Jane presents on ‘Sexual Pleasure’ to the Royal Society of Medicine, London, with speaker notes!
People are often shocked by my candour. Over decades, my partner and I have actively explored adventurous sex play to keep our sex life varied. I have also regularly enjoyed my response to eroticism, including mental arousal and sexual release, by using fantasies during masturbation alone. I am not a political activist. Sex is a male need and primarily a male pleasure but it is not a male right even within a committed relationship. A healthy sex life involves both partners communicating and investing effort in the context of a positive wider relationship.
I hope my websites: WaysWomenOrgasm.org, and LearnAboutSexuality.org and LoveSexIntimacy.org indicate my interest in promoting ways for men and women to live together in harmony by understanding each other’s very different emotional needs. Nosper Books is the self-publishing trade name I use for my books.
Nosper is an anagram of the word PERSON. It is deliberate that Nospers are identical and that the item distinguishing them as male or female is trivial. The addition of the ribbon 
or the bow-tie 
changes how we view their capabilities. The point being that gender influences our lives, sometimes for biological reasons, other times for cultural reasons.
My body of work, in sex education and original research, is a result of the following significant inputs:
(1) Motivation and interest: I am passionate about understanding sexuality. I have read erotic literature and reference books. I have masturbated regularly. I have initiated communication over sex. I have discussed sexuality with others in person and via the internet.
(2) Content and marketing: I have produced all the content for my books, websites and expert references without assistance from anyone else. I have marketed my work on a daily basis for many years on Twitter, the only social network to allow sexual content.
(3) Websites and books: Peter publishes my books and maintains my websites. He has written his own code to run all four websites. He had brought variety to our sex life (erotic movies & sex toys) and invested in techniques to explore my body’s responses.
As a young woman, I had the impression that men and women were the same. Initially the differences are subtle but they become more apparent as we grow older. It’s possible that we become more vocal about expressing our views over time and more confident in behaving as we are naturally inclined to do. Understanding these fundamental differences in men and women’s emotional needs can help couples in long-term relationships. We feel loved when we receive what we need emotionally. But loving someone is not about satisfying our own needs. We need to give a lover what they need.
Men often enjoy more solitary pursuits and they see their own personal success as core to how others value them. For men, intimacy revolves around their sex life with a lover. Men hope a partner will contribute enthusiastically to their intimate time together: sharing fantasies, adventurous sex play and affection.
Women often enjoy more companionable pursuits and they value their relationships as an essential part of their lives. For women, intimacy involves affectionate companionship. Women hope a partner will contribute enthusiastically to their intimate time together: sharing a sense of humour, conversation and affection.
Men and women cooperate together over marriage and family. But many women dislike any discussion involving references to genital activity outside lovemaking. It is difficult for women to appreciate what sexual pleasure means to men. Sex should be discussed as much as any other topic that is vital to human emotional happiness. We need to learn how the opposite sex experiences intimacy and how men and women’s very different emotional needs are satisfied.
Women’s sexual health
Amnesty International campaign to end Female Genital Mutilation:- FGM comprises all procedures involving partial/total removal of or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons. www.endfgm.eu
Reproductive Rights:- US abortion laws by state In most European countries women have the RIGHT to an abortion in the first 12 weeks:- EXCEPT Ireland (only to save the life of the mother), Poland, Spain, Portugal, Finland & Britain. European abortion laws
Women’s rights – Equality & the Law:- www.fairplayforwomen.com “Gender is often used as a polite term for sex, but they are not the same. Sex is biological. We are all born male or female. Gender is a social construct.” Biological sex
Excerpt from A Hand Full of Cards (ISBN 978-0956-894731)