Evie: Hi Jane! Do you have a specific resource to rely on when you are seeking knowledge and inspiration in sexology? JANE: I couldn’t have understood female sexuality if I did not have the benefit of Alfred Kinsey and Shere Hite’s work. They are the most explicit about sexual response. JANE (cont): Otherwise, I ask women in the population to explain the turnons, anatomy & stimulation technique involved in achieving orgasm. Most women cannot answer this in itself is evidence of women’s much lower responsiveness compared with men. How about you? What research do you use? Evie: So true! I have someone I can recommend. JANE: What do they say? Sexual pleasure can mean many things. Usually for women in involves emotional sensations while for men it focuses on erotic stimuli. I like to be explicit about what we are talking about. I talk about orgasm, which is a response of the brain to erotic stimuli. Evie: I have been a sexologist for twenty years but not much involvement in research of my own. She was trying to spread the message that the reason women have low sexual desire is because they receive the wrong type of stimuli. Focusing on penetration is not the most arousing stimulation for women. If women could get what works better for them, they would also desire sex more. JANE: Sorry but I disagree. If women were aroused, they would know what anatomy to stimulate. They would not wait for a lover to supply it. This is evidence that the clitoris does not respond with a lover. Otherwise, couples would have discovered it, rather than a scientist. In general female arousal is subconscious. JANE (cont): Most women are unresponsive. This is why the research relating to the clitoris has been ignored. Most women prefer lovemaking because they can be sexually passive and focus on upper body kissing and caressing. Most women have little interest in genital stimulation. They assume orgasm occurs simply because they have sex. Evie : But I agree. Thats exactly what I was trying to convey. The male penetrative imperative doesnt work for women which probably explains low desire levels. JANE: Kinsey & Hite concluded that most women engage in sex for emotional (rather than erotic) reasons. Assuming that orgasm is occurring for these women when it is not, is highly misleading. Women look for a loving relationship with a supportive partner rather than for sex per se. Evie : Right! So keep communicating the right messages! JANE: I’m not sure that you are though. If you mix aspirations for orgasm with lovemaking, you are not helping anyone. My work is explicit about orgasm and sexual pleasure. For most women the two do not equate. They enjoy lovemaking for the emotional rewards. The reason that women do not orgasm is because they are not mentally aroused. JANE (cont): The only means of accessing female arousal is by the use of fantasy during masturbation alone. But most women are disgusted by the eroticism that causes sexual arousal. The only money to be made is by promoting sex because of men’s sex drive and need for sexual release through intercourse. It’s not their fault. It is the biological precedent. Evie : I see your point. You are clear! Fantastic job! Congratulations! Dedicated to womens enjoyment of sexual pleasure