Rosanne: I disagree that men need turnons. Men who expect a performance from a woman are the narcissists who are into porn, strip clubs & a bit of paedophilia. I know. I lived with a narcissistic sociopath for 18 years and he was into it all; which made me feel uncomfortable. JANE: Im referring to the influence of pornography, which helps to confirm every mans assumption that women should orgasm as easily as men do with a lover. JANE (cont): The research associated female orgasm with clitoral stimulation and female masturbation. I have concluded that women are not erotically aroused with a lover. Rosanne: They must be with the wrong man. Im highly aroused by my lover. JANE: What do you mean exactly by highly aroused? What arouses you? What stimulation do you need for orgasm? What anatomy is involved? What erotic turnons do you use for orgasm? Rosanne: Is there a reason Im being asked these quite personal questions? I offered my opinion but I was not expecting questions and analysis of my response. JANE: Men often talk very freely about what arouses them. I think women confuse emotional sensations with a lover for orgasm. JANE (cont): Women never refer to erotic turnons, which are a prerequisite of orgasm. They are also vague about the anatomy involved, which is clear evidence that they dont orgasm. Rosanne: Agreed. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all