JANE: Thanks Steven for your amazing support over so many years! You are a very thoughtful person! My supporters all male keep my morale going, which is very important for my work. My own responsiveness seems to be finally disappearing after 47 years (17 until now). I will be 65 next week. JANE (cont): Last night I watched the film Peaky Blinders and came home inspired by the last lovemaking scene. I decided to write about my investment in my partner’s sex life. The positives and the frustrations. I became aware of my physical arousal, so I tried masturbating. JANE (cont): I had an orgasm after months of failing to do so using my usual fantasies. I still had to use fantasy. It is interesting to me that there is a wall between my physical response and achieving a sexual release, which seems to depend on fictional scenarios rather than my experiences with a partner. JANE (cont): This is not inhibition, as therapists might suggest, but rather it is just how my responsiveness works. Of course, I have never met another woman to compare notes with. None of them are interested. I have concluded that my experience is very rare. Steven: Hi Jane, glad you enjoyed the film. I havent seen it myself. Ive watched Peaky Blinders on TV and enjoyed it. However, its not my wifes cup of tea. Interestingly I had a similar experience last week. Steven: I watched the film 9 songs on DVD known as the most explicit mainstream movie shot in the UK. Whilst the music wasnt for me, the sex scenes of very normal sex were extremely erotic. They affected me in a way I hadnt experienced in a long time. Steven: I ended up feeling very aroused like I was young again instead of being 60 later this year. It is testament to the importance of the brain and our fantasies in achieving orgasm. It also demonstrates to me that its easy Steven: to become jaded by repeating the same fantasies and the diminishing returns of doing so. Several nights I replayed the scenes in my head as I fell asleep, never failing to be aroused by them. When I was alone, I masturbated several times and enjoyed them immensely. JANE: That’s interesting! Glad you found a new source of arousal. I don’t often write explicit content relating to my sexual experiences but it will be interesting to see if I can benefit again from the physical arousal I felt this time. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism