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Ways Women Orgasm has one key aim: to highlight just how few…
Ways Women Orgasm has one key aim: to highlight just how few women are confident about discussing orgasm in any context and how even...
Intercourse is totally defined by male responses
Men have much more confidence over sexual matters than women because sex revolves around male responses . A man’s arousal motivates him to initiate sexual activity. His desire for penetration ensures that he wants to obtain sexual opportunities with a partner. His erection makes penetrative sex possible. But his orgasm ends his interest in engaging
At no time in their lives do college-bred males depend on marital…
At no time in their lives do college-bred males depend on marital intercourse to the extent that lower level males do throughout most of...
It would seem that to analyze what is probably an unusual group…
It would seem that to analyze what is probably an unusual group of women, and then to generalize from these women, is a mistake.
The most fundamental belief anyone has about female orgasm is that it…
The most fundamental belief anyone has about female orgasm is that it should occur from intercourse. But the precise mechanism that causes female orgasm...
Female sexuality is defined by men and their fantasies
Men’s acute arousal ensures that they approach sex with a clear agenda. Women are not aroused, which is why they talk about emotional sensations. [i] Whether in real life or in pornography a woman provides an orifice (mouth, vagina or anus) for a man to ejaculate into. Women rarely demonstrate sexual initiative. For example, they
Recently I was introduced to a writer named Jane and I became…
Recently I was introduced to a writer named Jane and I became a fan in an instant. I love her articles. Everyone should read...
In not a few instances the husband’s attitude had originated in his…
In not a few instances the husband's attitude had originated in his desire to find an excuse for his own extra-marital activity. What is...
Arousal comes from appreciating eroticism
Our ability to become sexually aroused through an appreciation of eroticism is a normal as well as a necessary part of human sexuality. Sex (male arousal and orgasm in particular) leads to family and yet hypocritically, while family is encouraged, sex remains taboo. Young boys learn about orgasm through masturbation because an erect penis is
The fact that sex information is so wrong today reflects the fear…
The fact that sex information is so wrong today reflects the fear that dominates the topic: fear of ridicule, fear of failure, fear of...
Jane Thomas explains how interesting it is when you try to talk…
Jane Thomas explains how interesting it is when you try to talk to women about sex & orgasm!
Sexuality is shaped by culture and history. For example, a hundred years…
Sexuality is shaped by culture and history. For example, a hundred years ago a woman who loved sex could be regarded as being mentally...
Pleasuring a woman is more likely to involve a man using his…
Pleasuring a woman is more likely to involve a man using his hands during sex than his penis. Pleasurable touching includes sensitive stroking, gentle...
How we know that women do not have a sex drive
Women’s dislike of eroticism means that men learn to keep their responses to themselves. Men’s embarrassment over communicating their sexual needs (due to the disgust women express over sexual urges) contributes to the confusion over female sexuality. Women can claim to have a sex drive because men never explain in explicit and graphic detail what
The higher degree of eroticism in the upper (social) level male may…
The higher degree of eroticism in the upper (social) level male may also be consequent on his greater capacity to visualize situations which are...
The fact that I cannot come during intercourse must mean that I…
The fact that I cannot come during intercourse must mean that I do not like it, or have a shame or fear of it,...
It seems likely that the less intellectual have more frivolous sexual encounters…
It seems likely that the less intellectual have more frivolous sexual encounters than those who are more considered about their choices. Some men choose...
Our biological motivation to enjoy arousal and orgasm
There is a precedent for female masturbation in the animal world. Some female mammals do masturbate but since they do not ejaculate it is difficult to establish that female mammals stimulate themselves to orgasm. Misconception #4: Because of the male experience, it is incorrectly assumed that women have a sex drive to achieve orgasm. Women
I ordered one of your books and looking forward to reading it….
I ordered one of your books and looking forward to reading it. Thanks again for the work you do in this field! Rahat
… in considering the data for any heterosexual activity it is, therefore,…
… in considering the data for any heterosexual activity it is, therefore, important to distinguish between the female’s experience and her responses to orgasm.
How to give a woman an orgasm during sex
The suggestion is that for the perfect sex life a woman just needs to find the right man: usually a loving and considerate partner, who will, of course, know how to give her an orgasm. Self-evidently a woman needs a considerate lover if intercourse is to be a love-making act otherwise it is simply rape.
Boys deserve a rational account of women’s emotional needs including an understanding…
Boys deserve a rational account of women's emotional needs including an understanding of why most girls hope for an emotional connection before they are...
I can provide sex education. But I cannot make everyone read it….
I can provide sex education. But I cannot make everyone read it. Nor can I make them accept it. Such is the emotional nature...
One study reported that many women find their most satisfying sexual experiences…
One study reported that many women find their most satisfying sexual experiences involve a feeling of being connected to someone else, rather than basing...
Good sex relies on the willingness of both partners to invest effort…
Good sex relies on the willingness of both partners to invest effort in open communication and contemplating new ideas.
Sex drive: a need to ejaculate through intercourse
Male sex drive arises from the build-up of sexual tension (through regular arousal). Men may be able to relieve tension to a degree by masturbating. But ultimately intercourse provides the most satisfying way for men to release their sexual emotions. This is a natural consequence of our reproductive biology. There is no point in men
Many a lower level male states quite frankly that he does not…
Many a lower level male states quite frankly that he does not like girls, and that he would have nothing to do with them...
He thinks if I don’t have an orgasm, he has failed me,…
He thinks if I don't have an orgasm, he has failed me, even though I've explained that it isn't that way at all.
Misunderstandings about how women achieve orgasm arise because of ignorance of what…
Misunderstandings about how women achieve orgasm arise because of ignorance of what responsiveness involves more than from wilful deceit.
Similarities between male and female responsiveness
The similarities between male and female responsiveness include: Mental arousal must always precede physical stimulation; The mind responds to erotic stimuli: concepts or objects; Orgasm is a one-off release followed by a recovery period; Orgasm involves identifying with the penetrating male; The same organ, the erectile phallus, is involved in orgasm; Orgasm is achieved by
I’ve said it before, but your body of work is amazing. Really…
I've said it before, but your body of work is amazing. Really feel close to you as you probe so deep into so many...
Although we may use orgasm as a measure of the frequency of…
Although we may use orgasm as a measure of the frequency of female activity, and may emphasize the significance of orgasm as a source...
Clitoral stimulation is not everything
As long ago as the 1950s the clitoris, and not the vagina, was acknowledged to be the origin of female orgasm. So that by the 1960s when Masters and Johnson explained female orgasm from intercourse alone, it was in terms of women finding positions and techniques for sexual intercourse that maximise the indirect clitoral stimulation
Girls deserve a rational account of men’s emotional needs including an understanding…
Girls deserve a rational account of men's emotional needs including an understanding of men's sex drive to ejaculate through intercourse.
If women experienced orgasms with a lover, the erotic turn-ons & anatomy…
If women experienced orgasms with a lover, the erotic turn-ons & anatomy involved in female orgasm would be common knowledge.
Men want more sex than they usually get… It’s no wonder, then,…
Men want more sex than they usually get… It’s no wonder, then, that couples argue most often about sexual frequency…
Genital stimulation only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused.
Genital stimulation only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused.
Intercourse is an act of mating and impregnation
Sexuality is about the act of mating. Humans do not have sex simply in order to reproduce. We also have sex to enjoy pleasure (recreation) and intimacy, which creates the emotional bonding that keeps couples committed to each other over the years needed to support a family (deferred reproduction). For most animals, a male fertilises
It might have been expected that the frequency of sexual activity for…
It might have been expected that the frequency of sexual activity for a married male would depend, to at least some degree, upon the...
I really felt I was earning my room and board in bed…
I really felt I was earning my room and board in bed for years, and if I wanted anything, my husband was more likely...
Whenever anyone (a man or a woman) stimulates a woman sexually, they…
Whenever anyone (a man or a woman) stimulates a woman sexually, they tend to stimulate a variety of anatomy. Stimulation is directed to every...
Understanding women’s sexual and emotional needs
Sadly, researchers are often just as impressed with far-fetched accounts of female orgasm as the general public. Academics debate pure conjecture such as female ejaculation (copious quantities of vaginal juices produced by aroused females) based on age-old male fantasies and up-suck of sperm (pelvic contractions supposedly arising from so-called vaginal orgasms) as if they are
I am really thankful to you for your articles, which I read…
I am really thankful to you for your articles, which I read regularly. They are helpful & reveal so many myths. Anil
… commercial exhibitions of female nudity … are taken by many of…
… commercial exhibitions of female nudity … are taken by many of the males in the audience to indicate that the exhibiting females are...
Clitoral stimulation
William Masters and Virginia Johnson’s research in the 1960s focused on intercourse but even they acknowledged that the clitoris is the source of female orgasm (NOT the vagina as is often assumed). To explain female orgasm during intercourse, they suggested that the hood of the clitoris is pulled each time the penis thrusts into the
Most adults would probably agree on the need to educate children about…
Most adults would probably agree on the need to educate children about sex. But it is much more difficult to obtain consensus on what...
My work involves explaining the anatomy & stimulation technique a woman uses…
My work involves explaining the anatomy & stimulation technique a woman uses to achieve orgasm.
But all too often, the fairer sex’s big-O falls among the ranks…
But all too often, the fairer sex’s big-O falls among the ranks of the Abominable Snowman – great, even magical, in theory, but not...
If the answer to achieving female orgasm were as simple as providing…
If the answer to achieving female orgasm were as simple as providing PHYSICAL stimulation, there wouldn't be a problem in the first place. After...
The frequencies of marital intercourse are two or three times as high…
The frequencies of marital intercourse are two or three times as high as in the intercourse of the single male.
It is still remarkable how easily we bring ourselves to orgasm during…
It is still remarkable how easily we bring ourselves to orgasm during masturbation, and how totally we can ignore this knowledge during sex with...
A man’s arousal is not only visible to the naked eye it…
A man's arousal is not only visible to the naked eye it is also easily perceived by a lover because of his shortness of...
Sexual pleasure: how responsive women reach orgasm
It is often assumed that every woman masturbates just as every man (96%) does. Yet there are no research findings to support this view. Alfred Kinsey found that a few [i] women (20%) masturbate regularly but not necessarily to orgasm. Most of these women only try masturbation for a few years. Kinsey’s research indicated that
Keep up the good work! You might be surprised to know that…
Keep up the good work! You might be surprised to know that you have even more admirers and people who are genuinely interested in...
In any sort of coitus there are many females who do not…
In any sort of coitus there are many females who do not reach orgasm in more than a portion of their contacts.
Orgasm during sex
Unfortunately, modern day sexology is not a science based on facts and logic but more a collection of beliefs and opinions. One expert will claim that all women orgasm by the age of 19; another asserts 30. Some say that clitoral stimulation is needed for orgasm and others that clitoral stimulation is irrelevant to female
It is inconceivable that women would not know what anatomy was involved…
It is inconceivable that women would not know what anatomy was involved if they routinely masturbated to orgasm. It is equally inconceivable that men...
Jane Thomas explains how women can enjoy bondage and sex play.
Jane Thomas explains how women can enjoy bondage and sex play.
Married women are facing more sexual problems than single girls, with problems…
Married women are facing more sexual problems than single girls, with problems ranging from a lack of interest in sex to failure to reach...
Clitoral stimulation is not everything. After all, our ability to reach orgasm…
Clitoral stimulation is not everything. After all, our ability to reach orgasm ultimately depends on what happens in the brain. Yet we rarely acknowledge...
Rejection of research based on talking to women
The value in using statistical sampling techniques (that attempt to ensure that the sample is representative of the general population), is that the finding can be applied to a much bigger population than the original sample. However, conclusions can only be extended to the population if the research is based on individuals who are selected
Gradually, over a period of years, many males who are aroused by…
Gradually, over a period of years, many males who are aroused by homosexual situations become more frank in their acceptance and more direct in...
The question should not be: Why aren’t woman having orgasms from intercourse?…
The question should not be: Why aren't woman having orgasms from intercourse? But, rather: Why have we insisted women should orgasm from intercourse?
Faking represents an implicit cooperation that suits both sexes. Women fake to…
Faking represents an implicit cooperation that suits both sexes. Women fake to obtain male approval. A man's sexual ego is reassured when a woman...
Women depend on a lover to stimulate them to orgasm
Everyone applauds the idea that a man should care about his partner’s orgasm. [i] But orgasm is an instinctive response to eroticism that occurs in our own brain not our partner’s. When a couple’s sex life falls apart, therapists focus on issues in the wider relationship rather than discuss sexual techniques. This is because sex
In most heterosexual relations, it is the male who is most interested…
In most heterosexual relations, it is the male who is most interested in having more frequent contacts, and it is he, therefore, who establishes...
What if female sexuality truly equalled male sexuality?
Imagine the scenario: a man and a woman facing each other, naked, in a world where men and women have an identical sex drive. So, of course, they are both standing there with an erection. Just to be clear: the man has an erect penis and the woman has an erect clitoris. Would they mutually
Most women have no idea how orgasm is achieved. So when researchers…
Most women have no idea how orgasm is achieved. So when researchers ask women about arousal and orgasm, they get confusion not science. The...
Even a responsive woman only discovers orgasm by accessing her subconscious arousal…
Even a responsive woman only discovers orgasm by accessing her subconscious arousal when she focuses on fantasies during masturbation alone
For women who no longer care for sex, or for those who…
For women who no longer care for sex, or for those who never did, refuge may be found in this inability to prove what...
If female masturbation were common more women would empathise with men’s use…
If female masturbation were common more women would empathise with men's use of pornography because they would understand that anyone who masturbates needs to...
Platonic love is just as powerful as sexual love
When sexual performance is discussed, the sexual ego, bravado and general unpleasantness that is so often displayed is due to insecurities. Everyone wants to be admired, to be thought normal and preferably to be a good performer. But orgasm is a personal pleasure. It has nothing to do with providing pleasure for another person. Men
For the married males who masturbate it (masturbation) is an increasingly important…
For the married males who masturbate it (masturbation) is an increasingly important source of orgasms with the advancing years.
We love each other very much. … But when we have intercourse…
We love each other very much. ... But when we have intercourse I can never feel anything.
Both heterosexual and lesbian women focus their appreciation of lovemaking (intercourse or…
Both heterosexual and lesbian women focus their appreciation of lovemaking (intercourse or other activities) on the closeness (emotional intimacy) and touching (sensual pleasure) involved...
Men may get more sex if they are willing to be realistic
Only some men like to offer their partners any form of foreplay. Other men (probably the majority) prefer to head straight for the joys of intercourse.[i] Because men are much more promiscuous than women on average, it is often assumed that all men are promiscuous. Many men think about having sex with various women throughout
I absolutely adore and love your articles. I find them extremely helpful….
I absolutely adore and love your articles. I find them extremely helpful. Respect what you write about.... Stephanie K.
This greater inclination of the human male towards oral activity is duplicated…
This greater inclination of the human male towards oral activity is duplicated among other species of mammals.
Lack of arousal during sex
Intimacy with a lover causes me to feel affectionate but I am rarely conscious of any sexual arousal. Whether it’s sex with a partner, or masturbation for that matter, I am usually pretty much stone cold in arousal terms at the start. I might conclude that I am frigid if it were not for the
A belief in vaginal orgasms is vital to men because it represents…
A belief in vaginal orgasms is vital to men because it represents a means of justifying regular intercourse.
Learn About Sexuality talks about sexuality: including our enjoyment of the erotic…
Learn About Sexuality talks about sexuality: including our enjoyment of the erotic fantasies and mental arousal that are essential to achieving orgasm.
To some degree, men experience their desire as independent of context -…
To some degree, men experience their desire as independent of context - often choosing to use the word ‘drive’.
Sometimes it is even suggested that there is some mysterious disadvantage to…
Sometimes it is even suggested that there is some mysterious disadvantage to female masturbation. It's not that women who do not masturbate have more...
The romantic pleasure a woman enjoys from sex
In modern times we talk of sexual partners but in the past, heterosexuals more often talked of lovers. Women do not think of sex in terms of the erotic turn-ons and genital stimulation as men do. Women think of sex in terms of a man’s sexual passion in romantic scenarios. A man’s desire is communicated
By 70 years of age, about one-quarter (27.0%) of the white males…
By 70 years of age, about one-quarter (27.0%) of the white males have become impotent; by 75 more than one half (55.0%) are so;...
Perhaps it is important here to say something about what most women…
Perhaps it is important here to say something about what most women mean when they say that stimulate their clitoris. In most cases they...
Men assume that a woman is always aroused and willing to engage…
Men assume that a woman is always aroused and willing to engage in intercourse. Yet men will only engage in sexual activity either when...
Welcome to Love Sex Intimacy!
Jane talks about ‘Exploring Sex Play’ with accompanying slides to download! I read a great deal as I was growing up and books often portray ideals rather than reality. Even as a teenager, I had questions about sex. When I had intercourse for the first time, at the age of eighteen, I already knew what
You are passionate about helping us unlock the mysteries of sex and…
You are passionate about helping us unlock the mysteries of sex and to understand it like never before. Thank you. Tsegaye
… the techniques of masturbation usually offer the female the most specific…
... the techniques of masturbation usually offer the female the most specific and quickest means for achieving orgasm. For this reason masturbation has provided...
Women’s sexual dysfunction
Although many sources refer to women’s ‘sexual dysfunction’, it is rare to find a definition of what is supposed to be sexually ‘normal’ for women in the first place. Sex involves both reproduction and sexual pleasure. So in reproductive terms, a man could be described as sexually dysfunctional if he cannot impregnate a female (male