In some cases, it was not even clear to the woman herself…
In some cases, it was not even clear to the woman herself whether there had been an orgasm or merely high levels of arousal…
Scientists research female orgasm because they hope to discover what the average…
Scientists research female orgasm because they hope to discover what the average couple has missed. But if women routinely had orgasms with a lover,...
I have to say I love your sexuality posts, including your candour…
I have to say I love your sexuality posts, including your candour and personal sexual history used as a basis for explaining all things...
Many males … poorly understand the techniques by which females masturbate, the…
Many males … poorly understand the techniques by which females masturbate, the anatomy which may be involved … and the part which fantasy plays...
Either new anatomy (such as the clitoris) or new areas (such as…
Either new anatomy (such as the clitoris) or new areas (such as the G-spot) are suggested in a never-ending search for the magic button...
… men wish that women’s sexuality was like theirs, which it isn’t….
… men wish that women’s sexuality was like theirs, which it isn’t. Male sexual response is far brisker and more automatic… Your clothes,...
I am told that women ‘enjoy’ sex or even ‘love’ sex (and…
I am told that women 'enjoy' sex or even 'love' sex (and why not for heaven's sake?) but then they talk of affection. It...
Many younger females and, for that matter, a certain portion of the…
Many younger females and, for that matter, a certain portion of the older and married female population, may engage in such specifically sexual activities...
I would like to know more about sex, but most of the…
I would like to know more about sex, but most of the books I have read are not very revealing. They don’t answer the...
Women’s inability to reconcile their amazing good luck with the experiences of…
Women's inability to reconcile their amazing good luck with the experiences of millions of other women make it clear that they are seeking political...
Keep it up, Jane! I like your research and visions as an…
Keep it up, Jane! I like your research and visions as an author. Josh
There are few married persons who have not, at least on occasion,…
There are few married persons who have not, at least on occasion, recognized a serious need for additional information to meet some of the...
We cannot legislate for sex education in the sense of insisting that…
We cannot legislate for sex education in the sense of insisting that everyone agrees on the facts and logic involved. Education depends on an...
If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.
If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.
We often talk about sexual arousal as if an erection or orgasm,…
We often talk about sexual arousal as if an erection or orgasm, for that matter, is caused purely by physical stimulation. This is partly...
The failure of the scientist to go further than he has in…
The failure of the scientist to go further than he has in studies of sex is undoubtedly a reflection of society's attitudes in this...
Again, the penis contains within its shaft two caverns or spaces known…
Again, the penis contains within its shaft two caverns or spaces known as corpora cavernosa, which fill with blood during sexual excitation ... The...
The fact that women orgasm most easily by masturbating alone is counterintuitive…
The fact that women orgasm most easily by masturbating alone is counterintuitive because it is not the male experience.
I find it refreshing for someone to be so direct and honest…
I find it refreshing for someone to be so direct and honest in their approach. Glad I found this site... Vernon
… the female has a greater capacity for being faithful … she…
... the female has a greater capacity for being faithful ... she is generally more inclined to consider the moral implications of her sexual...
We need stimulation to continue until orgasm is achieved and not beyond….
We need stimulation to continue until orgasm is achieved and not beyond. But men want to believe (beyond all logic) that women orgasm from...
How do women learn what an orgasm is? Your parents aren’t talking…
How do women learn what an orgasm is? Your parents aren’t talking to you about it. Where would you learn? I don’t know. Maybe...
As long as we expect women to respond as men do then…
As long as we expect women to respond as men do then we will always conclude that women are dysfunctional.
Since only 50 per cent of the population is exclusively heterosexual ……
Since only 50 per cent of the population is exclusively heterosexual ... and since only 4 per cent of the population is exclusively homosexual...
It’s grossly built up into something it’s not. It’s just a thing…
It's grossly built up into something it's not. It's just a thing you have to do because guys expect it (intercourse).
A woman knows how men achieve orgasm, not from sex education or…
A woman knows how men achieve orgasm, not from sex education or because men tell her but, because she can observe her lovers. A...
Thanks for sharing! Your commitment to sharing and promoting a positive outlook…
Thanks for sharing! Your commitment to sharing and promoting a positive outlook on sexual wellness is much appreciated. Clair
… the sexual activities of females are often very discontinuous. Between periods…
... the sexual activities of females are often very discontinuous. Between periods of activity there may be weeks, or months and sometimes years in...
The reality of sex is so far removed from how it is…
The reality of sex is so far removed from how it is portrayed in fictional media that most women prefer to say nothing. Any...
According to some scholars, the allegedly high prevalence of female sexual dysfunction…
According to some scholars, the allegedly high prevalence of female sexual dysfunction has to do with the fact that the standard of ‘normality’ is...
Any woman brave enough to question is labelled ‘sexually dysfunctional’ and this…
Any woman brave enough to question is labelled 'sexually dysfunctional' and this humiliation alone is enough to silence most people.
It is possible that the freer discussion of the homosexual today, both…
It is possible that the freer discussion of the homosexual today, both in technical and in popular print, has made the public more conscious...
Often I resent the fact that my husband limits most of his…
Often I resent the fact that my husband limits most of his kissing to sex-resulting situations.
Only a handful of women describe experiences that reflect popular beliefs about…
Only a handful of women describe experiences that reflect popular beliefs about female sexuality. Most women never comment. Until millions of women support these...
Just wanted to thank you in person. I love your posts -…
Just wanted to thank you in person. I love your posts - open honest and informative. Jin-ah
Transvestism and homosexuality are totally independent phenomena, and it is only a…
Transvestism and homosexuality are totally independent phenomena, and it is only a small portion of the transvestites who are homosexual in their physical relationships.
Only men ever discuss female orgasm openly and confidently. So it’s no…
Only men ever discuss female orgasm openly and confidently. So it's no wonder that sex education and pornography are essentially the same thing.
That said, a 2017 study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual…
That said, a 2017 study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the average adult currently enjoys sex 54 times a...
Some women refer to ‘making love’ because the term more accurately describes…
Some women refer to 'making love' because the term more accurately describes their motives in terms of loving emotions rather than as an explicit...
Contacts with prostitutes are most frequently had by males of the lowest…
Contacts with prostitutes are most frequently had by males of the lowest social levels.
I’ve learned that unless a female wants sex, it is wise not…
I've learned that unless a female wants sex, it is wise not to touch a man too much.
The emphasis on clitoral stimulation (as if it is the only factor…
The emphasis on clitoral stimulation (as if it is the only factor in orgasm) is misleading because it ignores the much bigger issue of...
In Indian society discussing sexual topics is taboo. But I feel one…
In Indian society discussing sexual topics is taboo. But I feel one should understand human sexuality for our own wellbeing. Your bold writing is...
Some 95 per cent of the females in the sample had heard…
Some 95 per cent of the females in the sample had heard or read stories that were deliberately intended to bring erotic response, but...
Men believe that cunnilingus causes female orgasm. But where does this belief…
Men believe that cunnilingus causes female orgasm. But where does this belief come from? It doesn't come from any research findings. Cunnilingus is clearly...
However we feel about fantasies, it is clear that sex is not,…
However we feel about fantasies, it is clear that sex is not, for most of us, just a rubbing together of bodies, but involves...
It’s a shame that some women are so sensitive to men’s sexual…
It's a shame that some women are so sensitive to men's sexual remarks, which are more often than not intended as a compliment. The...
Like many other physiologic functions, erotic response depends upon a remarkably fool…
Like many other physiologic functions, erotic response depends upon a remarkably fool proof mechanism. When one reaches the limit of physiologic endurance he no...
I love physical affection and touching but find that this inevitably leads…
I love physical affection and touching but find that this inevitably leads to sexual desire on the part of men. Therefore I refrain from...
Women get angry and defensive when asked to explain their beliefs about…
Women get angry and defensive when asked to explain their beliefs about how they orgasm. They boast about orgasm by reflecting beliefs about female...
You have a wonderful collection of books! Thank you for sharing them…
You have a wonderful collection of books! Thank you for sharing them with me! MaryLee
Sexual adjustments between husbands and wives could be worked out more often…
Sexual adjustments between husbands and wives could be worked out more often if males ... understood that the reactions of their ... wives ......
Some women enhance their own (and a lover’s) apparent sexual prowess by…
Some women enhance their own (and a lover's) apparent sexual prowess by faking orgasm to meet expectations from pornography. Other men complain that their...
Men, remember, feel good as a result of having sex. Women want…
Men, remember, feel good as a result of having sex. Women want to feel good before having sex.
What is confusing, for women who masturbate, is that clitoral stimulation can…
What is confusing, for women who masturbate, is that clitoral stimulation can only lead to orgasm once a woman has achieved the necessary psychological...
As long as sex is dealt with in the current confusion of…
As long as sex is dealt with in the current confusion of ignorance and sophistication, denial and indulgence, suppression and stimulation, punishment and exploitation,...
I think sex is great but I don’t want to sleep with…
I think sex is great but I don't want to sleep with everyone or anyone that comes along. There has to be a special...
But isn’t it a wild coincidence that women, who boast about orgasm,…
But isn't it a wild coincidence that women, who boast about orgasm, are basically telling men exactly what they want to hear? Not only...
Keep those posts coming Jane! A treasure of knowledge! Anton
Keep those posts coming Jane! A treasure of knowledge! Anton
A smaller percentage (69 per cent) of the females … said that…
A smaller percentage (69 per cent) of the females ... said that they had ever had erotic fantasies about males, and nearly a third...
Men obtain sexual relief as well as significant erotic and emotional pleasure…
Men obtain sexual relief as well as significant erotic and emotional pleasure from penetrative sex (intercourse) and other activities with a lover. However, women...
When you have an orgasm the pelvic floor muscles always contract. If…
When you have an orgasm the pelvic floor muscles always contract. If that does not happen you are not having an orgasm.
Many women see sex as an emotional and loving experience. Either they…
Many women see sex as an emotional and loving experience. Either they have no expectation for orgasm or they assume that their loving emotions...
It is a mistake to assume that a sophistication of technique would…
It is a mistake to assume that a sophistication of technique would be equally significant to all persons. For most of the population, the...
98 percent of the women … said they would like more verbal…
98 percent of the women … said they would like more verbal closeness with the men they love; they want the men in their...
Orgasm occurs in the brain. It is not just a question of…
Orgasm occurs in the brain. It is not just a question of physical stimulation. Some form of fantasy is needed.
… Jane’s website is genuinely trying to help women with honest information…
... Jane's website is genuinely trying to help women with honest information ... AND it helps men too. If they want a better perspective....
There are probably very few heterosexual males who would not take advantage…
There are probably very few heterosexual males who would not take advantage of the opportunity to observe a nude female, or to observe heterosexual...
Sexuality is about enjoying sexual pleasure with a lover. We experience sensual,…
Sexuality is about enjoying sexual pleasure with a lover. We experience sensual, emotional and erotic pleasure.
Orgasms are natural, but intercourse is not, for many of us, the…
Orgasms are natural, but intercourse is not, for many of us, the easiest way to have them.
If sex provides men and women with equal pleasure, why do women…
If sex provides men and women with equal pleasure, why do women so often want to obtain a financial advantage from their sexual relationships...
Most of the female masturbatory techniques are labial, or more often, clitoral….
Most of the female masturbatory techniques are labial, or more often, clitoral. A high proportion of the female homosexual relations similarly depend upon stimulation...
Yes, I like intercourse. I like men, their bodies, and pleasing them.
Yes, I like intercourse. I like men, their bodies, and pleasing them.
Women mistakenly assume that emotional stimuli (such as the sound of a…
Women mistakenly assume that emotional stimuli (such as the sound of a lover's voice, kissing or caressing) cause arousal. But mental arousal depends on...
The testes may seem to hurt when there is unrelieved erotic arousal…
The testes may seem to hurt when there is unrelieved erotic arousal ... Such aches are usually relieved in orgasm because the muscular tensions...
One of the most confusing things about how female sexuality is portrayed…
One of the most confusing things about how female sexuality is portrayed in erotic fiction, is the implication that women achieve orgasm by stimulating...
Approximately 30 percent of women don’t have sexual fantasies. For some, it’s…
Approximately 30 percent of women don’t have sexual fantasies. For some, it’s a vestige of the old notion that fantasy is something only men...
It is easy for a woman to pleasure a man and the…
It is easy for a woman to pleasure a man and the fantasy leads us to assume that it ought to work the other...
Among less restrained couples deep kissing is a simultaneous accompaniment of actual…
Among less restrained couples deep kissing is a simultaneous accompaniment of actual coitus, especially at the moment of orgasm.
… there was no correlation with frequency of orgasm: women who did…
… there was no correlation with frequency of orgasm: women who did not orgasm with their partner were just as likely to say they...
Some women get an ego boost from exhibiting their sexuality. In an…
Some women get an ego boost from exhibiting their sexuality. In an attempt to be more convincing, they try to justify their orgasms (which...
Your work matches my lifelong hunches, borne out by my imperfect observation….
Your work matches my lifelong hunches, borne out by my imperfect observation. Your level-headed delivery comes off as helpfully trustworthy & authoritative. Pawel
Many females consider that male genitalia are ugly and repulsive in appearance…
Many females consider that male genitalia are ugly and repulsive in appearance … there seems no doubt that these reactions largely depend upon the...
Pornography provides boys with completely unrealistic images of women’s sexuality. … This…
Pornography provides boys with completely unrealistic images of women's sexuality. ... This issue needs to be addressed by sex educators if boys are to...
In fact, since only about 30 percent of women achieve orgasm with…
In fact, since only about 30 percent of women achieve orgasm with intercourse but over 80 percent experience a climax with masturbation, orgasm by...
Yet many women are shocked by eroticism (whether visual or verbal pornography,…
Yet many women are shocked by eroticism (whether visual or verbal pornography, erotica or the concept of sexual fantasy) and equally shocked by the...
… the restraint of the wife constantly lowers the frequencies (of intercourse)…
... the restraint of the wife constantly lowers the frequencies (of intercourse) in all segments of the population, but chiefly among better educated groups.