Sharon: I think sex is a subject that does need to be talked about more. The lack of communication and the shame that comes with talking about sex is such a problem. JANE: I am curious about this feeling of shame, having never felt it myself. I have spent years asking women about orgasm and most of them refuse to comment. It is all bravado. That is my main message. Women need to have more confidence in their own experiences and not believe the hype. Sharon: Shame is when a person sees themselves as being no good or doing things that are sinful. Masturbation is something that is wrong. I talk to a lot of women friends who are in a relationship with their husbands. The sex is when the man wants it. Sharon (cont): Women have no interest or low interest because they don’t enjoy it. Their needs are not being met, partly because the man thinks its finished once he has climaxed, but partly because women dont say what they want because they are too embarrassed. Sharon: Women lack confidence due to their own body image. They are not relaxed enough to have an orgasm. Women take a lot longer to reach orgasm than a man. Women get turned on by the buildup, (if they are confident enough) by being teased, talking dirty and roleplaying. For women, the excitement happens in the mind before any physical stimulation. Sharon (cont): As regards to myself, I was in a relationship with my husband for years that was emotionally and psychological abusive so I was never relaxed. He never made me feel attractive. I never had an orgasm with him. Since I left him, I worked on my confidence and met some nice men who were attentive. I began to like sex and had a couple of orgasms. Sharon (cont): One time I even experienced a squirting orgasm with one man. As far as my sexuality was concerned, I knew I liked women but never had the courage until my late forties to meet a woman. We have now been together for nearly four years and we have an amazing relationship and amazing sex and often have orgasms and we have both experienced squirting orgasms lots of times. JANE: You need to be able to explain scientifically terms like squirting, talking dirty, excitement happens in the mind etc. You dont demonstrate an understanding of sexual response and the role that eroticism plays in mental arousal. Female orgasm is associated with women’s masturbatory activities not sex with a lover. Tribbing and cunnilingus do not cause orgasm. The stimulation is not nearly specific enough. Celebrating our ability to enjoy eroticism