Sajid: Anal sex is so rife that nine out of every ten women are addicted to it. But when I try, even going slowly, it doesn’t work no matter how well I lubricate. Does it always bleed or is it possible to avoid bleeding? JANE: Why don’t you get your partner to penetrate your rectum with a dildo? That way you will know what it is like. Give her instructions. Or try it on yourself. The muscles need time to relax. You start very slowly with a finger. JANE (cont): The first time you try, it is best not to be intent on penile penetration. Men get far too excited and do not want to stop. Bleeding, injury of any sort and pain are not part of good anal sex. Slow down, use lots of lube and take your time! Sajid: You advise me to do finger first. I have done that few times already, the finger goes easily but as soon as it does, I lose my patience and start thrusting my penis into my partners anus only to have the difficulty I already spoke about. JANE: If you know any women who are willing to discuss sex & orgasm, then please ask them to contact me. Only men talk about sexual pleasure. Sajid: If women don’t speak about sexuality easily then how come porn actresses exhibit so openly and so wildly sexual performances in front of the camera? Can you please tell me how porn actresses are able to take penises as big as 10 inches so easily up the ass? JANE: Porn actresses are actresses. It’s an act. Porn actresses have had lots of practice. But the key pleasures of intercourse are enjoyed by the penetrating male! Sajid: Shall I look for another woman who already has had anal sex so that her anus has relaxed & opened up wide? I’m so frustrated now that everyone in the world is enjoying this except me! JANE: You are living in fantasyland. Anal intercourse is rare among heterosexuals. Gay men are despised for engaging in it. In the UK anal sex was punishable by death up until the last century. No one talks about it! Very few women offer anal sex even to a lover. Sajid: Ms Jane, You say that porn actresses only act but do not feel pleasure during anal sex. How is that possible? Have you heard the way they moan in pleasure while taking a penis up their anus? Have you noticed the way they bounce on the penis forcefully to increase their own pleasure? JANE: Have you heard of acting? Porn actresses are paid huge amounts of money to engage in this activity. It is their job. Intercourse of any kind pleasures the penetrating male! Try asking some real women in real life about anal sex! It is disturbing that so many men believe that everything they see in pornography is real. JANE (cont): Even though men must have partners and female relatives who do not behave in these ways, they still prefer to believe the fantasy. This is the human desire to believe what suits us to believe. Pornography is erotic fiction that is intended to assist with male arousal. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all