JANE: Men are naturally promiscuous. So a woman has to offer sex to keep a man committed to supporting her family goals. Cleo: How sad…. JANE: Not really. Men & women cooperate with each other. Each gets what they want emotionally. Men get regular sex. Women get family & if they are lucky affectionate companionship. Sex is a male need. But initially a woman may interpret a man’s sex drive as romantic passion. Cleo: I think I interpreted the phrasing as the woman not having a choice. She has to offer sex (whether she wants to or not). I took those words too literally though, yes? JANE: I think most women know instinctively that if they want a relationship with a man, they are obliged to offer regular sex. Of course, many women stop offering sex, once their children grow up. This depends on a woman’s financial independence. Cleo: What is the situation for men who arent interested in sex? JANE: Have you met many heterosexual men who were attracted to you but who didn’t want to have sex with you? There aren’t many of them… Cleo: Yes, Ive met a few. I realise thats not the norm though, most men would have sex with literally any female, especially when they are young and full of hormones. They become more selective as they age, or at least thats been my experience. I think most humans equate attraction with sex though. JANE: Women are often looking for closeness, affection & emotional intimacy. They offer sex in the hope of getting these things. But men don’t necessarily associate sex with affection. For men, sex is a biological need regardless of any relationship. Cleo: Yep, that makes perfect sense. So in that case, would you say for the majority of women, sex is transactional? JANE: Definitely. Sex is always a trade for women either love or money. Most women are looking for a relationship. They appreciate male support (for family) & affection. Women provide regular sex to keep men happy. Women don’t need sex to make an emotional connection men do. Cleo: Thats more or less how Ive thought it worked for most people. Thank you for being open to communicating with me about this! An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all