Anil: Dear Jane, How to create interest in my partner as she seemed to be reluctant several times. It appeared as if she is doing unwillingly which I do not like. Though at the end she always reaches orgasm by stimulating clitoris. JANE:Women do not orgasm with a lover. Can you name any female turnons? Women fake orgasm to satisfy male ego. You need to make the most of your own pleasure & not put pressure on her to please you by faking. Anil:Hi Jane, With due respect, here I differ with your opinion. Please believe, its not a fake orgasm. She really gets aroused and excited immensely when I stimulate her. Anil (cont):Its like masturbation which I do for her. She does not like to do herself hence asks me to do that. Likewise, after that I ask her to ejaculate me. JANE:That is not how women masturbate to orgasm. That is just a display in porn to assist with male arousal. What erotic turnons arouse her? Anil:After having intercourse for few minutes I stimulate her clitoris. I stimulate her breasts and nipples. That way she gets aroused and has an orgasm. Anil (cont):It’s real not fake. Many times she guides me to get her correct spot like little left, little upper side etc. etc. JANE: I am talking about mental arousal. Men like breasts, groin etc. What do women like? The glans of the clitoris is not erectile. It cannot produce an orgasmic response any more than the vagina can. JANE (cont): Why do you care about these orgasms you think your partner is having? No one boasts about male orgasm it just happens. Female orgasm occurs alone (if at all) without the distractions of a lover. Sorry you are living in fantasyland. Anil: That is making me more confused. I can feel her orgasm always. But many times she shows unwillingness though she always feels great pleasure. Still if you are saying something then it matters certainly. Let me ask her. JANE: Orgasm is the result of a mental response to eroticism. Erotic arousal occurs in the mind. Stimulation is then instinctive. Men are easily aroused by many stimuli. Women are not. Your partner is just trying to keep you happy. JANE (cont): The clitoris was never heard of until Kinsey & has been unpopular since. It does not make sense to boast about orgasms you think your wife has as a result of stimulation you provide. You cannot name any female erotic turnons clearly your wife is not having orgasms. Anil: At this juncture one question arose in my mind. Whenever I ejaculate first, then my wife insists that I stimulate her also to achieve her orgasm. Why then she asks me if she had not any such urge and feeling? JANE: Men boast about their partner’s orgasms all the time. But women refuse to comment. As a scientist, I find this suspicious. Don’t you? Dont you think that if she was truly enjoying sexual pleasure, she would be more willing to have sex with you? There is no logic to what you are saying. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure