JANE: If women enjoyed their sexual experiences, surely older women would be more sexually willing than younger women? Zhen: Not necessarily. Opportunity matters: Many older women have less partner availability (widowhood, partner illness). Studies show many older women remain sexually active when they have a partner available, and satisfaction is more tied to relationship factors than age itself. Zhen (cont): Physical changes can reduce comfort. Around menopause, vaginal dryness can make sex less appealing. Desire isnt always spontaneous. For many women, desire is often responsive (emerges after intimacy or connection), so willingness depends on context, stress, and relationship quality not just age alone. JANE: Kinsey found that women’s sexual responsiveness does not decline with age. Only male responsiveness declines very gradually from adolescence until old age. I agree that women’s sexual motivation is more about her willingness to please a male partner than to achieve orgasm. JANE (cont): I have masturbated regularly throughout my life from the age of seventeen until my midsixties. Other women do not masturbate to orgasm and so they assume that emotional responses equate to what men call arousal. JANE (cont): This causes much confusion when sexologists assume that men and women are talking about the same response. Responsiveness depends on having a brain that responds positively to erotic stimuli. Most women dislike any form of eroticism. So clearly, they are not having orgasms by any means. Zhen: Your detailed and articulate logic is impressive, but it raises a few questions. First, isn’t the fact that many women do not reach orgasm through penetrative sex a structural issue related to anatomy rather than evidence that they dislike sex? Zhen (cont): Second, while your personal experience is valuable, can we logically conclude that all women are the same as you? Third, saying that women only have sex to please their partners is just one possibility. Doesn’t your argument exclude many other possibilities where women desire pleasure for themselves? JANE: No one has ever said that women dislike sex in general. Kinsey held private interviews with over five thousand women. He concluded that women orgasm most reliably through masturbation alone. This is my personal experience. So I know that I am not alone because of Kinsey’s findings. JANE (cont): The research that explains my experience has been ignored. It is still assumed that women orgasm from intercourse. Men want women to offer intercourse and women want to enjoy intercourse more than they do. But wishful thinking is not science. JANE (cont): Telling women that they should orgasm from intercourse a biological impossibility does not lead to more sex for men. Kinsey found that intercourse frequencies are determined by male sex drive. This ignorance leads to men and women feeling inadequate. JANE (cont): No one can orgasm from stimulation that does not continue to orgasm. Intercourse stops when a man ejaculates and does not continue to female orgasm. It’s the wrong anatomy, the wrong stimulation and no one can name any female turnons with a lover. JANE (cont): Research indicates that women have sex to perpetuate the emotional bonding that encourages a man to support the family. They assume emotional responses equate to arousal. Please study the research findings and stop promoting male fantasies and erotic fiction. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure