Jane: Men seem to be as embarrassed about sex as women are. I don’t understand why everyone is so ashamed of what they do in bed. For me it’s functional or fun or whatever. It is what it is. Everyone does it. What can be so bad? Makes you wonder Steven: There is a lot of judgement passed by others on sexual activity. So talking about sex is never as free and easy an exercise as it should be. Im not ashamed of what I want sexually. I am what I am. Nor am I offended by any of it. Steven (cont): My fantasies often involve something kinky and uninhibited. But my sex life was boringly vanilla in its execution while I had one. Ive never been bothered by nudity or genitals. It amazes me how I see guys in the gym locker rooms. Some will just get changed and go about their business without batting an eyelid. Steven (cont): Whilst others get changed as if on a beach a towel covering everything up because (God forbid!) someone sees their penis. Then, of course, there are those who wander around naked flaunting what they have as if they are a peacock. Steven (cont): For instance, I know from male only discussions in the past that anyone admitting to anything considered kinky will in all likelihood face a great deal of ridicule and judgement. I think some men dont want to be rejected or seen as lacking. JANE: Well it’s understandable when you want something a little out of the ordinary. I saw a programme once about men who go to a prostitute who treats them like a baby. Puts nappies on them and feeds them with a bottle. JANE (cont): Given it was TV there was no genital activity. I assume that occurred later at some point. I thought that would be embarrassing to admit to. Odd too… But sexuality does seem to be odd for men sometimes. With no explanations. Steven: I knew a guy who visited a nanny who treated him like that. There was absolutely nothing sexual with her. If he wanted relief, he took it by himself in the bathroom before he left. Steven (cont): But then I know Dominant Mistresses who will provide many services but absolutely nothing that gets a guy off. I know a dominant mistress who charges 150 an hour and often has 10 hours work a day! JANE:Have you worked out an explanation for your interest in dominant women? Steven: My mother is the reason for the interest. She had an almost pathological hatred for me. Not that Ive ever acted on my interest. I only know these dominant women through talking on social media. I think a lot of women struggle with being dominant in the bedroom. Its not easy to understand why a guy can get off on it. JANE:I think men are often looking for a woman’s permission. I have assume men think a dominant woman is aroused because she is proactive. But it is just a behaviour. Shes no more aroused can any other woman. I haven’t found a single woman who can discuss sexual response or any explicit activity. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism