Terry: When Alfred Kinsey first did his pioneering research on human sexual response in the 1940s, it was one of the first studies to demonstrate that most women didn’t experience orgasm during sexual intercourse with a male partner. Terry (cont): Many of these same women were able to experience orgasm when they did selfmasturbation. The issue is often that the male partner may reach orgasm too quickly for the woman and many males don’t take the time to discover the most pleasurable areas of the female genital area that brings that female partner into orgasmic arousal. Terry (cont): As a psychotherapist, I have talked with women who may be with a very handsome male partner, but who she does not have orgasm with when they have sex, but a different partner may be less good looking but he knows tactile manipulation techniques that do bring that woman into orgasm. Terry (cont): Couples seeking sex therapy often focus on teaching the male to be a better sex partner who better know how to bring pleasure to his female partner. It is a learnable skill that many men do not learn, whereas women know what most pleasures them when they do selfmasturbation. JANE: A man can never time his orgasm to coincide with another person’s especially a woman who takes much longer to orgasm even from masturbation. Women are not aroused with a lover. There is nothing erotic about being the receiver of the thrusting penis. As heterosexual men well know. JANE (cont): Men are rarely enthusiastic about being the receiver of a thrusting penis themselves. But they assume that it is a woman’s role to enjoy a man thrusting into her vagina. Intercourse equates to male masturbation in a vagina, part of the birth canal that is insensitive to stimulation. A baby’s head comes down the vagina during childbirth so a penis has zero impact. JANE (cont): We need to question why it is the male role to stimulate the female. The research finding that female orgasm is associated with clitoral stimulation and female masturbation has been ignored in part because most women do not masturbate to orgasm. Women are largely unresponsive. Responsiveness is a characteristic if male reproductive function. JANE (cont): Please promote the research findings rather than erotic fiction. Every researcher has found that women look for emotional rewards in their relationships with men. Most have little interest in orgasm. Hence why it is always men who talk about female sexual response. Women faking orgasm is the greatest hoax to all time! But men are easily taken in. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all