Betty: I know I can make myself cum easily because I’ve been doing it since I was 9! JANE: 9 is a little young to have the kind of adult fantasies that are needed to achieve orgasm many women mistake orgasm… Betty: Isn’t orgasm a response to direct clitoral stimulation? JANE: Physical stimulation does not lead to orgasm without mental arousal. The mind must respond positively to eroticism first! Betty: I was climbing a pole at the time. It felt really good, so I used my canopy bed at home to find out more. My thoughts were: this feels really good, I like that, I’m really enjoying this. Not sexual, just happy, stress release. JANE: The clitoral stimulation that leads to orgasm is applied instinctively in response to mental arousal. It is highly specific fingers pressing rhythmically either side of the labia! Betty: I am bipolar so there’s the hypersexuality that goes with that but I didn’t fantasize about anything at 9. Was curious of course JANE: I have noticed the fashion of women referring to hypersexuality not a scientific concept. Certainly not one that men use. Men are much more responsive than women & intended to be so. I dont think being bipolar can have anything to do with a persons sexuality. Quite separate issues. Betty: Played doctor but didn’t associate that with canopy riding lol. That happened when I found my Dads porn stash and Moms vibrator at 12. Even then didn’t lose my virginity with a guy til 18. Didn’t need them with a vibe and porn, lol JANE: Women often assume that men orgasm purely through physical stimulation but this is because men are usually already aroused. Porn does not arouse women to the point of orgasm. Women are not aroused visually like men. Responsive women use fantasies rather than graphic images. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all