Ways Women Orgasm
Quotations from ‘Ways Women Orgasm’ (ISBN 978-0956-894700) by Jane Thomas
(Ways Women Orgasm) Romance may cause a woman to be amenable to sex but anyone…
Romance may cause a woman to be amenable to sex but anyone who is familiar with orgasm will know that reaching orgasm involves a...
(Ways Women Orgasm) When girls become women they learn that men’s response to their body…
When girls become women they learn that men's response to their body provides them with a tremendous advantage both in earning easy admiration and...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Presumably, for a fortunate few, the erotic stories describing the overwhelming sexual…
Presumably, for a fortunate few, the erotic stories describing the overwhelming sexual arousal that fictional women have from vaginal penetration are a reality. For...
(Ways Women Orgasm) The aim of Ways Women Orgasm is not to dwell on the…
The aim of Ways Women Orgasm is not to dwell on the difficulties but to accept that they exist and suggest how couples can...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If men want women to be more amenable to sex, then they…
If men want women to be more amenable to sex, then they should take the emphasis off orgasm (both their own and hers) and...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Regardless of her sexual expectations, any woman is more likely to offer…
Regardless of her sexual expectations, any woman is more likely to offer sex when she feels good about the relationship and loving towards her...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Given the popular belief that female arousal and orgasm during sex are…
Given the popular belief that female arousal and orgasm during sex are easily achieved, many women simply assume that they experience these sensations as...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If a woman cannot give herself an orgasm then it is unlikely…
If a woman cannot give herself an orgasm then it is unlikely that someone else will be able to. Sexual arousal originates in the...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If you cannot get turned-on in your mind then it doesn’t matter…
If you cannot get turned-on in your mind then it doesn't matter how much you stimulate your genitals - nothing will happen.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Enjoying sex for life involves continuing to be thrilled by each other’s…
Enjoying sex for life involves continuing to be thrilled by each other's company in a broader sense than just sex. It involves demonstrating affection...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Over time, any couple who cares about their sex life will need…
Over time, any couple who cares about their sex life will need to find new ways of enjoying sex play. This may involve investing...
(Ways Women Orgasm) BUT clitoral stimulation by itself (whether by the woman or her partner)…
BUT clitoral stimulation by itself (whether by the woman or her partner) does not guarantee female orgasm. Why not? Unlike men, most women do...
(Ways Women Orgasm) In fact the link between clitoral stimulation and female orgasm comes NOT…
In fact the link between clitoral stimulation and female orgasm comes NOT from women's experience of sex BUT from female masturbation.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sexual arousal is a mental state that arises when the mind responds…
Sexual arousal is a mental state that arises when the mind responds to PSYCHOLOGICAL stimuli (of an erotic or sexual nature). Sexual arousal is...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Most women are not aiming for orgasm through genital stimulation so they…
Most women are not aiming for orgasm through genital stimulation so they interpret sexual relationships as 'love-making'.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Through masturbation boys learn how to use genital stimulation to bring a…
Through masturbation boys learn how to use genital stimulation to bring a psychological state of sexual arousal to orgasm. Yet, against all logic, it...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Unfortunately the vagina (as part of the birth canal) has very few…
Unfortunately the vagina (as part of the birth canal) has very few nerve endings. Only the clitoris, the female sex organ and source of...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Women are told that orgasm occurs easily and naturally during sex so…
Women are told that orgasm occurs easily and naturally during sex so many believe that they orgasm when, in fact, they don't.
(Ways Women Orgasm) The degree to which we are able to enjoy our sexuality depends…
The degree to which we are able to enjoy our sexuality depends on the balance between our desire to enjoy sexual pleasure and our...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Female sexuality is often defined in terms of a woman’s attractiveness to…
Female sexuality is often defined in terms of a woman's attractiveness to men rather than her own true state of sexual arousal. It is...
(Ways Women Orgasm) The phrase ‘orgasm techniques’ sounds fancy but only means getting turned-on and…
The phrase 'orgasm techniques' sounds fancy but only means getting turned-on and then knowing how to orgasm by stimulating our genitals. Men also use...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If a couple has some understanding of the different rewards that men…
If a couple has some understanding of the different rewards that men and women obtain from sex, they can make sure that there is...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Whatever taunts are thrown out by men looking for a frivolous lay,…
Whatever taunts are thrown out by men looking for a frivolous lay, in the longer term men respect a more picky woman.
(Ways Women Orgasm) A man tends to assume that physical intimacy is a given as…
A man tends to assume that physical intimacy is a given as soon as a woman shows him any affection. A woman needs time...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Real female orgasms involve the release of sexual emotions not romantic feelings….
Real female orgasms involve the release of sexual emotions not romantic feelings. So it does not matter how much you love your partner, orgasm...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Inevitably there must be some women who are sexually insatiable and some…
Inevitably there must be some women who are sexually insatiable and some men who are unmoved by sex but these individuals do not represent...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Most women never talk about lost sexual opportunities. They talk about commitment…
Most women never talk about lost sexual opportunities. They talk about commitment and trust. This enormous gap between the sexes means that most women...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Many people describe their sex life, including evidence of female arousal, as…
Many people describe their sex life, including evidence of female arousal, as if it came straight out of erotic fiction. I have come to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) I had questions from the very first time I had sex but…
I had questions from the very first time I had sex but there was no one to ask. Years later when I tried to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) In fact, there is no intentional campaign to disseminate misinformation but simply…
In fact, there is no intentional campaign to disseminate misinformation but simply a lack of understanding in an intensely personal area of our lives.
(Ways Women Orgasm) All those magazine articles proposing a million ways to give a woman…
All those magazine articles proposing a million ways to give a woman a mind-blowing orgasm sound very promising but why are they needed in...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Why do adults so often assume that they know everything about sex…
Why do adults so often assume that they know everything about sex when most people have never even read a sex manual?
(Ways Women Orgasm) Naturally there is distrust between women who suspect that those, who claim…
Naturally there is distrust between women who suspect that those, who claim to be sensationally orgasmic, are simply reacting to men's desire for a...
(Ways Women Orgasm) It is important to differentiate between what women say and what women…
It is important to differentiate between what women say and what women do. Women often stand to gain by professing an enthusiasm for sex.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sex does not stand alone in a relationship and in long-term sexual…
Sex does not stand alone in a relationship and in long-term sexual relationships couples need to invest in quality time together.
(Ways Women Orgasm) A woman can enjoy many aspects of her sexual relationship with a…
A woman can enjoy many aspects of her sexual relationship with a lover, such as sharing the sensual pleasures and emotional intimacies of sex,...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Whereas men use EROTIC IMAGES during masturbation, women use EROTIC STORIES (involving…
Whereas men use EROTIC IMAGES during masturbation, women use EROTIC STORIES (involving psychological and sexually explicit scenarios) to achieve the levels of mental arousal...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Ways Women Orgasm has one key aim: to highlight just how few…
Ways Women Orgasm has one key aim: to highlight just how few women are confident about discussing orgasm in any context and how even...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Pleasuring a woman is more likely to involve a man using his…
Pleasuring a woman is more likely to involve a man using his hands during sex than his penis. Pleasurable touching includes sensitive stroking, gentle...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Good sex relies on the willingness of both partners to invest effort…
Good sex relies on the willingness of both partners to invest effort in open communication and contemplating new ideas.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Genital stimulation only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused.
Genital stimulation only leads to orgasm once a person is mentally aroused.
(Ways Women Orgasm) If the answer to achieving female orgasm were as simple as providing…
If the answer to achieving female orgasm were as simple as providing PHYSICAL stimulation, there wouldn't be a problem in the first place. After...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Clitoral stimulation is not everything. After all, our ability to reach orgasm…
Clitoral stimulation is not everything. After all, our ability to reach orgasm ultimately depends on what happens in the brain. Yet we rarely acknowledge...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If female masturbation were common more women would empathise with men’s use…
If female masturbation were common more women would empathise with men's use of pornography because they would understand that anyone who masturbates needs to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sometimes it is even suggested that there is some mysterious disadvantage to…
Sometimes it is even suggested that there is some mysterious disadvantage to female masturbation. It's not that women who do not masturbate have more...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Many women dislike the eroticism that leads to sexual arousal and so…
Many women dislike the eroticism that leads to sexual arousal and so they are offended by the suggestion that a woman might need to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) A popular suggestion is that a woman needs a truly loving partner…
A popular suggestion is that a woman needs a truly loving partner who knows how to 'give a woman an orgasm'. Wouldn't that be...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Guilt about sexual fantasies is misplaced because our ability to enjoy our…
Guilt about sexual fantasies is misplaced because our ability to enjoy our own sexual arousal is part of the human experience. Such feelings occur...
(Ways Women Orgasm) She will not want to ‘make love’ to you if she is…
She will not want to 'make love' to you if she is angry or exhausted. You can't expect her to be amenable in bed...
(Ways Women Orgasm) It’s a shame that some women are so sensitive to men’s sexual…
It's a shame that some women are so sensitive to men's sexual remarks, which are more often than not intended as a compliment. The...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Perhaps it is as self evident to women that relationships are about…
Perhaps it is as self evident to women that relationships are about companionship as it is to men that they are about physical intimacy....
(Ways Women Orgasm) I also question not only WHY but also HOW exactly is a…
I also question not only WHY but also HOW exactly is a man supposed to give a woman an orgasm? Isn't this patronising towards...
(Ways Women Orgasm) I always enjoyed sharing physical intimacy with a lover but this is…
I always enjoyed sharing physical intimacy with a lover but this is very different to achieving my own sexual arousal. I always knew that...
(Ways Women Orgasm) So even a woman who masturbates does not necessarily consider stimulating her…
So even a woman who masturbates does not necessarily consider stimulating her clitoris during sex with a partner simply because she is not MENTALLY...
(Ways Women Orgasm) When a man is stimulated sexually by a partner he finds it…
When a man is stimulated sexually by a partner he finds it difficult to avoid becoming aroused. Similarly, if a woman's response to penile...
(Ways Women Orgasm) I, for one, was bitterly disappointed when sex did not deliver the…
I, for one, was bitterly disappointed when sex did not deliver the easy arousal portrayed in erotic fiction. I also could not believe that...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Be the devoted admirer: charming, companionable and have a laugh together. For…
Be the devoted admirer: charming, companionable and have a laugh together. For a woman to be amenable to sex she needs to feel good...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Some women refer to ‘making love’ because the term more accurately describes…
Some women refer to 'making love' because the term more accurately describes their motives in terms of loving emotions rather than as an explicit...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Providing girls with information about their sexuality is an important part of…
Providing girls with information about their sexuality is an important part of giving women the confidence to stand up for what they want in...
(Ways Women Orgasm) By talking to women in everyday life I learned that my ‘problem’…
By talking to women in everyday life I learned that my 'problem' was that my expectations were set too high. ... At best, other...
(Ways Women Orgasm) For men to enjoy sex they need to feed their sexual fantasies,…
For men to enjoy sex they need to feed their sexual fantasies, which are most effective when based on their real sex life. Hence,...
(Ways Women Orgasm) One disadvantage of masturbation and learning how to give yourself an orgasm…
One disadvantage of masturbation and learning how to give yourself an orgasm early on in life is that your expectation is set much higher...
(Ways Women Orgasm) After puberty, men’s sexual reaction to nudity is so strong that they…
After puberty, men's sexual reaction to nudity is so strong that they have new associations with genitals. For women, the connection with going to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sex remains a highly personal and embarrassing topic for most people. I…
Sex remains a highly personal and embarrassing topic for most people. I hope that my efforts will save other couples some of the difficulties...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Young women often don’t know how to orgasm and why should they?…
Young women often don't know how to orgasm and why should they? There are few sources of information to help younger women learn how...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Any woman brave enough to question is labelled ‘sexually dysfunctional’ and this…
Any woman brave enough to question is labelled 'sexually dysfunctional' and this humiliation alone is enough to silence most people.
(Ways Women Orgasm) We would like to share some of these ideas with other couples,…
We would like to share some of these ideas with other couples, who have explored a variety of sex play together in a spirit...
(Ways Women Orgasm) If female orgasm is so easy, then why do so many people…
If female orgasm is so easy, then why do so many people ask about how women orgasm? No one EVER asks about male orgasm.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Our enjoyment of sexual pleasure will always depend to some degree on…
Our enjoyment of sexual pleasure will always depend to some degree on our willingness to indulge our sexual fantasies as well as to explore...
(Ways Women Orgasm) The overwhelming reaction I have had when asking experts about lack of…
The overwhelming reaction I have had when asking experts about lack of orgasm is that I am expecting too much. Essentially, if you can...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Women who did claim to orgasm with a partner avoided questions by…
Women who did claim to orgasm with a partner avoided questions by implying that anyone who doubted the mutual pleasure of sex must be...
(Ways Women Orgasm) When girls reach puberty they get breasts and periods: body changes linked…
When girls reach puberty they get breasts and periods: body changes linked to women's child-bearing role. So even today women often approach sex from...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Women can be utterly convinced (and convincing!) in describing their sexual experiences…
Women can be utterly convinced (and convincing!) in describing their sexual experiences as orgasmic. Such stories are worthless unless women can explain their orgasm...
(Ways Women Orgasm) True sexual desire involves our motivation to enjoy our sexual arousal and…
True sexual desire involves our motivation to enjoy our sexual arousal and orgasm by appreciating aspects of eroticism, by discovering masturbation alone and by...
(Ways Women Orgasm) As long as we expect women to respond as men do then…
As long as we expect women to respond as men do then we will always conclude that women are dysfunctional.
(Ways Women Orgasm) One advantage of vaginal intercourse, when combined with a face-to-face position, is…
One advantage of vaginal intercourse, when combined with a face-to-face position, is that it allows for the loving aspects of sexual relationships.
(Ways Women Orgasm) To reach orgasm from sexual fantasies alone a woman has to achieve…
To reach orgasm from sexual fantasies alone a woman has to achieve an intense mental focus. Not only is this difficult in the presence...
(Ways Women Orgasm) The women who were brave enough to talk to me admitted that…
The women who were brave enough to talk to me admitted that they had never divulged the same details to anyone else not even...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Even well-informed and mature women can believe that they orgasm (when they…
Even well-informed and mature women can believe that they orgasm (when they don't) simply because they do not know what real female orgasms feel...
(Ways Women Orgasm) It’s a real positive that men slow down a bit as they…
It's a real positive that men slow down a bit as they grow older (post 35) - older men stand to make better lovers!...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Most girls probably read romantic stories but not everyone is comfortable with…
Most girls probably read romantic stories but not everyone is comfortable with the more explicitly sexual nature of erotic stories, which help a woman...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Very few virgins approach sex realising that a woman might need to…
Very few virgins approach sex realising that a woman might need to exaggerate her true sexual arousal during sex. Women learn over time to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) We often talk about sexual arousal as if an erection or orgasm,…
We often talk about sexual arousal as if an erection or orgasm, for that matter, is caused purely by physical stimulation. This is partly...
(Ways Women Orgasm) It is society that tells us to place moral restrictions on how…
It is society that tells us to place moral restrictions on how we enjoy sexual pleasure even with a consenting partner.
(Ways Women Orgasm) Women, whose sexual experiences are based purely on sex with a partner,…
Women, whose sexual experiences are based purely on sex with a partner, often interpret sex in the light of emotional criteria. They are confused...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Few women challenge the media portrayals of the spontaneously orgasmic women because…
Few women challenge the media portrayals of the spontaneously orgasmic women because by doing so, they risk exposing their own sexual inadequacy. But this...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Unfortunately, female orgasm is not required for reproduction and so vaginal intercourse…
Unfortunately, female orgasm is not required for reproduction and so vaginal intercourse is not designed, either physically or psychologically, to provide a woman with...
(Ways Women Orgasm) There seems to be a surprising amount of resistance to asking women…
There seems to be a surprising amount of resistance to asking women to account for their sexual experiences. I simply want to get a...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Orgasm requires at least a few naughty thoughts from time to time,…
Orgasm requires at least a few naughty thoughts from time to time, so if your conscience is as clear as a nun's then you...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Ultimately the aim is for Ways Women Orgasm to facilitate an open…
Ultimately the aim is for Ways Women Orgasm to facilitate an open and constructive dialogue, covering questions or experiences from women and their partners,...
(Ways Women Orgasm) I am told that women ‘enjoy’ sex or even ‘love’ sex (and…
I am told that women 'enjoy' sex or even 'love' sex (and why not for heaven's sake?) but then they talk of affection. It...
(Ways Women Orgasm) But when I mention sex (only to those women I hope will…
But when I mention sex (only to those women I hope will not drop dead from shock at the mention of the word!) most...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Men tend to become defensive when it is suggested that vaginal intercourse…
Men tend to become defensive when it is suggested that vaginal intercourse does not facilitate female orgasm. One reason is that embarrassment about sex...
(Ways Women Orgasm) The evidence supporting women’s greater difficulties with sexual arousal compared with men…
The evidence supporting women's greater difficulties with sexual arousal compared with men are well documented. Nevertheless, it takes great courage to be truly open...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Orgasm involves a release of sexual emotions (through an appreciation of eroticism…
Orgasm involves a release of sexual emotions (through an appreciation of eroticism and explicitly sexual concepts) not romantic emotions. Romance may be an excellent...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Sex is a gift that a woman offers to a man she…
Sex is a gift that a woman offers to a man she loves. She offers her body for his pleasure without necessarily hoping for...
(Ways Women Orgasm) It is a misconception that we live in a modern and sexually…
It is a misconception that we live in a modern and sexually sophisticated world. From an emotional standpoint, humanity might just as well be...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Even if a woman wanted to be honest, she still has the…
Even if a woman wanted to be honest, she still has the problem of how to respond during sex. Men want a partner to...
(Ways Women Orgasm) Masturbation as an adult activity involves knowing how to become sexually aroused…
Masturbation as an adult activity involves knowing how to become sexually aroused enough so that genital stimulation leads to orgasm. Female sexual arousal has...
(Ways Women Orgasm) People get away with claiming complete nonsense about sex just because no…
People get away with claiming complete nonsense about sex just because no one challenges the common sense of their assertions.