JANE: A woman doesnt want sex for the same reasons a man does. A woman enters a new relationship looking for romance and love. Sex comes as a consequence. Sherry: Not sure I agree 100%. Sex is an important part of it. JANE:Not according to the research. Why is it important to you? Women talk of emotional intimacy & connection. They enjoy pleasing a lover & JANE (cont): feeling desired. But these emotional responses operate at the start of relationships. Over decades a woman needs to invest in her lover’s needs. Sherry: Aside from the health benefits I experience from a regular healthy sex life, such as natural pain relief, better sleep, lower blood pressure, decreased depression and anxiety. Sherry (cont):I also find it sparks my imagination, increases my energy levels, fuels my passions, helps to create trust, builds relationships and Sherry (cont): allows you to learn so much about the other person, plus generally makes me feel good, healthy and happier. Sherry (cont): I think sex is an investment in myself and my needs and that pleasing my partner, feeling desired, romance, even love is more of the ‘side effects’ or additional outcomes. JANE:You are describing a sense of general wellbeing that can come from being in love. You are referring to your needs without mentioning any erotic rewards. JANE (cont): Arousal & orgasm depend on identifying with erotic scenarios. Sexual response depends on erotic stimuli. You seem to be agreeing that women look for emotional rewards. Sherry: Silence An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all