JANE: Some women enhance their own (and a lover’s) apparent sexual prowess by faking orgasm to meet expectations from pornography. Other men complain that their partners make no effort to make sex exciting for them. Sally: This is the reality of sex for most women. Not having 5 orgasms and ‘tapping’ out! JANE: What is tapping out? Are you male or female? Where does your experience come from? Thanks for your support on this issue. Very few people are willing to acknowledge men’s much greater pleasure from sex & their much greater interest in sexual matters. Sally: I’m female. Oh, it’s a phrase I’ve heard (some) women say, I’m assuming a kind of overdose of pleasure? I can safely say it’s never happened to me. I’m 56 and have had quite a few sexual partners, mostly disappointing. JANE: There is a huge amount of hype promoted about socalled female responses. It comes from male fantasies but is also supported by women looking for attention. Most of these women are single & not even having sex. They are just boasting about their supposed exploits emulating men! Sally: That is very true, especially on Twitter! Well, in the circles I’m in anyway. And I’m as guilty of that as anyone! We all want to be wanted. The actual sex not so much. JANE: Men expect some kind hint that something sexual is going on, which puts pressure on women who don’t want to disappoint. Flirting is a game we can all enjoy. But this makes it difficult to get women to admit the truth. They want social contact, love & to feel needed. Men want sex. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism