-making’ act. Women, who approach sex purely through their relationship, hope for little more than the sensual and emotional aspects of sex. Others appreciate that orgasm involves sexual arousal and genital stimulation. Women who are familiar with
Learn About Sexuality – Our responsiveness is a factor…
Our responsiveness is a factor of our sex and the way our mind works.
Battle of the sexes – sex give…
Battle of the sexes - sex gives women a hold over men. In turn, men want control over their prime sexual outlet.
Other Sources – If you really think about why …
If you really think about why vaginal stimulation matters so much, it’s because it puts the focus on male pleasure.
Ways Women Orgasm – Enjoying sex for life involves…
Enjoying sex for life involves continuing to be thrilled by each other's company in a broader sense than just sex. It involves demonstrating affection...
My research
Jane talks about ‘Ways Women Orgasm’ with accompanying slides to download! Standing in the street outside a sex clinic on London’s Harley Street, I paused a moment to consider: “What on earth am I doing here?” Well, quite simply I wanted to know why, despite being able to enjoy orgasm through masturbation since adolescence, I
Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – … the time of onset of adolesc…
… the time of onset of adolescence has been fixed as the date of the first ejaculation.
Shere Hite – Yes I always fake orgasms. It…
Yes, I always fake orgasms. It just seems polite. Why be rude?
Love Sex Intimacy – Sexual orientation determines …
Sexual orientation determines turn-ons (whether we are aroused by the same or opposite sex) but it should not reasonably affect how we achieve orgasm.
Women mature sexually much later than men tend to
Women mature sexually much later than men do so a young woman [i] is very unlikely to discover orgasm with a lover. Over time a woman’s body may respond to being stimulated by a lover and her mind may respond to the more subconscious erotic turn-ons associated with sexual activity. Women are not spontaneously aroused
Testimonials – I think you’re Awesome. Not af…
I think you're Awesome. Not afraid to say what you think. Robert B.
Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – A considerable proportion of t…
A considerable proportion of those males in our sample who had had the opportunity to observe other persons in sexual activity had responded sympathetically...
How a woman can enjoy sex play
In the novelty of a new sexual relationship, I have explored a variety of sexual activities with a partner. So, in addition to vaginal intercourse missionary style, in the early days we tried oral sex, manual clitoral stimulation and different positions for intercourse. I enjoyed the role of the prostitute, giving pleasure to my man
Learn About Sexuality – Sexuality is about responsiven…
Sexuality is about responsiveness and orientation, which are both determined before we are born.
Sexology is not a political de…
Sexology is not a political debate. It is involves a non-emotional discussion of the facts, logic & research findings that explain our sexuality.
Other Sources – So a brief definition — vagin…
So, a brief definition — vaginismus is chronic inhibitory tone of the pubococcygeus muscle, so the muscle at the mouth of the genitals is...
Ways Women Orgasm – Over time any couple who care…
Over time, any couple who cares about their sex life will need to find new ways of enjoying sex play. This may involve investing...
Why couples struggle to communicate over sex
Sex is most rewarding for a woman in the romantic scenario of a new relationship. In the beginning a man’s easy arousal means that sex is fairly effortless for a woman. Decades later it is not necessarily so easy. Over time intercourse can become a mechanical act. It is neither erotic nor loving. This happens
Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – … there are exceedingly few fe…
… there are exceedingly few females who masturbate by inserting objects into the vagina, and most of them who do so are novices, exhibitionistic...
Shere Hite – Boys have had casual sex with …
Boys have had casual sex with me and have then ignored me or thought less of me. I ‘ve been hurt, but in the...
Love Sex Intimacy – In porn we see women pleasurin…
In porn we see women pleasuring a lover and, in turn, being pleasured. The pleasuring appears to be mutual. But while male pleasure focuses...
Women offer sex as an emotional bonding mechanism
A woman may believe that she has orgasms with her lover. But if she is unwilling to have the same experience with an attractive stranger, it is the relationship rather than the act itself that is giving her pleasure. Her pleasure derives from the emotional significance of the act within the relationship she has with
Testimonials – Dear Jane Hearty Congratulati…
Dear Jane, Hearty Congratulations on your efforts to educate men about women's rather mysterious sexuality existing hitherto in untraversed realms. Thank you for enlightening!!...
Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – … the idea has been widely acc…
… the idea has been widely accepted that the effectiveness of a sexual relationship must depend primarily upon the skill and the art of...
Pleasuring a woman
An erection might feel good but it is likely to be a disadvantage if a man wants to devote time to pleasuring a woman. After all, two minutes is a typical time given for a man to reach orgasm! A man can learn techniques for slowing his arousal and increasing the time he takes to
Learn About Sexuality – There are no real-world erotic…
There are no real-world erotic stimuli that cause female arousal, which is largely a subconscious phenomenon.
Jane Thomas explains that wome…
Jane Thomas explains that women orgasm much less frequently than men do.
Other Sources – Orgasms are elusive. Most wome…
Orgasms are elusive. Most women don’t have one every time (or maybe even most times) they hit the sheets. Plenty of surveys—and likely your...
Ways Women Orgasm – BUT clitoral stimulation by it…
BUT clitoral stimulation by itself (whether by the woman or her partner) does not guarantee female orgasm. Why not? Unlike men, most women do...
How a woman can interest a man in having sex
Sex occurs much more easily in the early stages of a relationship because being affectionate with each other provides the most natural lead-in to sex. First a woman offers some affectionate interaction by touching or kissing her lover. Her lover communicates his sexual need by kissing back with passion, by touching the woman with an
Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – … it is apparent that marria…
... it is apparent that marriage does provide a more convenient source of sexual activity than is to be had in any other state.
Shere Hite – I’ve had a few orgasms – (um) …
I've had a few orgasms - (um) I can count only one or two total in all my life with approximately fifteen lovers to...
Love Sex Intimacy – Men’s politics is characterise…
Men's politics is characterised by violent action and women's by manipulative silence. But silence proves nothing.
Sexual pleasuring techniques a woman may enjoy
There are no female equivalents to the turn-ons that motivate men sexually. [i] Women often prefer intercourse in the dark and they do not enjoy observing their own genitals. The visual impact of her own and a lover’s genitalia can even detract from a woman’s enjoyment of sexual pleasuring. This is because a woman prefers
Testimonials – Your work is really essential …
Your work is really essential and important. I'm your long term supporter. Keep in touch ok and stay blessed. Irfan
Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – The incidences and frequencies…
The incidences and frequencies of marital coitus had reached their maxima in the first year or two of marriage. From that point, they had...
Making the most of sex play
Overall my partner and I have been lucky to have enjoyed exploring eroticism and sex play together. Sure we have had our ups and downs like anyone else. There have also been many positive moments. When I am in a romantic mood, perhaps after a movie or after spending companionable time with my partner, it
Learn About Sexuality – Marriage involves a man agreei…
Marriage involves a man agreeing to limit his sexual opportunities elsewhere in exchange for regular sex with his wife.
What should young people be to…
What should young people be told about enjoying a sexual relationship?
Other Sources – For married women today it’s d…
For married women today it’s difficult to square our expectations of sexual fulfilment with the realities of long-term relationships.
Ways Women Orgasm – In fact the link between clito…
In fact the link between clitoral stimulation and female orgasm comes NOT from women's experience of sex BUT from female masturbation.
How a man can have relationship sex more often
Nature never intended men to be monogamous. In every society, men’s greater inclination for promiscuity is accepted as a natural and defining characteristic of male sexuality. A woman offers sex to a man because she knows that if she doesn’t, he will go looking for another woman. So women’s need for male support, has contributed
Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – Concepts of sexual perversion …
Concepts of sexual perversion depend in part on this same reproductive interpretation of sex.
Shere Hite – Freud was the founding father …
Freud was the founding father of vaginal orgasm. He theorized that the clitoral orgasm (orgasm caused by clitoral stimulation) was adolescent and that, upon...
Love Sex Intimacy – An organ such as the vagina w…
An organ such as the vagina, which is essentially a cavity, could never be a sex organ. ... Even the proposal that there is...
Women do not experience easy erotic arousal with a lover
Lesbians have the advantage (as women) of having a similar responsiveness as their lovers. Also being women, they are not so intent on genital stimulation, penetration and orgasm. A woman does not need a partner to respond to stimulation as some men do. Lesbians can be more relaxed about exploring sexual pleasuring without any pressure
Testimonials – I’ve been following Jane for y…
I've been following Jane for years. I can highly recommend her work. Apparently she is not allowed to share her work everywhere ... Lars
Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – Many females manipulate the ma…
Many females manipulate the male genitalia only at the request of the male ...
Sexual relationships favour male orgasm
Younger women are often seen to be more sexual simply because, until they find their mate, they have more incentive to be popular with men. Dating includes sex as part of a ‘wine and dine’ package fuelled on both sides by sexual ego. Sex is fun because of the chase and the novelty of an
Learn About Sexuality – The clitoris becomes tumescent…
The clitoris becomes tumescent (swollen) but it does not become erect (rigid) as the penis does.
Unlike men most women are loo…
Unlike men, most women are looking for a loving relationship rather than sex per se. They need an emotional connection.
Other Sources – Moreover there has never been…
Moreover, there has never been a culture where women have been encouraged to explore and experiment with their sensuality without censure.
Ways Women Orgasm – Sexual arousal is a mental sta…
Sexual arousal is a mental state that arises when the mind responds to PSYCHOLOGICAL stimuli (of an erotic or sexual nature). Sexual arousal is...
The role of relationship therapists and counsellors
Adults are embarrassed about sex because of their emotional insecurities. Our emotional needs include a need to impress, a need to belong and a need to be valued. Some people lack self-esteem, which stems from anxiety. We avoid discussing relationship issues for various reasons. We want to avoid conflict. We don’t want to admit that
Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – Considerable psychiatric thera…
Considerable psychiatric therapy can be wasted on persons (especially females) who are misjudged to be cases of repression when, in actuality, at least some...
Shere Hite – As Ann Koedt put it in ‘The m…
As Ann Koedt put it, in ‘The myth of the vaginal orgasm’: Perhaps one of the most infuriating and damaging result of this whole...
Love Sex Intimacy – We often hear sex educators bl…
We often hear sex educators blaming men for ignoring women's presumed sexual needs. But why are women so incapable of obtaining their own sexual...
For women, sexual attraction does not include erotic arousal
Women are attractive to men because their bodies cause intense male arousal. Women are attracted to other women because female bodies are more sensual and less overtly sexual than male bodies. Men are attractive to other men because of their easy arousal. Heterosexual women respond to men’s desire for penetrative sex to please their lover
Testimonials – I am sure a lot of people read…
I am sure a lot of people read your articles with interest even though they are too shy to comment. You just keep on...
Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – Many of the (women’s) heterose…
Many of the (women's) heterosexual dreams had an indefinitely affectionate or generally social content which did not include overtly physical contacts. While such dreams...
Women who enjoy their own sexual arousal
Perhaps it would be simpler if I explained that I am targeting women who masturbate regularly in order to enjoy their own sexual arousal and orgasm. Other women can be totally convinced that sexual arousal is easy and I am very happy for them. But if you do not masturbate then you cannot usefully comment
Learn About Sexuality – The clitoris is largely an int…
The clitoris is largely an internal organ. Only the tiny glans (or bud) is visible externally.
Responsiveness evolves over mi…
Responsiveness evolves over millions of years. Only sexual behaviours change from decade to decade as fashion dictates.
Ways Women Orgasm – Most women are not aiming for …
Most women are not aiming for orgasm through genital stimulation so they interpret sexual relationships as 'love-making'.
Anorgasmia, preorgasmia and vaginismus
Women who masturbate themselves to orgasm are called pre-orgasmic. Rather than celebrate the fact that they experience orgasm , the implication is that women are inadequate because (regardless of any scientific facts or logic) they cannot please a man by having their orgasms during intercourse. Men’s sex drive makes intercourse an obligatory activity for heterosexuals.
Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – … the female is generally less…
… the female is generally less responsive than the male erotically, and for that reason … less often takes the initiative in any sex...
Shere Hite – I have been married to one par…
I have been married to one partner for over twenty-sex years, and it's been very satisfying. I have only one wish: for vaginal orgasm...
Love Sex Intimacy – Men obsess about female orgasm…
Men obsess about female orgasm because it is elusive in reality. Pornography exaggerates female responsiveness to provide turn-ons that assist with male orgasm. After...
Understanding Sexual Response
Hi, I am Jane Thomas, the sex educator and researcher. My work challenges the many misconceptions and contractions in our beliefs about the orgasms...
Testimonials – Very interesting intriguing …
Very interesting, intriguing, challenging, etc. field of study to undertake. You are handling it very intelligently. Congratulations and wish you all the best! Warm...
Alfred Kinsey Female Sexuality – … it is probable that few male…
… it is probable that few males would marry if they did not anticipate that they would have an opportunity to have coitus regularly...
Difficulty reaching orgasm during sex
The website ‘Go Ask Alice!’ confirms that it is likely to be difficult for a woman to reach orgasm through intercourse since the clitoris is not located inside a woman’s vagina. They suggest that women should aim to have their orgasm during other sexual activity either before or after intercourse. Any woman who can climax
Learn About Sexuality – Unlike a man a woman has sepa…
Unlike a man, a woman has separate anatomy for urination (the urethra), reproduction (the vagina) and orgasm (the clitoris). These three functions are all...
Jane Thomas suggests women enj…
Jane Thomas suggests women enjoy sex play that is not only focused on orgasm.
Other Sources – It’s important to see three po…
It’s important to see three points: (1) change is possible; (2) it isn’t his fault that he is the way he is; and (3)...
Ways Women Orgasm – Through masturbation boys lear…
Through masturbation boys learn how to use genital stimulation to bring a psychological state of sexual arousal to orgasm. Yet, against all logic, it...
Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction
It’s not uncommon for a man to have a problem with erections from time to time. But erectile dysfunction (ED) that happens routinely is not normal and should be treated. ED is defined as difficulty getting or keeping an erection that’s firm enough for intercourse. ED is the most common sexual problem that men report
Alfred Kinsey Male Sexuality – Having reached its peak in ado…
Having reached its peak in adolescence, sexual activity in the male drops steadily from then into old age.
Shere Hite – To tell you the truth I’m rea…
To tell you the truth, I'm really not sure. I have read so many descriptions ... of what an orgasm is ... I used...
Love Sex Intimacy – Women evidently enjoy sensual …
Women evidently enjoy sensual and intimate activity, through masturbation and with another woman, without any need for vaginal penetration.
Bringing variety of situation and technique to intercourse
Although intercourse provides little internal sensation, a woman feels some external pressure. When a man thrusts deeply [i] the base of his penis may thump or brush against her vulva (the clitoris and labia) and perineum (towards the anus). She may enjoy the eroticism of being dominated (from the whole-body contact and his weight) and
Testimonials – Thank you for your thoughtful…
Thank you for your thoughtful, informative view of sexuality. It has given me perspective and helped remove a few 'urban legends' some of us...