JANE: If cunnilingus provides female orgasms, one would think women would offer fellatio more willingly. Men believe cunnilingus causes female orgasm. But where does this belief come from? JANE (cont): It doesn’t come from any research findings. Cunnilingus is associated with pornography rather than real womens experiences. Most women dislike explicit sexual references to sexual anatomy such as the clitoris. JANE (cont): Women associate crude sexual urges and genital stimulation with male sexuality. Women express their sexuality in terms of lovemaking where their own arousal and orgasm are implicit and vague concepts. Hctor: Im not sure that position is supported by current empirical research. Largescale studies on female sexual response consistently show that clitoral stimulation is one of the most commonly reported pathways to orgasm. Thats not a pornographic construct its a wellestablished physiological and selfreported finding. Hctor (cont): Its also important to avoid generalizing women as a homogeneous group. Research on sexual scripts and gender socialization suggests variability in how women express and narrate desire, but that doesnt imply discomfort with explicit sexuality or lack of interest in orgasm. Hctor (cont): Reducing cunnilingus to pornography overlooks the substantial body of data on womens sexual pleasure and autonomy. The discussion would benefit from engaging with contemporary sex research rather than relying on broad assumptions. JANE: You previously confirmed the research finding that women look for connection rather than orgasm with a lover. I would be interested to know where your research in support of clitoral orgasms with a lover comes from. JANE (cont): Shere Hite found that a majority of women found that oral and manual stimulation with a lover does not regularly lead to orgasm. I find that researchers today based their opinions on women who promote orgasm on internet forums. These women do not represent the average woman. JANE (cont): No one can name any female erotic turnons with a lover. How do you think they are aroused (erotically not emotionally) and therefore having orgasms by any means with a lover? It is simply not possible to have orgasms from emotional connection. JANE (cont): Research indicates that women often mistake emotional responses for arousal and orgasm with a lover. Orgasm has nothing to do with a loving relationship as men should know! An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all