JANE: I decided to talk openly about my experiences to demonstrate that I can explain exactly what I do and what I think about in order to achieve orgasm that it is a reliable and repeatable experience. I hope that people can see that I am not idly boasting nor that I am trying to intimidate anyone. I am just putting my experiences out there in the name of science. Steven: I can only agree with you. If female orgasm is so easy why is it researched so often? Why are so many sex toys made for women? I think men certainly struggle to be logical about sex. JANE: I am angry that women are put in the position of faking their presumed liking for sex. Even when I have explained that I am never aroused and consequently never orgasm from any stimulation with a lover, a man cannot accept the facts. JANE (cont): He carries on trying to pleasure a woman and expecting her to be grateful for his attempts. He cant accept how futile it all is a waste of time. But also he is never willing to talk about what he could do to make sex less onerous for her. JANE (cont): I want men to try to understand the female perspective. Its not necessarily that women dont understand the male perspective. Its just that it is so relentless and puts a woman in such a pointless situation where she is obliged to playact to some degree to provide a show for a man JANE (cont): some appreciation of the eroticism a man enjoys. I think many women lack the imagination to be able to do this. Men are expecting something of women that is hugely unfair. The impossibility of women responding as men do, does not seem to strike men ever. Even when they have a partner who is not interested. Steven: I think the deceit of it all goes back to men finding it easier to believe all the lies around womens orgasms rather than admit the truth and damage the fragile ego with an admission that they need to work harder to accept womens sexuality and the differences. JANE: I found quickies helped. This involved my active engagement in providing different scenarios for intercourse that increased male arousal e.g. outdoors, in the shower, over the table, just about anywhere except in bed. But often the ideas came from me. My partner rarely suggested anything. Steven: Im sure there are many women who go along with the lies rather than being honest about their lack of responsiveness. Im sure those women that challenge you are more likely in denial than not as you have demonstrated they often cannot offer evidence to back up their claims. JANE: For a man, any sex is erotic. But for me, year after year, it was always the same basic act that is amazing for a man but so tedious for a woman. What are we supposed to do while a man is enjoying himself? There is a sense of humiliation in feeling a superfluous part of the process JANE (cont): that provides no arousal and minimal stimulation of any kind. I was certainly never moved by any emotional sensations. Sex was nothing compared to masturbation to orgasm (with fantasy). So I acted the prostitute. But after decades you run out of ideas. Steven: If us guys had to think of England while we were penetrated, ready or not, there would be a much better understanding of how women feel. As a man I know Im guilty of not talking and opening up. Guys seem to struggle with putting emotions into words. Steven (cont): Its amazing how couples manage even a passable sex life when you consider the differences between the sexes. Of course thats almost always because a woman puts up with sex when she doesnt get anything out of it. The world would be a much better place if sex was more openly discussed and people didnt hide from it. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure