Penny: After I got married, I was talking to a friend of mine about sex. I found out that, though she’d been married for four years and had two kids, she’d never had an orgasm. JANE : Very few women talk about orgasm. Typically, men do. I have concluded that women are not erotically aroused with a lover. JANE (cont): It is very evident that most women have no idea what an orgasm is. It is fundamentally a response to erotic stimuli and has nothing to do with emotional factors. Penny: Yeah, that makes sense. Needless to say, I encouraged her to buy a vibrator. JANE: Nice idea. But I have not found that vibrators help with orgasm. The reason is that orgasm is not just about physical stimulation. JANE (cont): First the brain responds to psychological erotic stimuli. This explains how men get an erection. Men respond visually with a lover. Women use fantasy alone. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all