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Responsiveness is a characteristic of the brain we are born with. A…
Responsiveness is a characteristic of the brain we are born with. A responsive person discovers orgasm because the sensations of tumescence (increased blood-flow) motivate...
Physical stimulation: Jane Thomas explains how the BODY is involved in orgasm.
Physical stimulation: Jane Thomas explains how the BODY is involved in orgasm.
… male turn-ons are concrete, while many female turn-ons are situational and…
… male turn-ons are concrete, while many female turn-ons are situational and atmospheric… it helps if a woman has some male-type object reactions, like...
Given the popular belief that female arousal and orgasm during sex are…
Given the popular belief that female arousal and orgasm during sex are easily achieved, many women simply assume that they experience these sensations as...
How a couple can bring variety to intercourse
Few women provide explicit erotic turn-ons. But most, at least initially, are affectionate. Demonstrating affection involves close physical intimacy and causes male arousal. When a man is overwhelmed by sensations of arousal , he assumes that a woman feels exactly the same responses. He can interpret her affection as a turn-on because, to him, it
…nearly all coitus in our English-American culture occurs with the partners lying…
…nearly all coitus in our English-American culture occurs with the partners lying face to face with the male above the female.
Men are uninformed. They must all read the same book. Of course,…
Men are uninformed. They must all read the same book. Of course, passivity in women contributes to their miseducation.
Stimulation of the vagina is associated with a male partner. The clitoris…
Stimulation of the vagina is associated with a male partner. The clitoris is associated with women's stimulation of themselves or other women. Naturally, the...
Techniques for getting the most out of anal intercourse
Few homosexual men orgasm solely from penetration. The penis is always involved. The anus and the entrance (vestibule) to the vagina have some sensitivity. But the internal organs (vagina and rectum) are much less sensitive. [i] So the kind of stimulation that might lead to female physical arousal includes anal intercourse or using the fingers
Jane, You are a great educator. You teach well & you are…
Jane, You are a great educator. You teach well & you are an expert on sexual topics! I love the way you educate. Marco
A good many females … contribute little or nothing … based in…
A good many females … contribute little or nothing … based in part, on the theory that the male is normally so aroused that...
The marvel of male sexuality
The film ‘The Way We Were’ (1973) stars Barbra Streisand and Robert Redford (the Brad Pitt of my mother’s generation). She’s the young woman from a humble background driven by political ideals; he’s the young man from a privileged family who has no ideals. Of course she’s a virgin and she ends up one night with
Responsiveness does not arise because an individual has some special knowledge or…
Responsiveness does not arise because an individual has some special knowledge or techniques. This is not a conscious choice.
Women obtain tremendous pleasure from their emotional responses with a lover. This…
Women obtain tremendous pleasure from their emotional responses with a lover. This explains why men focus on orgasm but women talk of love &...
Men will do anything for sex, and will behave quite out of…
Men will do anything for sex, and will behave quite out of character to achieve it, such as spending several hours being romantic, and...
If a woman cannot give herself an orgasm then it is unlikely…
If a woman cannot give herself an orgasm then it is unlikely that someone else will be able to. Sexual arousal originates in the...
A man wants a partner to make love to his penis
When aroused, men experience rigidity of the sex organ (the penis). But this increased blood flow, although concentrated in the genitals can also affect the sensitivity of other parts of the body (called tumescence). So when sexually aroused, a man may enjoy being stroked and sucked on almost any part of his body, for example:
Males with the highest frequencies of masturbation are most often those who…
Males with the highest frequencies of masturbation are most often those who become adolescent first. These are the males who have the maximum total...
I am enjoying sex more in my forties than I did in…
I am enjoying sex more in my forties than I did in my thirties; I enjoyed it more in my thirties than in my...
In fact women are passive receivers of the stimulation men want to…
In fact women are passive receivers of the stimulation men want to provide. Women are passive due to lack of arousal. This is why...
The clitoris is stimulated up until climax but no longer
Men’s focus on the vagina [i] is natural given their sex drive (to impregnate a female). To experience orgasm, a woman needs a lover who understands the anatomy involved in female orgasm. This includes the clitoris, the labia and the entrance to the vagina. Lesbians share the same anatomy as their lovers so they may
Thank you for having the courage to walk into the forbidden zone…
Thank you for having the courage to walk into the forbidden zone and dispelling darkness. Rick
It is generally believed that females of the infra-human species of mammals…
It is generally believed that females of the infra-human species of mammals are sexually responsive only during the so-called periods of heat ... This...
Men’s sexual fantasies
In pursuit of knowledge and understanding of sexual arousal, I went to a large newsagent in London’s Oxford Street to review the covers of fifty or more pornographic magazines lined up on the top shelf. Over 90% were directed towards heterosexual men. Most of the remainder was male homosexual pornography. The few pornographic magazines for
Orgasm arises as a subconscious response when the circumstances are appropriate. Once…
Orgasm arises as a subconscious response when the circumstances are appropriate. Once our minds are aroused, we supply the correct stimulation instinctively.
Orgasm is a response, like sneezing or coughing. The triggers are the…
Orgasm is a response, like sneezing or coughing. The triggers are the same for everyone regardless of gender & orientation.
This does not mean that every time I do the dishes, she…
This does not mean that every time I do the dishes, she is supposed to have sex with me. That would not be romance....
If you cannot get turned-on in your mind then it doesn’t matter…
If you cannot get turned-on in your mind then it doesn't matter how much you stimulate your genitals - nothing will happen.
Sexual techniques that may pleasure a man
Men hope that a lover will enjoy contributing enthusiastically to their intimate time together: sharing fantasies, sex play and affection. Arousing a man is easy, if a woman knows how men respond. A woman can flirt by playing along with male fantasies. These details of sexual activity (that arouse men) have no erotic significance for
When she … refuses to allow the variety in pre-coital techniques that…
When she ... refuses to allow the variety in pre-coital techniques that the male would like to have, or when she accedes to such...
I don’t need sex as often as my husband but he gets…
I don't need sex as often as my husband but he gets upset if I don't have an orgasm, so to keep him happy...
I know we all want a man to think us the sexiest…
I know we all want a man to think us the sexiest thing in the world but it is not helpful to have female...
Some men want a lover to provide a response to intercourse
The basic male sexual function is instinctive. It is satisfied relatively easily by intercourse. Kinsey concluded that the vast majority of men (including the less educated) use intercourse as a quick (biological and functional) means of sexual release. They do not look for a response (erotic or emotional) from a lover. They do not need
I’m 55 and you certainly make me think and learn. Thank you….
I'm 55 and you certainly make me think and learn. Thank you. I love learning from you! Fred
Public opinion in regard to such (extra-marital) coitus represents a mixture of…
Public opinion in regard to such (extra-marital) coitus represents a mixture of professed disapproval and spite and malice in which a considerable undercurrent of...
Men are fascinated by sex
When I was seeing Bruce, a sexual psychologist, Peter also went along for one session by himself. It was a rare opportunity for two men to compare notes on techniques for female sexual arousal. Peter told Bruce how he had masturbated a woman on a transatlantic flight. He had told her about some sexual fantasy
Our responsiveness is a factor of our sex and the way our…
Our responsiveness is a factor of our sex and the way our mind works.
Humanity’s biggest hurdle today, is whether we can reconcile our emotional beliefs…
Humanity's biggest hurdle today, is whether we can reconcile our emotional beliefs with intellectual reasoning.
If you really think about why vaginal stimulation matters so much, it’s…
If you really think about why vaginal stimulation matters so much, it’s because it puts the focus on male pleasure.
Enjoying sex for life involves continuing to be thrilled by each other’s…
Enjoying sex for life involves continuing to be thrilled by each other's company in a broader sense than just sex. It involves demonstrating affection...
How to make the most of sexual pleasuring
Sexuality is about enjoying sexual pleasure with a lover. We experience sensual, emotional and erotic pleasure. A sex education should include a description of sexual techniques that may be used to pleasure men and women. These should differentiate between those techniques which assist with orgasm and those which provide sensual pleasure. We orgasm with a
… the time of onset of adolescence has been fixed as the…
… the time of onset of adolescence has been fixed as the date of the first ejaculation.
Yes, I always fake orgasms. It just seems polite. Why be rude?
Yes, I always fake orgasms. It just seems polite. Why be rude?
Sexual orientation determines turn-ons (whether we are aroused by the same or…
Sexual orientation determines turn-ons (whether we are aroused by the same or opposite sex) but it should not reasonably affect how we achieve orgasm.
Sexual pleasuring techniques a man may enjoy
A woman who lies fairly inert during sexual pleasuring, communicates a lack of cooperation and causes a man to feel sexually unappreciated. Both social and sexual interaction rely on the active interest of the participants. In women’s eyes men can seem impossible to please. But men wonder why women do not provide them with the
I think you’re Awesome. Not afraid to say what you think. Robert…
I think you're Awesome. Not afraid to say what you think. Robert B.
A considerable proportion of those males in our sample who had had…
A considerable proportion of those males in our sample who had had the opportunity to observe other persons in sexual activity had responded sympathetically...
Welcome to Ways Women Orgasm!
For many women, orgasm is never an issue. Sex fulfils all their expectations for a romantic and passionate ‘love-making’ act. Women, who approach sex purely through their relationship, hope for little more than the sensual and emotional aspects of sex. Others appreciate that orgasm involves sexual arousal and genital stimulation. Women who are familiar with
Sexuality is about responsiveness and orientation, which are both determined before we…
Sexuality is about responsiveness and orientation, which are both determined before we are born.
Jane Thomas compares the role of masturbation for men & women.
Jane Thomas compares the role of masturbation for men & women.
The sexual response model appears to treat a husband’s interest in sex…
The sexual response model appears to treat a husband’s interest in sex as inherently normal and functional, and a wife’s relative lack of sexual...
Over time, any couple who cares about their sex life will need…
Over time, any couple who cares about their sex life will need to find new ways of enjoying sex play. This may involve investing...
My research
Jane talks about ‘Ways Women Orgasm’ with accompanying slides to download! Standing in the street outside a sex clinic on London’s Harley Street, I paused a moment to consider: “What on earth am I doing here?” Well, quite simply I wanted to know why, despite being able to enjoy orgasm through masturbation since adolescence, I
… there are exceedingly few females who masturbate by inserting objects into…
… there are exceedingly few females who masturbate by inserting objects into the vagina, and most of them who do so are novices, exhibitionistic...
Boys have had casual sex with me and have then ignored me…
Boys have had casual sex with me and have then ignored me or thought less of me. I ‘ve been hurt, but in the...
In porn we see women pleasuring a lover and, in turn, being…
In porn we see women pleasuring a lover and, in turn, being pleasured. The pleasuring appears to be mutual. But while male pleasure focuses...
Women mature sexually much later than men tend to
Women mature sexually much later than men do so a young woman [i] is very unlikely to discover orgasm with a lover. Over time a woman’s body may respond to being stimulated by a lover and her mind may respond to the more subconscious erotic turn-ons associated with sexual activity. Women are not spontaneously aroused
Dear Jane, Hearty Congratulations on your efforts to educate men about women’s…
Dear Jane, Hearty Congratulations on your efforts to educate men about women's rather mysterious sexuality existing hitherto in untraversed realms. Thank you for enlightening!!...
… the idea has been widely accepted that the effectiveness of a…
… the idea has been widely accepted that the effectiveness of a sexual relationship must depend primarily upon the skill and the art of...
How a woman can enjoy sex play
In the novelty of a new sexual relationship, I have explored a variety of sexual activities with a partner. So, in addition to vaginal intercourse missionary style, in the early days we tried oral sex, manual clitoral stimulation and different positions for intercourse. I enjoyed the role of the prostitute, giving pleasure to my man
There are no real-world erotic stimuli that cause female arousal, which is…
There are no real-world erotic stimuli that cause female arousal, which is largely a subconscious phenomenon.
Men masturbate by emulating the male role in intercourse. Women, who masturbate…
Men masturbate by emulating the male role in intercourse. Women, who masturbate to orgasm, also emulate this male thrusting role!
Orgasms are elusive. Most women don’t have one every time (or maybe…
Orgasms are elusive. Most women don’t have one every time (or maybe even most times) they hit the sheets. Plenty of surveys—and likely your...
BUT clitoral stimulation by itself (whether by the woman or her partner)…
BUT clitoral stimulation by itself (whether by the woman or her partner) does not guarantee female orgasm. Why not? Unlike men, most women do...
Why couples struggle to communicate over sex
Sex is most rewarding for a woman in the romantic scenario of a new relationship. In the beginning a man’s easy arousal means that sex is fairly effortless for a woman. Decades later it is not necessarily so easy. Over time intercourse can become a mechanical act. It is neither erotic nor loving. This happens
… it is apparent that marriage does provide a more convenient source…
... it is apparent that marriage does provide a more convenient source of sexual activity than is to be had in any other state.
I’ve had a few orgasms – (um) I can count only one…
I've had a few orgasms - (um) I can count only one or two total in all my life with approximately fifteen lovers to...
Men’s politics is characterised by violent action and women’s by manipulative silence….
Men's politics is characterised by violent action and women's by manipulative silence. But silence proves nothing.
Women offer sex as an emotional bonding mechanism
A woman may believe that she has orgasms with her lover. But if she is unwilling to have the same experience with an attractive stranger, it is the relationship rather than the act itself that is giving her pleasure. Her pleasure derives from the emotional significance of the act within the relationship she has with
Your work is really essential and important. I’m your long term supporter….
Your work is really essential and important. I'm your long term supporter. Keep in touch ok and stay blessed. Irfan
The incidences and frequencies of marital coitus had reached their maxima in…
The incidences and frequencies of marital coitus had reached their maxima in the first year or two of marriage. From that point, they had...
Pleasuring a woman
An erection might feel good but it is likely to be a disadvantage if a man wants to devote time to pleasuring a woman. After all, two minutes is a typical time given for a man to reach orgasm! A man can learn techniques for slowing his arousal and increasing the time he takes to
Marriage involves a man agreeing to limit his sexual opportunities elsewhere in…
Marriage involves a man agreeing to limit his sexual opportunities elsewhere in exchange for regular sex with his wife.
Battle of the sexes – sex gives women a hold over men….
Battle of the sexes - sex gives women a hold over men. In turn, men want control over their prime sexual outlet.
For married women today it’s difficult to square our expectations of sexual…
For married women today it’s difficult to square our expectations of sexual fulfilment with the realities of long-term relationships.
In fact the link between clitoral stimulation and female orgasm comes NOT…
In fact the link between clitoral stimulation and female orgasm comes NOT from women's experience of sex BUT from female masturbation.
How a woman can interest a man in having sex
Sex occurs much more easily in the early stages of a relationship because being affectionate with each other provides the most natural lead-in to sex. First a woman offers some affectionate interaction by touching or kissing her lover. Her lover communicates his sexual need by kissing back with passion, by touching the woman with an
Concepts of sexual perversion depend in part on this same reproductive interpretation…
Concepts of sexual perversion depend in part on this same reproductive interpretation of sex.
Freud was the founding father of vaginal orgasm. He theorized that the…
Freud was the founding father of vaginal orgasm. He theorized that the clitoral orgasm (orgasm caused by clitoral stimulation) was adolescent and that, upon...
An organ such as the vagina, which is essentially a cavity, could…
An organ such as the vagina, which is essentially a cavity, could never be a sex organ. ... Even the proposal that there is...
Sexual pleasuring techniques a woman may enjoy
There are no female equivalents to the turn-ons that motivate men sexually. [i] Women often prefer intercourse in the dark and they do not enjoy observing their own genitals. The visual impact of her own and a lover’s genitalia can even detract from a woman’s enjoyment of sexual pleasuring. This is because a woman prefers
I’ve been following Jane for years. I can highly recommend her work….
I've been following Jane for years. I can highly recommend her work. Apparently she is not allowed to share her work everywhere ... Lars
Many females manipulate the male genitalia only at the request of the…
Many females manipulate the male genitalia only at the request of the male ...
Making the most of sex play
Overall my partner and I have been lucky to have enjoyed exploring eroticism and sex play together. Sure we have had our ups and downs like anyone else. There have also been many positive moments. When I am in a romantic mood, perhaps after a movie or after spending companionable time with my partner, it
The clitoris becomes tumescent (swollen) but it does not become erect (rigid)…
The clitoris becomes tumescent (swollen) but it does not become erect (rigid) as the penis does.
Sexology is not a political debate. It is involves a non-emotional discussion…
Sexology is not a political debate. It is involves a non-emotional discussion of the facts, logic & research findings that explain our sexuality.
Women who do not appreciate the validity of the motivational forces and…
Women who do not appreciate the validity of the motivational forces and who search in vain for spontaneous desire – which may resemble their...
Sexual arousal is a mental state that arises when the mind responds…
Sexual arousal is a mental state that arises when the mind responds to PSYCHOLOGICAL stimuli (of an erotic or sexual nature). Sexual arousal is...
How a man can have relationship sex more often
Nature never intended men to be monogamous. In every society, men’s greater inclination for promiscuity is accepted as a natural and defining characteristic of male sexuality. A woman offers sex to a man because she knows that if she doesn’t, he will go looking for another woman. So women’s need for male support, has contributed
Considerable psychiatric therapy can be wasted on persons (especially females) who are…
Considerable psychiatric therapy can be wasted on persons (especially females) who are misjudged to be cases of repression when, in actuality, at least some...
As Ann Koedt put it, in ‘The myth of the vaginal orgasm’:…
As Ann Koedt put it, in ‘The myth of the vaginal orgasm’: Perhaps one of the most infuriating and damaging result of this whole...
We often hear sex educators blaming men for ignoring women’s presumed sexual…
We often hear sex educators blaming men for ignoring women's presumed sexual needs. But why are women so incapable of obtaining their own sexual...