Darin: I don’t believe my wife has ever orgasmed during sex. The only time I recall her possibly having an orgasm during penetration was when I was using a new dildo on her about 5 years ago. I have this erotic fantasy of seeing her penetrated with a large penis I bought an 8′ by 13/4′ jelly dildo. Darin (cont): It took some time to work her way up to wanting and being able to be penetrated with this size of a dildo. However, once she was ready I could see her become relaxed and start to accept the dildo. She spread her legs and I was able to slowly insert and remove the entire dildo. The dildo became covered with white cream. Darin (cont): It appeared to give her a pleasure. She had never before tried this dildo, which had girth and length of 8 inches. It filled her up more than my penis does. As this went on for a while at a slow rate of thrusting, I was really surprised that she was able to take the whole thing to the base of the dildo. Darin (cont): She was thrusting her hips to want more! Very interesting. I was able to thrust the whole thing in and out at a fairly fast pace. She then had what I believe to be an orgasm from penetration, which I had never seen before. Darin (cont): Over the last few years. She seems to even avoid penetration. At least in the form of a dildo. When she is performing fellatio, I attempt to pull her into a 69 position to reciprocate the pleasure. However, she counters with not willing to receive. JANE: Until women come forward to talk about these experiences, they remain in the realm of male fantasy. The fact that few women masturbate is evidence that they do not orgasm. Women think that orgasm is purely a matter of physical stimulation because that is how men appear to respond. JANE (cont): But men are already mentally aroused. When I ask women about erotic turnons they have no idea what I am talking about. They are shocked by any form of eroticism and talk about sex in terms of emotional and sensual feelings. The anatomy is really a red herring because the psychological aspect is much more important. JANE (cont): Orgasm is a natural response of the body, when the mind is responsive to eroticism. No one needs a mechanical device to experience a natural phenomenon. Women simulate arousal and orgasm in order to end sex sooner because men need to feel that they have provided female pleasure. Darin: I would have to agree obviously in that women do not need a vibrator to orgasm. I would think they use it to create some magnified pleasure ?? Similar to when I use a vibrator on my penis or testicles during masturbation or Darin (cont): she uses on me during oral sex or a hand job. The use of those toys for anal play during masturbation might provide a enhanced orgasm but is not needed for the orgasm. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism