Leonardo : I pose this question: Why do we persist in the belief that men seek orgasm? Have not the ancient sages imparted wisdom about the sacred practice of retaining one’s seed? JANE: Kinsey highlighted the huge variance in responsiveness between individuals. Some men never or rarely masturbate. Some men are never promiscuous. Orgasm is not a goal for men. It only seems that way because they are so intent on obtaining the stimulation (foremost penetration and thrusting) that inevitably ends in orgasm. JANE (cont): The answer to your question is male sex drive. Most men feel a significant urge to engage in the mating act. Hence why there are billions of humans on the planet. Men enjoy the pleasure of penetrative sex for the arousal and physical pleasure they enjoy. Some men even delay orgasm for this reason. Orgasm ends men’s ability to enjoy their own arousal from erotic and physical stimulation. JANE (cont): Male orgasm occurs reliably once a man is aroused. Hence why no one discusses it. Equally it is not a female turnon. Female orgasm is a male turnon and is discussed endlessly. Researchers focus on reassuring men that women want intercourse as much as and as often as they do. JANE (cont): The modern freedom women have to display their bodies and the availability of erotic stimuli only exacerbate the situation of men seeking sexual release. An erection can be tiresome and inconvenient. The thoughts that accompany it, only go away once the need to ejaculate has been satisfied until the next time. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure