JANE: Hi Bella, I have noticed that you support a more realistic view of women’s sexuality. I promote many of your quotes as part of my work on female sexuality. Are you interested in comparing notes? Bella:Hi, Jane. Thanks for reaching out. Im flattered you promote my work. Id love to compare notes or collaborate. JANE: Thanks Bella. I have been a freelance researcher for 20 years. I have focused on the work of Kinsey & Hite because they were explicit about female orgasm. I am challenging the sex advice currently given to women because I believe it is wrong. JANE (cont):The key issue is that women are told that reality essentially mirrors erotic fiction. Real women are assumed to orgasm in all the ways portrayed in pornography. JANE (cont):This has not been my experience. In line with Kinsey & Hite’s conclusions, I have found that orgasm occurs during solitary masturbatory activity. JANE (cont):I have not found anyone who can explain the orgasms women are assumed to have with a lover. Women talk of emotional sensations. JANE (cont):I define orgasm as a response to erotic stimuli. Arousal occurs in the mind. This causes the brain to send blood to the genitals. Genital stimulation is applied instinctively as a result of mental arousal. JANE (cont):I propose a universal definition of sexual response regardless of gender and orientation whether a person is alone or with a partner, regardless of their lovers gender. JANE (cont):The blood flow within the sex organ (penis/clitoris), resulting from mental arousal, is massaged to achieve orgasm. Bella: (silence) JANE:Hi Bella, I hope that I did not offend or intimidate you in some way? I would love to hear your experiences, ideas & conclusions. JANE (cont):In over 20 years of talking to women, I have found very few who have the confidence to discuss this topic in any level of explicit detail. Bella: Hi Jane, Apologies for not replying sooner. Hectic weekend with kids. I applaud your work to attain sexual universals. I think your definition of orgasm sounds accurate. Bella (cont): For me, Im lucky enough to be multi orgasmic. I find my orgasms to be more intense with a partner and are usually emotionally driven. Best of luck in all your endeavours. JANE: Thanks for your reply Bella. What does multi orgasmic mean? Surely these emotional orgasms are quite different to the orgasms men have that are triggered by erotic stimuli? JANE: I need explicit erotic stimuli to orgasm. What anatomy do you stimulate to orgasm both alone & with a partner? I am asking women to be explicit. I hope you don’t mind? Bella: (silence) Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism