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Scientists research female orgasm because they hope to discover what the average…
Scientists research female orgasm because they hope to discover what the average couple has missed. But if women routinely had orgasms with a lover,...
Techniques for getting the most out of anal intercourse
Few homosexual men orgasm solely from penetration. The penis is always involved. The anus and the entrance (vestibule) to the vagina have some sensitivity. But the internal organs (vagina and rectum) are much less sensitive. [i] So the kind of stimulation that might lead to female physical arousal includes anal intercourse or using the fingers
I have to say I love your sexuality posts, including your candour…
I have to say I love your sexuality posts, including your candour and personal sexual history used as a basis for explaining all things...
Many males … poorly understand the techniques by which females masturbate, the…
Many males … poorly understand the techniques by which females masturbate, the anatomy which may be involved … and the part which fantasy plays...
The marvel of male sexuality
The film ‘The Way We Were’ (1973) stars Barbra Streisand and Robert Redford (the Brad Pitt of my mother’s generation). She’s the young woman from a humble background driven by political ideals; he’s the young man from a privileged family who has no ideals. Of course she’s a virgin and she ends up one night with
Either new anatomy (such as the clitoris) or new areas (such as…
Either new anatomy (such as the clitoris) or new areas (such as the G-spot) are suggested in a never-ending search for the magic button...
Any time a woman doesn’t want sex, a man says “Don’t you…
Any time a woman doesn't want sex, a man says "Don't you love me?" Men know that a woman offers sex because she loves...
… men wish that women’s sexuality was like theirs, which it isn’t….
… men wish that women’s sexuality was like theirs, which it isn’t. Male sexual response is far brisker and more automatic… Your clothes,...
I am told that women ‘enjoy’ sex or even ‘love’ sex (and…
I am told that women 'enjoy' sex or even 'love' sex (and why not for heaven's sake?) but then they talk of affection. It...
A man wants a partner to make love to his penis
When aroused, men experience rigidity of the sex organ (the penis). But this increased blood flow, although concentrated in the genitals can also affect the sensitivity of other parts of the body (called tumescence). So when sexually aroused, a man may enjoy being stroked and sucked on almost any part of his body, for example:
Many younger females and, for that matter, a certain portion of the…
Many younger females and, for that matter, a certain portion of the older and married female population, may engage in such specifically sexual activities...
I would like to know more about sex, but most of the…
I would like to know more about sex, but most of the books I have read are not very revealing. They don’t answer the...
Women’s inability to reconcile their amazing good luck with the experiences of…
Women's inability to reconcile their amazing good luck with the experiences of millions of other women make it clear that they are seeking political...
The clitoris is stimulated up until climax but no longer
Men’s focus on the vagina [i] is natural given their sex drive (to impregnate a female). To experience orgasm, a woman needs a lover who understands the anatomy involved in female orgasm. This includes the clitoris, the labia and the entrance to the vagina. Lesbians share the same anatomy as their lovers so they may
Keep it up, Jane! I like your research and visions as an…
Keep it up, Jane! I like your research and visions as an author. Josh
There are few married persons who have not, at least on occasion,…
There are few married persons who have not, at least on occasion, recognized a serious need for additional information to meet some of the...
Men’s sexual fantasies
In pursuit of knowledge and understanding of sexual arousal, I went to a large newsagent in London’s Oxford Street to review the covers of fifty or more pornographic magazines lined up on the top shelf. Over 90% were directed towards heterosexual men. Most of the remainder was male homosexual pornography. The few pornographic magazines for
We cannot legislate for sex education in the sense of insisting that…
We cannot legislate for sex education in the sense of insisting that everyone agrees on the facts and logic involved. Education depends on an...
Ignorance over how women achieve orgasm arises from a mix of know-it-all…
Ignorance over how women achieve orgasm arises from a mix of know-it-all men & women who refuse to comment!
If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.
If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.
We often talk about sexual arousal as if an erection or orgasm,…
We often talk about sexual arousal as if an erection or orgasm, for that matter, is caused purely by physical stimulation. This is partly...
Sexual techniques that may pleasure a man
Men hope that a lover will enjoy contributing enthusiastically to their intimate time together: sharing fantasies, sex play and affection. Arousing a man is easy, if a woman knows how men respond. A woman can flirt by playing along with male fantasies. These details of sexual activity (that arouse men) have no erotic significance for
The failure of the scientist to go further than he has in…
The failure of the scientist to go further than he has in studies of sex is undoubtedly a reflection of society's attitudes in this...
Again, the penis contains within its shaft two caverns or spaces known…
Again, the penis contains within its shaft two caverns or spaces known as corpora cavernosa, which fill with blood during sexual excitation ... The...
The fact that women orgasm most easily by masturbating alone is counterintuitive…
The fact that women orgasm most easily by masturbating alone is counterintuitive because it is not the male experience.
Some men want a lover to provide a response to intercourse
The basic male sexual function is instinctive. It is satisfied relatively easily by intercourse. Kinsey concluded that the vast majority of men (including the less educated) use intercourse as a quick (biological and functional) means of sexual release. They do not look for a response (erotic or emotional) from a lover. They do not need
I find it refreshing for someone to be so direct and honest…
I find it refreshing for someone to be so direct and honest in their approach. Glad I found this site... Vernon
… the female has a greater capacity for being faithful … she…
... the female has a greater capacity for being faithful ... she is generally more inclined to consider the moral implications of her sexual...
Men are fascinated by sex
When I was seeing Bruce, a sexual psychologist, Peter also went along for one session by himself. It was a rare opportunity for two men to compare notes on techniques for female sexual arousal. Peter told Bruce how he had masturbated a woman on a transatlantic flight. He had told her about some sexual fantasy
We need stimulation to continue until orgasm is achieved and not beyond….
We need stimulation to continue until orgasm is achieved and not beyond. But men want to believe (beyond all logic) that women orgasm from...
Men release their emotions by watching action movies. Women enjoy their emotions…
Men release their emotions by watching action movies. Women enjoy their emotions by watching romantic movies.
How do women learn what an orgasm is? Your parents aren’t talking…
How do women learn what an orgasm is? Your parents aren’t talking to you about it. Where would you learn? I don’t know. Maybe...
As long as we expect women to respond as men do then…
As long as we expect women to respond as men do then we will always conclude that women are dysfunctional.
How to make the most of sexual pleasuring
Sexuality is about enjoying sexual pleasure with a lover. We experience sensual, emotional and erotic pleasure. A sex education should include a description of sexual techniques that may be used to pleasure men and women. These should differentiate between those techniques which assist with orgasm and those which provide sensual pleasure. We orgasm with a
Since only 50 per cent of the population is exclusively heterosexual ……
Since only 50 per cent of the population is exclusively heterosexual ... and since only 4 per cent of the population is exclusively homosexual...
It’s grossly built up into something it’s not. It’s just a thing…
It's grossly built up into something it's not. It's just a thing you have to do because guys expect it (intercourse).
A woman knows how men achieve orgasm, not from sex education or…
A woman knows how men achieve orgasm, not from sex education or because men tell her but, because she can observe her lovers. A...
Sexual pleasuring techniques a man may enjoy
A woman who lies fairly inert during sexual pleasuring, communicates a lack of cooperation and causes a man to feel sexually unappreciated. Both social and sexual interaction rely on the active interest of the participants. In women’s eyes men can seem impossible to please. But men wonder why women do not provide them with the
Thanks for sharing! Your commitment to sharing and promoting a positive outlook…
Thanks for sharing! Your commitment to sharing and promoting a positive outlook on sexual wellness is much appreciated. Clair
… the sexual activities of females are often very discontinuous. Between periods…
... the sexual activities of females are often very discontinuous. Between periods of activity there may be weeks, or months and sometimes years in...
Welcome to Ways Women Orgasm!
For many women, orgasm is never an issue. Sex fulfils all their expectations for a romantic and passionate ‘love-making’ act. Women, who approach sex purely through their relationship, hope for little more than the sensual and emotional aspects of sex. Others appreciate that orgasm involves sexual arousal and genital stimulation. Women who are familiar with
The reality of sex is so far removed from how it is…
The reality of sex is so far removed from how it is portrayed in fictional media that most women prefer to say nothing. Any...
Jane Thomas discusses the Emotional aspects of sexuality.
Jane Thomas discusses the Emotional aspects of sexuality.
According to some scholars, the allegedly high prevalence of female sexual dysfunction…
According to some scholars, the allegedly high prevalence of female sexual dysfunction has to do with the fact that the standard of ‘normality’ is...
Any woman brave enough to question is labelled ‘sexually dysfunctional’ and this…
Any woman brave enough to question is labelled 'sexually dysfunctional' and this humiliation alone is enough to silence most people.
My research
Jane talks about ‘Ways Women Orgasm’ with accompanying slides to download! Standing in the street outside a sex clinic on London’s Harley Street, I paused a moment to consider: “What on earth am I doing here?” Well, quite simply I wanted to know why, despite being able to enjoy orgasm through masturbation since adolescence, I
It is possible that the freer discussion of the homosexual today, both…
It is possible that the freer discussion of the homosexual today, both in technical and in popular print, has made the public more conscious...
Often I resent the fact that my husband limits most of his…
Often I resent the fact that my husband limits most of his kissing to sex-resulting situations.
Only a handful of women describe experiences that reflect popular beliefs about…
Only a handful of women describe experiences that reflect popular beliefs about female sexuality. Most women never comment. Until millions of women support these...
Women mature sexually much later than men tend to
Women mature sexually much later than men do so a young woman [i] is very unlikely to discover orgasm with a lover. Over time a woman’s body may respond to being stimulated by a lover and her mind may respond to the more subconscious erotic turn-ons associated with sexual activity. Women are not spontaneously aroused
Just wanted to thank you in person. I love your posts -…
Just wanted to thank you in person. I love your posts - open honest and informative. Jin-ah
Transvestism and homosexuality are totally independent phenomena, and it is only a…
Transvestism and homosexuality are totally independent phenomena, and it is only a small portion of the transvestites who are homosexual in their physical relationships.
How a woman can enjoy sex play
In the novelty of a new sexual relationship, I have explored a variety of sexual activities with a partner. So, in addition to vaginal intercourse missionary style, in the early days we tried oral sex, manual clitoral stimulation and different positions for intercourse. I enjoyed the role of the prostitute, giving pleasure to my man
Only men ever discuss female orgasm openly and confidently. So it’s no…
Only men ever discuss female orgasm openly and confidently. So it's no wonder that sex education and pornography are essentially the same thing.
Women do not suffer sexual frustration because they are not constantly aroused…
Women do not suffer sexual frustration because they are not constantly aroused by the physical presence of men.
That said, a 2017 study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual…
That said, a 2017 study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the average adult currently enjoys sex 54 times a...
Some women refer to ‘making love’ because the term more accurately describes…
Some women refer to 'making love' because the term more accurately describes their motives in terms of loving emotions rather than as an explicit...
Why couples struggle to communicate over sex
Sex is most rewarding for a woman in the romantic scenario of a new relationship. In the beginning a man’s easy arousal means that sex is fairly effortless for a woman. Decades later it is not necessarily so easy. Over time intercourse can become a mechanical act. It is neither erotic nor loving. This happens
Contacts with prostitutes are most frequently had by males of the lowest…
Contacts with prostitutes are most frequently had by males of the lowest social levels.
I’ve learned that unless a female wants sex, it is wise not…
I've learned that unless a female wants sex, it is wise not to touch a man too much.
The emphasis on clitoral stimulation (as if it is the only factor…
The emphasis on clitoral stimulation (as if it is the only factor in orgasm) is misleading because it ignores the much bigger issue of...
Women offer sex as an emotional bonding mechanism
A woman may believe that she has orgasms with her lover. But if she is unwilling to have the same experience with an attractive stranger, it is the relationship rather than the act itself that is giving her pleasure. Her pleasure derives from the emotional significance of the act within the relationship she has with
In Indian society discussing sexual topics is taboo. But I feel one…
In Indian society discussing sexual topics is taboo. But I feel one should understand human sexuality for our own wellbeing. Your bold writing is...
Some 95 per cent of the females in the sample had heard…
Some 95 per cent of the females in the sample had heard or read stories that were deliberately intended to bring erotic response, but...
Pleasuring a woman
An erection might feel good but it is likely to be a disadvantage if a man wants to devote time to pleasuring a woman. After all, two minutes is a typical time given for a man to reach orgasm! A man can learn techniques for slowing his arousal and increasing the time he takes to
Men believe that cunnilingus causes female orgasm. But where does this belief…
Men believe that cunnilingus causes female orgasm. But where does this belief come from? It doesn't come from any research findings. Cunnilingus is clearly...
Men need to stop puffing up their egos & start giving women…
Men need to stop puffing up their egos & start giving women some credit for the effort they invest for men's benefit.
However we feel about fantasies, it is clear that sex is not,…
However we feel about fantasies, it is clear that sex is not, for most of us, just a rubbing together of bodies, but involves...
It’s a shame that some women are so sensitive to men’s sexual…
It's a shame that some women are so sensitive to men's sexual remarks, which are more often than not intended as a compliment. The...
How a woman can interest a man in having sex
Sex occurs much more easily in the early stages of a relationship because being affectionate with each other provides the most natural lead-in to sex. First a woman offers some affectionate interaction by touching or kissing her lover. Her lover communicates his sexual need by kissing back with passion, by touching the woman with an
Like many other physiologic functions, erotic response depends upon a remarkably fool…
Like many other physiologic functions, erotic response depends upon a remarkably fool proof mechanism. When one reaches the limit of physiologic endurance he no...
I love physical affection and touching but find that this inevitably leads…
I love physical affection and touching but find that this inevitably leads to sexual desire on the part of men. Therefore I refrain from...
Women get angry and defensive when asked to explain their beliefs about…
Women get angry and defensive when asked to explain their beliefs about how they orgasm. They boast about orgasm by reflecting beliefs about female...
Sexual pleasuring techniques a woman may enjoy
There are no female equivalents to the turn-ons that motivate men sexually. [i] Women often prefer intercourse in the dark and they do not enjoy observing their own genitals. The visual impact of her own and a lover’s genitalia can even detract from a woman’s enjoyment of sexual pleasuring. This is because a woman prefers
You have a wonderful collection of books! Thank you for sharing them…
You have a wonderful collection of books! Thank you for sharing them with me! MaryLee
Sexual adjustments between husbands and wives could be worked out more often…
Sexual adjustments between husbands and wives could be worked out more often if males ... understood that the reactions of their ... wives ......
Making the most of sex play
Overall my partner and I have been lucky to have enjoyed exploring eroticism and sex play together. Sure we have had our ups and downs like anyone else. There have also been many positive moments. When I am in a romantic mood, perhaps after a movie or after spending companionable time with my partner, it
Some women enhance their own (and a lover’s) apparent sexual prowess by…
Some women enhance their own (and a lover's) apparent sexual prowess by faking orgasm to meet expectations from pornography. Other men complain that their...
We orgasm by massaging either the penis or the clitoris. Specifically, we…
We orgasm by massaging either the penis or the clitoris. Specifically, we stimulate the corpora cavernosa within the erectile organ!
Men, remember, feel good as a result of having sex. Women want…
Men, remember, feel good as a result of having sex. Women want to feel good before having sex.
What is confusing, for women who masturbate, is that clitoral stimulation can…
What is confusing, for women who masturbate, is that clitoral stimulation can only lead to orgasm once a woman has achieved the necessary psychological...
How a man can have relationship sex more often
Nature never intended men to be monogamous. In every society, men’s greater inclination for promiscuity is accepted as a natural and defining characteristic of male sexuality. A woman offers sex to a man because she knows that if she doesn’t, he will go looking for another woman. So women’s need for male support, has contributed
As long as sex is dealt with in the current confusion of…
As long as sex is dealt with in the current confusion of ignorance and sophistication, denial and indulgence, suppression and stimulation, punishment and exploitation,...
I think sex is great but I don’t want to sleep with…
I think sex is great but I don't want to sleep with everyone or anyone that comes along. There has to be a special...
But isn’t it a wild coincidence that women, who boast about orgasm,…
But isn't it a wild coincidence that women, who boast about orgasm, are basically telling men exactly what they want to hear? Not only...
Women do not experience easy erotic arousal with a lover
Lesbians have the advantage (as women) of having a similar responsiveness as their lovers. Also being women, they are not so intent on genital stimulation, penetration and orgasm. A woman does not need a partner to respond to stimulation as some men do. Lesbians can be more relaxed about exploring sexual pleasuring without any pressure
Keep those posts coming Jane! A treasure of knowledge! Anton
Keep those posts coming Jane! A treasure of knowledge! Anton
A smaller percentage (69 per cent) of the females … said that…
A smaller percentage (69 per cent) of the females ... said that they had ever had erotic fantasies about males, and nearly a third...
Sexual relationships favour male orgasm
Younger women are often seen to be more sexual simply because, until they find their mate, they have more incentive to be popular with men. Dating includes sex as part of a ‘wine and dine’ package fuelled on both sides by sexual ego. Sex is fun because of the chase and the novelty of an
Men obtain sexual relief as well as significant erotic and emotional pleasure…
Men obtain sexual relief as well as significant erotic and emotional pleasure from penetrative sex (intercourse) and other activities with a lover. However, women...
Jane Thomas explains orgasm doesn’t just happen – women can enjoy eroticism.
Jane Thomas explains orgasm doesn't just happen - women can enjoy eroticism.
When you have an orgasm the pelvic floor muscles always contract. If…
When you have an orgasm the pelvic floor muscles always contract. If that does not happen you are not having an orgasm.
Many women see sex as an emotional and loving experience. Either they…
Many women see sex as an emotional and loving experience. Either they have no expectation for orgasm or they assume that their loving emotions...