JANE: Women’s orgasms involve different anatomy because men stimulate the anatomy that arouses them. Interesting, don’t you think? JANE (cont): In fact, even women who did orgasm during intercourse most frequently gave affection and closeness as their basic reason for liking intercourse, rarely mentioning orgasm. (Shere Hite) Hctor: Thats interesting that you mention that. One small contribution I can offer comes from my experience as a sexologist. Hctor (cont): I often ask my heterosexual male patients, What are you looking for in sex? and What do you think your partner is looking for in sex? Hctor (cont): Most of them answer that both are seeking pleasure and orgasms. The interesting part comes when their partners respond: Connection. JANE: Thanks Hector for your comment! All the research that has been done on sexual response confirms your experience. Women talk of a loving relationship and emotional connection. They accept emotional rewards as well as financial rewards in exchange for offering the regular intercourse men want. JANE (cont): Men of course insist that women must want orgasm just as much as a man does. Yet men rarely talk of orgasm as a key pleasure. They enjoy the erotic arousal of penetration and the sensations of thrusting. Men are physical and women are emotional partly due to the lack of arousal they experience with a lover. JANE (cont): Responsive women orgasm by using surreal erotic fantasies that align with the psychology of the penetrating male. These cannot be used with a partner where a woman assumes a receiver role. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all