Jill: Im writing a magazine article on 5 experts favorite sex positions. Id like to ask you to be one of my experts. I want you because of all your great work on how women actually orgasm versus the way we think we are supposed to. Jill (cont): And yes, we both know that good sex isnt about a magic position but if you have a recommended one that allows women to touch themselves to better enjoy sex, I would love to include you. JANE: It is not my experience that orgasm is possible with a lover by any means, intercourse or other. I dont think I can help. If you think orgasm is possible with a lover, I would be interested to know how you achieve it. Jill: For me: a lover masturbating me, using a sex toy on me or their mouth. These would be among the options as well. Straight boning (intercourse) no way! JANE: Women always talk about mechanics. But what about mental turnons? I use fantasies when masturbating alone but these dont work with a lover. JANE (cont): Theres a lot of ignorance about what orgasm involves. It is not just about physical stimulation. We must be mentally aroused before orgasm is possible. Jill: Yes. Keep up the good work! An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all