JANE: Why do women get bored by sex over time? Men often feel very angry with women who never initiate sex and too often dont want sex. But this anger has a tone of alienation, guilt, and insecurity: men feel instinctively JANE (cont): on some level that sex does not involve an equal sharing, especially when they are having an orgasm and the woman does not and this puts them on the defensive. Shere Hite Victoria: From a woman’s point of view, sex is not just a bodily act, but an act that starts from the mind to the body and back to the mind. This is to say that if a woman is not having sex from her mind, her body is just having a physical exercise that would soon become boring in a matter of time. When her lover understands this nature, he has to prepare her mind before the act. Victoria (cont): How to prepare a woman’s mind towards sex? Keep talking, I say again, keep talking! Do not underestimate a woman’s sense of hearing, just as a woman should not underestimate a man’s sense of seeing. Learn to say the right words at the right time, give compliments, be supportive and try as much as possible to offer help in all she does. If you are not sure how you could be of help, just ask her. Guess what? Victoria (cont): The asking, is an act of showing concern and she appreciates that. She adds it to her love for you. As women loves hearing caring words, they also love men with good listening ears. Try to always understand what your woman is saying to you. Listen to understand what she is saying and not just what you want to reply. When you do understand what she is saying, she sees that as love and understanding. Victoria (cont): Just as men have a target to attain; women have a dream to achieve. Be supportive so that she does not loose hope. Do not try to take her out of her passion. A woman would not take for granted a man who supports her passion. These factors, if properly in place, a woman will not just have sex with her lover but will want to make love with her lover. She will always try to keep the flame of their love burning. JANE: Women talk of lovemaking. But sexual response arousal and orgasm have nothing to do with emotional rewards. A womans desire for affection and companionship may motivate her to offer sex in the shortterm. But over the longerterm she does not have the reward of sexual response that motivates a man to want sex throughout his life. JANE (cont): This is the mismatch between men and women that is poorly understood. Romance does not last for ever just as the erotic novelty of a new partner does not last for a man. To keep sex alive over decades a couple must invest in communication to bring variety to their sex life. Otherwise, they just have intercourse to male orgasm, which satisfies some men but not those who hope for mutual pleasure with a lover. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all