JANE: Why are women so unwilling to admit that intercourse provides no physical stimulation? Batrice: Perhaps you should as a couple visit a sex therapist. Amrico: Intercourse does provide physical stimulation for many women, doesnt for others, and often provides insufficient or inconsistent stimulation unless certain conditions are met. The reality is more nuanced than no stimulation. That said, there are real reasons why this topic is often difficult to talk about openly. Amrico (cont):1. Female sexual response is more variable than male sexual response2. Cultural scripts strongly shape what women feel allowed to say3. Social desirability and relational harmony4. Pleasure does not equate to orgasm5. The orgasm gap creates shame rather than openness Amrico (cont): In anonymous surveys, therapy, or trusted contexts, women are often very clear: Intercourse alone is unreliable Clitoral stimulation matters Communication is lackingThe more accurate question might be:Why has sexual culture centred intercourse as the default measure of female pleasure when female neurophysiology is more complex? JANE: There is no logic to saying that different women respond differently except to understand that we are talking about conscious behaviours women use to please men. Men are persuaded by women who say what men want to hear. Men ignore what they don’t want to hear. JANE (cont): The goal of sociable sexual activity is male arousal and male orgasm. Otherwise, the species would die out. The female role is to cooperate with intercourse and assist with male arousal. Some women do this to speed up sex and get it over with more quickly. But generally, women lose interest in sex over time because of the lack of erotic payback. Nothing happens. Jennifer: I will add a reply but Jane did an outstanding job of answering. One, we do not want to hurt that fragile male ego and tell them that that are quite bad at this intimacy business and put themselves first and totally ignore the amount of effort and time it will require for the female to get emotionally involved in each sexual encounter. Jennifer (cont): Secondly, what woman wants to admit that sex does nothing for her? Is she frigid? Does she not know what to do? These are some of the reactions that she might get by admitting intercourse does nothing for her. Doing whatever it takes to get it over with faster is often easier. It isnt like she is going to get anything out of it anyway! JANE: Thanks Jennifer! So many women are silent on sexual topics or allow men to get away with ignorance over female sexuality. Faking is a catchword for a female performance that appears to confirm male fantasies. The truth is that men did fine before all the misinformation about female orgasm. JANE (cont): Sexologists categorise women as dysfunctional if they do not confirm male fantasies by saying that they orgasm from intercourse. This feat is biologically impossible. Sexology is a political science rather than one based on research findings. An interesting & fun way to learn about sexuality for all