Love Sex Intimacy
Quotations from the three booklets: ‘Women’s Sexual Behaviours & Responses’ (ISBN 978-0956-894717), ‘Sexuality & Sexual Techniques’ (ISBN 978-0956-894724) & ‘Understanding Sexual Response’ (ISBN 978-0956-894762) all by Jane Thomas.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men cannot accept that intercourse appeals to them because they are male….
Men cannot accept that intercourse appeals to them because they are male. They think that all we have to do is wave some magic...
(Love Sex Intimacy) By engaging in intercourse, a woman risks pregnancy. Why would a woman…
By engaging in intercourse, a woman risks pregnancy. Why would a woman have a drive to be impregnated? A biological sex drive occurs automatically....
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men are more responsive because there are many more aspects of sexual…
Men are more responsive because there are many more aspects of sexual activity that trigger their arousal. Women struggle to list any erotic phenomena...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The woman-on-the-street is never invited to comment on (let alone provide convincing…
The woman-on-the-street is never invited to comment on (let alone provide convincing evidence in support of) modern theories in sexology. Women are more or...
(Love Sex Intimacy) When you orgasm, not only do you know for sure but you…
When you orgasm, not only do you know for sure but you also know how you got there! This is because orgasm arises from...
(Love Sex Intimacy) No boy reaches puberty and consciously decides to be aroused by girls….
No boy reaches puberty and consciously decides to be aroused by girls. It just happens. If it doesn't, he may have a very low...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Masturbation provides women with the opportunity to enjoy their own arousal and…
Masturbation provides women with the opportunity to enjoy their own arousal and orgasm without exposing themselves to the life-threatening risks of pregnancy and childbirth.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women don’t tend to ask nor will they always allow a lover…
Women don't tend to ask nor will they always allow a lover to stimulate their genitalia, which is no evidence of pleasure let alone...
(Love Sex Intimacy) I explain the erotic stimuli that arouse me mentally. I describe the…
I explain the erotic stimuli that arouse me mentally. I describe the specific physical stimulation I use to orgasm. I present my conclusions for...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Everyone gets terribly emotional about insisting that women should orgasm with a…
Everyone gets terribly emotional about insisting that women should orgasm with a lover and yet female orgasm serves no useful purpose at all. The...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Any objective assessment of human sexuality must conclude that while sex may…
Any objective assessment of human sexuality must conclude that while sex may be a frivolous form of entertainment for (at least some) men, it...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The techniques that I used alone were not compatible with sexual activity…
The techniques that I used alone were not compatible with sexual activity with a lover. Not only was it impossible to achieve the mental...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Everyone applauds the idea that a man should care about his partner’s…
Everyone applauds the idea that a man should care about his partner's orgasm. But orgasm is an instinctive response to eroticism that occurs in...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Male and female masturbation techniques are similar in that men and women…
Male and female masturbation techniques are similar in that men and women massage the body of the phallus, which contains the corpora cavernosa. The...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Those who are truly responsive (men for example!) don’t promote their own…
Those who are truly responsive (men for example!) don't promote their own orgasm. They discuss their enjoyment of erotic turn-ons such as their lover's...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men may think that arousal is the period of time when they…
Men may think that arousal is the period of time when they obtain physical stimulation with a partner or through masturbation. But arousal occurs...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The sex organ is the only organ that triggers an orgasmic response….
The sex organ is the only organ that triggers an orgasmic response. Unlike the penis, the clitoris has no other function apart from that...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Some people are much more sexually active and responsive than others. In…
Some people are much more sexually active and responsive than others. In a competitive world, more is always equated with better. Yet there is...
(Love Sex Intimacy) People are quick to blame a woman or her lover for ignorance…
People are quick to blame a woman or her lover for ignorance or poor technique, if female orgasm does not occur. But I have...
(Love Sex Intimacy) We have appallingly bad sex information today because those who are reassured…
We have appallingly bad sex information today because those who are reassured by mysticism far outnumber those swayed by any facts or logic. You...
(Love Sex Intimacy) If intercourse was meant to be orgasmic, every woman would orgasm every…
If intercourse was meant to be orgasmic, every woman would orgasm every time regardless of her lover's attitude or his thrusting technique.
(Love Sex Intimacy) What strikes me as odd is that the only evidence men seek…
What strikes me as odd is that the only evidence men seek of female responsiveness is that women should be enthusiastic about intercourse. Surely...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Anyone who can orgasm, understands how their own sexual arousal works, the…
Anyone who can orgasm, understands how their own sexual arousal works, the erotic turn-ons and the specific stimulation technique involved because it is a...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Pornography is misleading because it shows women providing a masturbatory display as…
Pornography is misleading because it shows women providing a masturbatory display as a male turn-on. Women's orgasmic ability is not this flexible or sociable.
(Love Sex Intimacy) The G-spot is simply an explanation for the orgasms some women think…
The G-spot is simply an explanation for the orgasms some women think they have. Consequently it only works one way. This explains why it...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Lovemaking causes women to feel loved, admired and needed. A woman is…
Lovemaking causes women to feel loved, admired and needed. A woman is reassured by male admiration. An emotional attachment is formed when a man...
(Love Sex Intimacy) A woman is more likely to be amenable to sexual pleasuring when…
A woman is more likely to be amenable to sexual pleasuring when she has a quality relationship with a man. This is much more...
(Love Sex Intimacy) We rarely acknowledge the emotional and political forces that influence the acceptance…
We rarely acknowledge the emotional and political forces that influence the acceptance of scientific work. The truth is that some research findings are much...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Reproduction is the prime purpose of sex. So sex is presented in…
Reproduction is the prime purpose of sex. So sex is presented in terms of intercourse, in which female orgasm plays no role, but which...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Today we have no official account of human sexuality. So men’s sexual…
Today we have no official account of human sexuality. So men's sexual knowledge of how women enjoy sexual pleasure (how women are assumed to...
(Love Sex Intimacy) No one consciously chooses what concepts, body parts or objects cause their…
No one consciously chooses what concepts, body parts or objects cause their arousal. Mental arousal occurs subconsciously or not at all. This aspect of...
(Love Sex Intimacy) You cannot teach someone to orgasm. We discover orgasm because we have…
You cannot teach someone to orgasm. We discover orgasm because we have the capability. Responsiveness relies on a person's ability to identify with erotic...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Porn portrays women apparently having orgasms with a lover through intercourse, oral…
Porn portrays women apparently having orgasms with a lover through intercourse, oral sex and masturbation. But Shere Hite found that a majority of women...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men often view penetrative sex as a conquest. They know they have…
Men often view penetrative sex as a conquest. They know they have obtained something (intercourse) that women do not always want to give. Women,...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The bravado of women who claim to orgasm with a lover, as…
The bravado of women who claim to orgasm with a lover, as well as the derision that is poured on women who know that...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Some women approach sex with romantic illusions. They assume that a man…
Some women approach sex with romantic illusions. They assume that a man is so aroused by their body that he can sweep them off...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The political advantages for women, who support or condone the male view…
The political advantages for women, who support or condone the male view of female sexuality, are huge. A woman has nothing to gain by...
(Love Sex Intimacy) I suggest it is unreasonable to expect women to replicate the unrealistic…
I suggest it is unreasonable to expect women to replicate the unrealistic sexual feats claimed by a tiny minority. What is impossible for me...
(Love Sex Intimacy) When a couple’s sex life falls apart, therapists focus on issues in…
When a couple's sex life falls apart, therapists focus on issues in the wider relationship rather than discuss sexual techniques. This is because sex...
(Love Sex Intimacy) A woman does not masturbate by replicating the sensations of vaginal penetration…
A woman does not masturbate by replicating the sensations of vaginal penetration (assuming that she is aiming for orgasm). Women orgasm alone by massaging...
(Love Sex Intimacy) There are countless sources providing a porn-friendly, over-hyped view of female sexuality…
There are countless sources providing a porn-friendly, over-hyped view of female sexuality ... My work is for liberated and worldly couples who understand that...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Certainly, men’s view seems to be: what is the point of sexual…
Certainly, men's view seems to be: what is the point of sexual activity without orgasm? That is how they seem to evaluate women's experiences....
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men, being intent on orgasm, always stimulate the penis. Yet only 84%…
Men, being intent on orgasm, always stimulate the penis. Yet only 84% of women who masturbate stimulate the clitoris. The conclusion must be that...
(Love Sex Intimacy) In the early years of a relationship, hopefully passion leaves little room…
In the early years of a relationship, hopefully passion leaves little room for discussion! And for many couples, sex remains an implicit part of...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women seem to think that basic facts, such as the anatomy and…
Women seem to think that basic facts, such as the anatomy and turn-ons involved in orgasm, are somehow personal to them. These facts should...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Anyone old enough to have sex thinks they already know it all….
Anyone old enough to have sex thinks they already know it all. But we only learn if we have the humility to accept that...
(Love Sex Intimacy) My work involves applying basic common sense. I ask questions that reveal…
My work involves applying basic common sense. I ask questions that reveal truths. I question assumptions. Very few people appear to see the need...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women’s success with faking orgasm is perhaps the biggest hoax of all…
Women's success with faking orgasm is perhaps the biggest hoax of all time! To speed up male orgasm, an experienced woman plays along with...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Some women get an ego boost from exhibiting their sexuality. In an…
Some women get an ego boost from exhibiting their sexuality. In an attempt to be more convincing, they try to justify their orgasms (which...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Masturbation involves a woman stimulating anatomy equivalent to the penis (the phallus)….
Masturbation involves a woman stimulating anatomy equivalent to the penis (the phallus). Orgasm involves the erectile sex organ (penis or clitoris). So, by masturbating,...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Stimulation of the clitoris is not sensationally pleasurable. Clitoral stimulation represents a…
Stimulation of the clitoris is not sensationally pleasurable. Clitoral stimulation represents a means to an end (female orgasm) when combined with an intense focus...
(Love Sex Intimacy) It is easy enough to establish that the vagina is inert but…
It is easy enough to establish that the vagina is inert but mere scientific fact will never stop women suggesting that vaginal orgasms exist.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Most people are confused if you ask them to name female erotic…
Most people are confused if you ask them to name female erotic turn-ons. They have no idea what you might be referring to. A...
(Love Sex Intimacy) It is often suggested that women enjoy sex. This can mean many…
It is often suggested that women enjoy sex. This can mean many things. Orgasm is a specific erotic phenomenon that arises as a consequence...
(Love Sex Intimacy) It is not that more realistic sex information is necessarily ignored so…
It is not that more realistic sex information is necessarily ignored so much as that it is simply drowned out.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sexual pleasure is often implied but left to the individual to discover….
Sexual pleasure is often implied but left to the individual to discover. So even today sex education provides the reproductive facts but no explicit...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Men’s bravado involves exaggerating the number or variety of their sexual opportunities…
Men's bravado involves exaggerating the number or variety of their sexual opportunities and lovers. Women's bravado involves boasting about orgasm. But their modesty and...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women mistakenly assume that emotional stimuli (such as the sound of a…
Women mistakenly assume that emotional stimuli (such as the sound of a lover's voice, kissing or caressing) cause arousal. But mental arousal depends on...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women often refuse to divulge turn-ons, implying a loyalty to the perceived…
Women often refuse to divulge turn-ons, implying a loyalty to the perceived accomplishment of their lover. They assume (as men do) that orgasm is...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sex experts recommend orgasm techniques to women as if they are infallible….
Sex experts recommend orgasm techniques to women as if they are infallible. No one remarks on the different anatomy but also the very different...
(Love Sex Intimacy) We talk about orgasm as if it is the be all and…
We talk about orgasm as if it is the be all and end all of sex. But if this were the case, we wouldn't...
(Love Sex Intimacy) If female orgasm is so natural and common why is every woman…
If female orgasm is so natural and common why is every woman not an expert? Why does a woman not give herself an orgasm?...
(Love Sex Intimacy) While women often fail to appreciate the importance men place on eroticism,…
While women often fail to appreciate the importance men place on eroticism, men seldom appreciate the importance women place on affection.
(Love Sex Intimacy) Many people, such as agony aunts and journalists in popular magazines, pronounce…
Many people, such as agony aunts and journalists in popular magazines, pronounce on sexuality without having any relevant qualifications in sexology. Such information is...
(Love Sex Intimacy) We’d rather base our sexual knowledge on a concoction of fantasy and…
We'd rather base our sexual knowledge on a concoction of fantasy and ignorance than the research findings. So it's small wonder that both sexes...
(Love Sex Intimacy) I present a definition of what is involved in sexual response. Essentially…
I present a definition of what is involved in sexual response. Essentially an erotic stimulus, a mental trigger, causes the brain to send blood...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Orgasm occurs in the brain. It is not just a question of…
Orgasm occurs in the brain. It is not just a question of physical stimulation. Some form of fantasy is needed.
(Love Sex Intimacy) A man’s sexual emotions involve his sexual drive to engage in penetrative…
A man's sexual emotions involve his sexual drive to engage in penetrative sex and to enjoy the eroticism of being physically intimate with a...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Orgasm ends a man’s ability to engage in sexual activity of any…
Orgasm ends a man's ability to engage in sexual activity of any kind because he loses his erection. But this is a characteristic of...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sexual activity (alone or with a partner) can include psychological (emotional and…
Sexual activity (alone or with a partner) can include psychological (emotional and erotic) and physical (sensual and genital) stimuli that may be delightful but...
(Love Sex Intimacy) We assume that people become less sexually active as they age in…
We assume that people become less sexually active as they age in the same way that they become physically less active. This is not...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Women think that being asked to be explicit about orgasm is an…
Women think that being asked to be explicit about orgasm is an infringement of their privacy rights. But orgasm with a lover is supposed...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Sex research appears to indicate that many women orgasm both alone and…
Sex research appears to indicate that many women orgasm both alone and with a lover. But all of this research is flawed because there...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Intercourse involves coordinating with a man’s thrusting pace and rhythm while masturbation…
Intercourse involves coordinating with a man's thrusting pace and rhythm while masturbation alone focuses on drumming up mental inspiration. Overall masturbation is worlds apart...
(Love Sex Intimacy) But isn’t it a wild coincidence that women, who boast about orgasm,…
But isn't it a wild coincidence that women, who boast about orgasm, are basically telling men exactly what they want to hear? Not only...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The erectile organs (penis and clitoris) develop from the same anatomy in…
The erectile organs (penis and clitoris) develop from the same anatomy in the foetus called the genital tubercle. The penis and clitoris have crura...
(Love Sex Intimacy) The female external genitalia (clitoris and labia) are anatomically equivalent to the…
The female external genitalia (clitoris and labia) are anatomically equivalent to the male (penis and testicles). They are similarly positioned. The clitoris can be...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Companies sell vibrators to women so we naturally assume that they must…
Companies sell vibrators to women so we naturally assume that they must succeed in using them to masturbate to orgasm. These fashion trends are...
(Love Sex Intimacy) It must seem ridiculous to a man that a woman is unsure…
It must seem ridiculous to a man that a woman is unsure about arousal. Even for a responsive woman, her arousal is never, at...
(Love Sex Intimacy) Female orgasm is not easy and to suggest otherwise trivialises the effort…
Female orgasm is not easy and to suggest otherwise trivialises the effort women's partners make to arouse them.