Goodkitten38: I am turned on by the look in his eyes and his engorged member. His scent, and the quick intake of breath he makes. I am turned on by desperate grabs & greedy moans. JANE: I am talking about erotic turnons that cause the kind of arousal that leads to orgasm. Male sex drive cannot cause female orgasm. Your own mind needs to be aroused. Women enjoy being sexually admired. JANE (cont): When a man is aroused, a woman has the least work to do. The only proactive female role is to provide male turnons. Men focus on intercourse, which has nothing to do with achieving female orgasm but provides easy male orgasms (2 mins on avg). Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism