Ellen: Dr. Beverly Whipple of Rutgers University did a study and wrote a fabulous book about 20 years ago called ‘The G Spot’. It exists. JANE: I think you are confusing the emotional aspects of intercourse with a loving partner and the erotic experience of orgasm. Intercourse is simply an act of mating. JANE (cont): Women promote the Gspot because they prefer to rely on men’s sex drive rather than act on their own motivation to enjoy orgasm through clitoral stimulation. The clitoris is the female sex organ. Ellen: No confusion. My husband learned how to hold back when he was 37. His first wife didn’t demand that he become more responsible in his reactions. Ellen (cont): But I wouldn’t marry him if he continued with ‘hair trigger trouble’. So after a little Pleasure Balm, some excellent reading material and about 2 weeks of the Squeeze Technique, he relearned the habit of orgasm. Ellen (cont): He can now hold back until his loving conscientious side has expressed itself adequately and I’ve had plenty of time to get mine. Also, the clitoris for most women is their sole organ for pleasure, but only because they cannot see and have not been instructed about the Gspot. JANE: Why do only heterosexual women need a man to have an erection before they can have an orgasm? Why are so few women confident to talk about orgasm and only sex therapists talk of the Gspot? Intercourse is a mating act initiated by the male in order to impregnate the female. JANE (cont): I am not interested in trying to convince everyone but only in providing information to those who questions. Why do so many women fake orgasm? Why are so many heterosexual women couples unaware of the role of the clitoris? Ellen: Your limited sexual experience with a man who is a premature ejaculator is your cross to bear. Although you’re trying to come up with a reason why so many women fake orgasms: it’s because they want to appear sexually confident, easily pleased and desirable to their partner. Ellen (cont): Both men and women have the ability for double header orgasms. For the male it is a combination of penis and prostate. For the female it is the clitoris and Gspot. There is no doubt that the clitoris is the seat of physical pleasure for 95% of women. (Only 5% of women ever have a vaginal orgasm with any kind of regularity). Ellen (cont): My suggestions to you are try doing about 300 Kegels a day to tone, tighten, and sensitize your vagina. Get a powerful, hard plastic, tilted head vibrator, place it 1 1/2 inches up on the front center wall of the vagina (on the area that feels Ellen (cont): slightly lumpier as opposed to the rest of the vaginal wall which is smooth). Use lots of juicy lubricant and discover something about yourself. Once you’ve had a vaginal orgasm, you’ll never look back. I wish you the best in your adventure. JANE: Ellen, Your superior tone says it all. You are not trying to help anyone but simply promote your own ego (and your own sex therapy business). The Gspot was only invented in 1981. Why was it discovered (and promoted) by the sex industry rather than by couples? JANE (cont): Why do only women (and not men) need specialised knowledge and techniques to experience a normal and natural response? The pressure on men to delay their orgasm is implicit acknowledgement that they are naturally more responsive than women are. JANE (cont): You talk about men’s control over their responsiveness as if it were akin to toilet training. What proof do you have that every man can exert this kind of control over his responsiveness? A 37yearold man might be able to delay orgasm but what about younger men? JANE (cont): If only 5% of women respond to Gspot stimulation by do you imply that other women are either stupid or ignorant? The Gspot was a theory that has never been proven. Why do women have to buy a book or pay a therapist to benefit from this technique? This is a moneymaking exercise based on ignorance about female orgasm. JANE (cont): You suggest women use a vibrator. What did they do before vibrators were invented? This is clearly a ploy to make men feel inadequate. There is nothing sexy about a piece of plastic. It is the mind behind the penis that makes men much more exciting to interact with than a sex toy. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all