Merrit: Hi, 1. [Women] do not have an erect organ to penetrate with. Trans women exist and can have penises.2. Men’s enjoyment of erotic stimuli defines their quality of life. No it doesn’t. Merrit (cont): The only thing that cishet women need to understand about cishet men’s sex drive is that it is not their problem. Just because a cishet man has an urge to fuck, doesn’t mean that anyone is obliged to satisfy it. Men’s sex drive can be strong, but consent and bodily autonomy matter. No means NO. The onus is on wouldbe attackers to manage their emotions. JANE: Are you an expert? What research findings support your opinions? I am presenting facts, explanations & the research that support my conclusions. I don’t understand why men need to define women’s sexuality for them. Men who think they know it all and women who refuse to comment, contribute to the universal sexual ignorance in our society. Merrit: Actually, yes, I am 12 years of medical school, urology residency, and graduate certification in sex therapy. None of this is necessary to understand that trans people exist, men achieve happiness through means other than sex, men should take responsibility for their own emotions, or that women are sexual. You mention that research support your conclusions, so where are your citations? JANE: I quote from Kinsey & Hite the only researchers to ask women about their sexual experiences. Now researchers just assume that women have orgasms as the porno actresses do. No one asks women anymore because they don’t get the answers they want. No one researches sexual response. I do. I have been asking women for years to explain these porno orgasms. So far, no woman has had anything explicit to say. Merrit: Since youre discounting me as just another man trying to define womens sexuality for them, I will refer you to the WOMAN from whom I learned everything about womens sexuality and arousal. Maybe itll enhance your own knowledge on the subject, as it did mine. When you find it doesnt align with your priors, you can take it up with her. JANE: I have already approached the author you are referring to. She refused to engage. As have most other female socalled experts. They are too busy to respond or they quote from a book. If you know any WOMEN willing to discuss sex, please ask them to contact me! I get tired of people thinking they know it all, when they know nothing. Sexologists are just as ignorant of how sexual response works as anyone else. Merrit : Women’s desire might be less spontaneous and more responsive an important distinction. Women’s desire might also be more contextdependent. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t there or important. Discounting women’s sexuality is lazy thinking that stops people from trying to please women sexually. JANE: Are you gay? You seem to know no women who can explain how they experience sexual response. Don’t you think it odd that experts refer to books when talking about female response? Don’t you think that if female orgasm was routine in real life that men might know what anatomy and what erotic turnons were involved? I suggest it doesn’t occur with a lover. That is my experience. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure