JANE:Please name some erotic turnons that cause female arousal! Mostly women talk of emotional factors with a lover. Nicole:Are you asking me what turns me on? Lol I feel like I must be misunderstanding here. Are you saying women don’t get turned on without an emotional connection? JANE: Women talk of love and they boast about orgasm. They never talk of turnons or sexual pleasure as men do. I have been asking for over 10 years. There’s a lot of silence out there… Nicole:I agree that there is still a ridiculous stigma around women enjoying sex. It makes me very sad. I enjoy sex. Like, a lot. Nicole (cont):I cant speak for single women, as I am in a monogamous longterm relationship, but sure, sex CAN be better with someone you love and have an emotional bond with but I think that is changing though. Nicole (cont):I hope (it rings true for me anyway) that women are more able to talk about it openly, so that ignorance doesnt stop pleasure, confidence and happiness. JANE:I am saying that women mistake emotional sensations for orgasm. Especially young women. Nicole:I think it probably has a lot to do with the fact that if someone cares about you, they care about what you like and dont like. Nicole (cont):I happen to love the physical aspects of sex. The way my partner smells turns me on, the sensation of his hands on my skin, the sounds we both make when Nicole (cont):we are intimate, just his voice is often enough to get me excited. It all turns me on. It is such a real, human activity that FEELS good and is so good for you! JANE:Nothing wrong with all that but these are emotional and sensual sensations. Orgasm is a response to eroticism. Women are not aroused in the way that men are. JANE (cont):You need to specify the physical stimulation and the psychological triggers for orgasm. You need to specify whether you are talking about orgasm or just ‘enjoying’ sex. Nicole :I just don’t agree with the blanket statement that women dont get aroused. I get turned on watching porn, or reading a filthy story, how is that not erotic? Nicole (cont):I also think focusing so much on orgasm being the only goal is counterproductive. Sex doesn’t always end with orgasm, for women or men. I can tell you, we have passed out satisfied and spent without even having orgasms. JANE:Porn is censored in our society because women are offended by graphic eroticism. Any one who has had an orgasm knows exactly how they got there. You are not nearly explicit enough. Nicole: (silence) An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all