SJK: A woman who isnt satisfied by her lover loses her sex drive. She may have sex but faking becomes inevitable! JANE: Perhaps you could explain how a woman is satisfied by her lover? SJK: Satisfied by her lover means her lover must understand she is more than a sex toy and treat her as such. Understanding her as an equal and treating her with respect means he works with her not on her through communication. JANE: You mean show her respect? But how does this help her to reach orgasm? We are talking about a response to eroticism. I am not talking about just being amenable to giving pleasure to a lover. Orgasm relies on responding to erotic turnons. SJK: A partner who doesnt know or care about their lover wont give or even try to give the right turnons. JANE: Yes but what are the right turnons? Why dont women tell men what turns them on? Why is it such a mystery? Its important to differentiate between the romance (based on affectionate companionship) women need to be amenable to intercourse and the erotic fantasies they use to orgasm! SJK: Its when the two become one that things become interesting. JANE: Can you be more specific. I find have found that fantasies do not work with a lover. Do you masturbate to orgasm? SJK: When a lover is fulfilling my fantasy but that only happens when I explain my fantasy. JANE: Sorry what does that mean exactly? SJK: (silence) Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure