Modibbo: Please, what is with a man who, after a satisfactory sexual intercourse with a woman, the heart of such a man later becomes so enveloped by profound sadness that he knows not where it comes from? JANE: I have never heard of this experience before. I would have thought that after sex a man would be satisfied and relaxed. Perhaps your wife is not responding as you would hope? Perhaps you know she does not enjoy the same pleasure? Modibbo: Thank you for your concerns. Your explanation reminded me to either look inward to myself or to the wife, and to what we, or I , do. That’s an important clue. I appreciate that. Modibbo (cont): The choice is probably a second marriage. I’m Muslim. Islam allows polygyny, one man can have up to four wives, depending on his wealth and capacity to handle larger family. I want a second wife to see where the problem is. If it works, I’d praise God. JANE: I’m not sure what you are looking for in a woman. Regarding sex, all women are essentially the same. But it is best to choose a generous woman who loves you. A woman gives through sex and men need to give in the wider relationship not just paying but investing in caring and listening. Modibbo: Thank you dearly. Before I used to focus on looks, figure of the woman, shapes, mounds, contours and sexuality. All my friends, us men, we think that women are different sexually. Those of us men who have significant sexual experiences with different types of women from our youth tell us that women are sexually different in ways that their bodies look. Modibbo (cont): They say that plumpy women with big, well rounded ‘booties’ are lush, with much lubrication and vaginal gush during sex. They say that skinny women are drier, sexier, more demanding sexually and not easily tired in bed. These men said that women with curves, nicely shaped figures and a certain kind of sexual walk are the best sexually. Modibbo (cont): In spite of all this and all my readings, I find your writing educational in ways I’ve never before encountered. That is why your websites mean so much to me. Thank you. JANE: Your words confirm the general conclusion that men see women as sex objects rather than people. Women are unresponsive with a lover so men only see women’s behaviours. Some women are much more willing to pleasure a man than others. Some do this for money and others do so for love. Modibbo: These are realms of knowledge about women I don’t know much about. That’s why I find your work unusual and fresh. I can only respond to women as a man, not as an expert in female sexuality. It is scary for me to respond to women clinically because I love women sexually, romantically and if possible, spiritually. I shall keep reading your work. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all