Deborah:In my younger days, sex was about my partner reaching orgasm but now I am a more mature woman it is a much better experience, which is about us both getting pleasure and not always orgasm being the key point. Deborah (cont): My partner is a wonderful man who allows me to respond to him in a way that is loving and vice versa. I hope that makes sense? Deborah (cont): Your work is great! Anything that gets women talking about sex has to be a good thing. I have some friends who cant even say the word! JANE: I am trying to get women to be explicit. Orgasm is a specific phenomenon. Usually women are talking about emotional and sensual feelings with a lover. JANE (cont): If a woman is responsive (orgasms alone), she knows that orgasm is not possible with a lover. But very few women are responsive enough to orgasm. Theres a huge amount of hype. Deborah: In all honesty I have been having orgasms alone since Ive been about 12. I do have orgasms with my lover too, that has increased with age and my health issues strangely enough. Deborah (cont): I dont know about hype. Ive been married over 20 years. I have multiple orgasms both alone and with my partner. Maybe Im unusual. Its better now weve taken the pressure off. More women being explicit has to be a good thing. JANE:What stimulation do you use? What erotic turnons do you use? Deborah: Well, I guess its like choosing dinner. Moods are never quite the same but I generally have a good imagination. Im not big on toys or porn. JANE: Sorry, I dont understand. Do you stimulate the vagina or the clitoris? What stimulation technique do you use? What mental turnons do you use? We are talking about a response to eroticism after all. Deborah: Im surprised to be asked this by another woman. Its not something I would share with what is basically a stranger on social media. Deborah (cont): Something about this doesnt ring true and I have much else to deal with in life. So goodbye. I am ending any further communication on this topic. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism