Darin: To the best of my knowledge my wife doesnt masturbate. However, I may be clueless on that one. I assume the oral stimulation I provide would equate to masturbation. Darin (cont): At times I stimulate her clit with my finger similar to what I would think is masturbation. I believe she has an orgasm. But she may only have interest in that monthly. JANE: Female masturbation involves a woman obtaining similar stimulation (but a little different) to the stimulation a man obtains from thrusting through intercourse. JANE (cont): I lie face down because this is the best position to allow me to clench my buttocks and thrust forward. Initially I press down over the vulva (no direct contact with the sensitive clitoral glans) in a rhythmic gentle thrusting motion. JANE (cont): As I approach orgasm, I clench my buttocks and, pressing firmly down into the tissue either side of the labia, I pressure the internal clitoral organ between my fingers and my pelvic muscles. Men masturbate in a similar way. But the stimulation of an external sex organ is much easier. JANE (cont): The penis is much, much more sensitive than the clitoris. Cunnilingus does not cause orgasm. A woman needs to be alone to focus on fantasy to achieve arousal. But the important thing is for both partners to enjoy sex play and have some fun. Orgasm is separate for a woman. Darin: Sometimes I only finger my wife’s clit. She becomes swollen and wet. I continue to massage until she gets to what her done time is (of which I thought was an orgasm). I wonder what she is done with? Darin (cont): Do you ever have clitoral stimulation like this and then stop? Other times I perform oral on the clit and insert one or two fingers shallow to massage the g spot. (Fact or fiction? I don’t know. What is your opinion?) She seems to enjoy the fingering massage. Darin (cont): When done with all this, her clit is very sensitive and unable to receive any more stimulation. Similar to me after I orgasm the penis becomes very sensitive. When you finger or put pressure on what you say is the internal clitoral organ. I have not heard of this reference before. This interests me. JANE: I don’t believe your wife is having an orgasm. I allow my partner to stimulate me clitorally because he enjoys it. But I stop him after a while just to move things along. Just sensual but I feel very little. There is no orgasm or arousal. JANE (cont): The key to masturbation is mental arousal. Without the right focus and circumstances, I just have to give up. The technique is instinctive but over time I have seen the parallel with mens thrusting to orgasm. JANE (cont): Pressing down equates to the more vigorous stimulation that men use when masturbating. Female orgasm is an evolutionary anomaly. Most women never discover it. Female orgasm has no purpose except a womans private pleasure. The Gspot is fiction. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism