Changez: I can testify that when or if I get married I would like an intellectually stimulating relationship, but also one in which my wife enjoys sex with me and will continue to do so for life. Changez(cont): I think that intellectual stimulation is a necessary part of any relationship and that the mental connection between people is as important for getting the right sexual responses from a woman as just knowing where her spots are. Samiam: Yall missing something here. For a woman, sex is in the mind. Its simple enough to figure out. Theres nothing in that concept that indicates a woman is inhibited. Basically: Women need a reason; men just need a place. Frank: Bullshit. Men just need a place? How vague, insulting and positively primitive. Im not one for political correctness, but broad generalisations do little more than create festering wounds that no one appreciates, and a few honestly hate. JANE: Some men do place an emotional significance on their sexual relationship with a loving partner. Other men are less discerning. Not everyone is the same. But it is certainly true that men want sex for erotic reasons. JANE (cont): Women are typically looking for relationship rewards or money! A woman can be promiscuous if she enjoys the ego trip. This is more down to personality and personal values than to sex drive per se. No doubt they have something to prove but its certainly not about enjoying orgasm. JANE (cont): My focus is not on judging peoples sexual decisions but on differentiating between the motivation that men and women have to engage on a sexual relationship. These are likely to be different because women find arousal and orgasm much more difficult to achieve (especially with a partner). Changez: I have never made use of a prostitute. But lately I find my desire for plain outright sex decreasing a bit since its less fun now than it used to be. The thrill is a little less than it used to be. I seem to look forward more to intimacy than to sex; not to say it isnt fun, but its a lot of work, when sometimes Changez (cont): I just want to relax, if you get my meaning. Not that Im really looking for a longterm relationship but something fun and intimate with someone I can trust. I also disagree that men just need a place, coz I had a couple and It was just a chore after a bit. JANE: My observation is that men can be truly devoted to the women they love! Men though seem to need to express their love for a woman through sex and women find this difficult to relate to because we dont have the same need. JANE (cont): A woman can sometimes feel that a man loves sex more than he loves her. A woman does need a man for protection and support to have a family. But a man relies on a woman for affection because men do not get the same rewards from same sex friendships and from caring for their children. JANE (cont): Its a real positive that men slow down a bit as they grow older (post 35) older men stand to make much better lovers! Women too come to appreciate their sexuality more as they age and the clitoris is less sensitive which makes it easier for a lover to pleasure. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism