Jane:My experience is that there is no arousal with a lover. When I masturbate, I have to use a highly focused concentration on an erotic fantasy every single time. Jane (cont):Without a fantasy, nothing happens. The mental arousal causes blood to flow to the genitals & makes orgasm possible. Tripeira:My experience is a bit different. Having or not a partner, I need some mental work. Either by fantasies or by thinking of someone specifically. Tripeira (cont):But I require physical stimulation and at the same time some sort of erotic thoughts. And most of my orgasms are clitoral. Tripeira (cont):Anyway, orgasming via the clitoris is always much more satisfying and rewarding and intense. Intercourse is the way to have fun and a great deal of pleasure and other things but is not the way I orgasm. Jane:Thanks for being explicit very few women ever comment on sex! By the clitoris do you mean the glans (the externally visible nub of the organ)? Because the erectile tissue is within the internal organ. So stimulating the glans does not cause orgasm. Jane (cont): Can you describe the pleasure of intercourse? Is it emotional (loving) or erotic (related to the genitals)? What physical sensations do you have? Why do you offer a man intercourse if it is nonorgasmic? Jane (cont):What does orgasm mean to you? What sex play do you enjoy with a lover? I know from personal experience that the kind of fantasies that cause orgasm do not work with a lover, so what erotic turnons do you use with a partner? Jane (cont): I hope you realise that you can contact me privately to discuss this? My email is on the contact page of all my websites. I get a lot of men pretending to be women, so it is useful to have a fuller conversation to establish that you are a woman! Tripeira: Silence Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure