Theresa: I am glad to know that I am not the only woman who cant feel sexual pleasure during intercourse. It is incredibly frustrating to me and my husband. He doesnt understand why I cant feel anything when he is in me. Theresa (cont): I have no nerve endings in the vagina. Its all in the clitoris. It seems like the only way to get sexual pleasure and orgasm is through the clit. And masturbation takes care of that. So what is the point of men besides childbirth? Theresa (cont): It is also very frustrating when my husband decides how long he will spend on me, regardless of whether or not I have had an orgasm and decides its his turn. So, of course I get mad. I am not happy in this relationship. Theresa (cont): I am just a hole for my husbands pleasure. I get no pleasure out of sex with him. Because of this we rarely have sex. So we avoid the issue. What should I do? My sexual fantasies include other men. Not my husband. How can I incorporate that into reality? JANE: Hi Theresa, Your experience is quite normal. This is the marriage dilemma. Men expect sex for life and women are not designed to enjoy the same pleasure from sex. JANE (cont): Sadly its about making the best of it. No one else has it any better if thats any consolation. It sounds as if you could do with some investment in the wider relationship. JANE (cont): A man needs to understand that for a woman to be willing to give through sex, he needs to be willing to give in other areas of the relationship. Talking to a therapist can really help here. JANE (cont): I read erotica before sex or we watch a porn movie together or use bondage. We also vary the venue outdoors or in the shower. You can try different positions and sex toys. I find that fantasies do not work with a lover. Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure