Nina : Its amazing how misinformed the world is on female sexuality and orgasm. For so long I thought I was broken because I could only orgasm via masturbation solo or with a partner. Nina (cont): Once in my life a man was able to manually stimulate me to the point of orgasm but I was 15/16 years old! Since then its been my hand or a vibrator ONLY. Although I can do it in front of my husband. Im also on medication that most likely inhibits my arousal cycle. Nina (cont): I can have an orgasm with a vibrator or my hand. Never from penetration. My husband can perform the right mechanics on my vulva/clitoris but my head is too noisy to relax and orgasm. It also can take me MUCH longer to orgasm when Im with my husband versus alone. Nina (cont): Because (alone) I can think about whatever I want and not feel pressure or shame. As for my arousal, its far beyond a man and woman having sex. Thats not fantasy to me thats reality. My turn ons are more taboo and not something Ive ever done before. Thats what makes it exciting. Nina (cont): Two men and me, sometimes picturing another woman with my husband and I (Im not interested in women but watching her with him). Swingers, wife swap, same room sex with another couple. For me, novelty is crucial. Nina (cont): It cant be something Im currently doing. So simply me watching my husband go down on me or have sex with me cant get me aroused enough to orgasm. Its very sexy to watch but for me to orgasm the mental arousal needs to be intense and out of the ordinary. Nina (cont): I can ONLY orgasm with clitoral stimulation and it takes a while sometimes. Ive had an orgasm with my hand rubbing my clitoris as well as a vibrator pushed up against my clitoris. There has to be pressure on my clitoris with the vibrator. I often have to pull back the hood slightly once Im in the plateau phase. Nina (cont): Its often the top of my vulva always including the clitoris obviously I dont understand women who say they orgasm via penetration. I feel like thats anatomically impossible without any clitoral stimulation. My orgasm from my fingers feels the same as the vibrator. The orgasm they both cause feels the same for me. Nina (cont): I have sex with my husband because it feels good and I enjoy getting him to climax. Neither of us ever expect me to have an orgasm from sex ever. I agree that mental arousal is crucial. Nina (cont): Thats why its been difficult for me to have a man give me an orgasm. Much easier to masturbate when I dont have mental blocks. I could stimulate myself all day but Id my head isnt in the right space then nothing will happen. JANE: Saying that women respond to a gadget that was invented after 200,000 years after the emergence of homo sapiens is difficult to explain. It is a misconception that the glans is involved in achieving orgasm. Orgasm occurs in the brain so physical stimulation is much less important than mental arousal. JANE (cont): The quality of an orgasm depends on the erotic stimulus. Swinging is based on intercourse, which is not erotic for the receiver. Orgasm claims are popular but the challenge is explaining these claims. You have included many of my points but it is unhelpful to concoct a story that is engineered to sound convincing. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all