Zama: Ive never found it embarrassing to talk about sex. The way I see it, its my body. I need to benefit from it and I love learning more. Theres nothing I enjoy more than shocking a man in bed! JANE: So how do you achieve orgasm? Zama: A bit of emotional connection, some romance, also clitoris rubbing from him. I love being talked to! Loads of imagination. JANE: Thats not an orgasm. Orgasm is an erotic response. It has nothing to do with a relationship. Many women confuse orgasm with the emotional aspects of sex. Female orgasm is achieved by masturbating alone. Zama: So the getting wet means youre aroused belief is a lie? All those feel good moments during sex are what then? Me creaming is not an orgasm? Ive seen enough evidence of it around the base of a penis with a condom on. I wanna know what Ive been experiencing all along. JANE: Vaginal lubrication assists with intercourse and so reproduction. It has little to do with arousal. Orgasm occurs in the brain. There is nothing wrong with enjoying emotional and sensual pleasures! Zama: Does this mean sex isnt at all that necessary for women? We can just masturbate and be happy. We only need sex for reproduction. Would this explain why man are ready to pass out after sex and women wanna cuddle and talk sweet nothings? JANE: Exactly! Responsive women masturbate (to orgasm) as a means of going to sleep. After orgasm there is a period of complete release and relaxation. Women do not need sex as men do. JANE (cont): Without reliable contraception, few women would have intercourse unless they wanted a baby. Women can enjoy the admiration & passion of a man making love to them. So sex tends to be more fun early on. Zama: That explains a lot. When I cant sleep. Thanks for all the information. Its been mindblowing to say the least. Now I can enjoy my singleton state without pressure. Men hardly emotionally support us in any case JANE: Well you have to find a good one. Its difficult for men to understand womens emotional feelings. We want someone to care about us. Men tend to be more solitary but women often appreciate having the support of a man especially when they want a family. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure